Would you date a guy who was a social outcast?

[Dog19]

Guys let's say your in school and you see a guy crying in the corner. He says he's alone and everyone ignores him. People at school act like he's invisible, people talk about him like he's a old friend and at home even his family ignores him. He likes writing poems and playing the piano. He tells you, my dad tells me to never cry but I bear a great sadness, one that just won't fade away. I saw him crying one day and calling out my name but I didn't understand why because I was standing right in front of him. I'll never understand why people treat me the way they do. You later go to school and one of the teachers say he used to be a old student of hers and he was really sweet. You hear one of the girls say, I miss him so much. Would you still hang out with him or would you avoid him?

I'd keep hanging out with him/ be his friend.

I'd avoid him at all costs. He's a freak

I'd date him and be his best friend

I'd find him creepy

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Hmmmm...

[ak666]

I used to have sympathy for these types in school, whether they were bully victims or whatever, so I think my young self would have been quick to approach him and ask him what's wrong, but in a masculine kind of way that's mixes a tone of a little bit of concern with a little bit indifference, all while encouraging him to kind of toughen up and stop embarrassing himself.

It's mainly because I was kind of similar in terms of emotional state and sharing some traumatic experiences, but had a bit more of a manly upbringing to help me not just break down and cry in front of everyone and embarrass myself like this (though I did find myself reaching that point when I started getting into relationships with girls).

That said, I think I'd at most only try to be a secret friend of his, sticking up for him when needed, because here is when my not so noble side kicks in. Let's face it, these guys kinda suck.

They're socially-awkward misfits, and they rarely get better because they don't have any kind of masculine qualities or interests to really kind of blend in properly with this guy playing piano and writing poems. I was socially awkward too but at least I recognized the things I was doing wrong. They're too gentle and soft and never seek to get any tougher. They don't realize they're doing it all wrong. I tried to teach these types before and the information kind of went over their heads.

[Dog19]

So you'd be ashamed to be seen with him? :/

[ak666]

Yeah, a little bit. I was still somewhat superficial. It wasn't just ashamed to be with these types -- they can be genuine party poopers where you can invite them to a social event, vouch for him with your friends, only to find he's awkward and sitting in a corner and then wants to leave. Then I'd have to help him home and also kind of leave early.

[Dog19]

His parents looks at photos of him and cry, when you talk to him people look at you like your crazy and asks who are you talking too?

You wake up one night and you see him sleeping on your floor.

He tells you he forgot what physical pain felt like.

Would you still hang around him or avoid him?

[ak666]

Oh, he is a ghost? I thought you were just explaining a real person in a very odd way.

[ak666]

I might check myself into the mental hospital at that point.

[Dog19]

Yeah, he's a ghost but he doesn't want to accept the fact he's dead. And he's angry about the way he was killed. He follows you around because only a few people can see him. I was just seeing what people would do if they could see ghosts and what they would do if they experienced something like this.

[ak666]

It's a screenplay? I think it will work much better on film. I think with writing, it's kind of hard to leave odd clues here and there that he might be a ghost without making the reader wonder what's up. The clues end up being emphasized instead of kind of subtly being left in the background.

[Miezko]

I've never been bullied or anything, I've just always liked going against the norm. If everyone else goes right I'm going left.

[Dog19]

@Miezko I like you now.

[Miezko]

You mean you didn't before huh!

[chc0009]

Unfortunately, I was one of those social outcasts and none of the women wanted to date me. They'd shoo me away and call me names and things like that.

Well, obviously, nobody cares about an Asian American outcast anyways, now do they? No, they don't, they'd probably have more sympathy for me if I was white.

[VomitV]

White outcasts often get ignored or abused the same as Asian ones. Hence why they shoot up their schools.

[WillowTree]

I wouldn't simply date him because I pity his situation. Rather I'd probably pay attention to him. People like that notice with others are nice to them. Simple things like say Hi or occasionally ask him how he's doing. Listen to some of his music from time to time. I don't have to be his best buddy or nothing but a little kindness can go a long way and it means more to some people than you can comprehend. You might stop them from hurting themselves with a simple kind gesture and never even know it.

I once read a story in a magazine back in the 90s about an older kid who saw a younger kid struggling to carry a lot of stuff on the street one day. He decided to help him. They walked home together and talked and he ended up inviting him to hang out later. A year later, the younger kid admitted he was planning to kill himself the day they met and he was carrying the stuff he'd cleaned out of his locker to take home. The only thing that stopped him was the older kid being nice to him. You never know.

[SilentShadow]

Yes. Why not? I'm a social outcast. I get lonely as f*ck sometimes. So long as he isn't constantly crying and complaining, I'd totally be his friend or maybe more. The social outcasts are the people I want to be around. The problem is, even THEY reject me. :P

[reixun]

I wouldn't date a melodramatic crybaby, the softly calling your name is creepy. Is he a fucking ghost or something?

[Dog19]

Sort of...

[reixun]

😂 Let me guess, you're writing a book?

[Dog19]

Screenplay

[reixun]

Awesome ✊

[Dog19]

You like the idea?

[reixun]

I wouldn't read it, I'd prefer him to be mischievious and funny.

[ADFSDF1996]

I would be his friend because I also tend to not follow certain societal norms.

[Dtegesd123]

There is a reason why he has no friends. If I found out my SO had no friends, that's almost as bad as if all her friends were druggies

[Dog19]

That's dumb for you to say.

[VomitV]

No. His histrionics make him sound like a retarded emo manchild, and I wouldn't associate with him.

[alor1an]

i'll stay. no one should be alone.

[Dog19]

Youe sweet, all the other guys are so mean.

[alor1an]

thanks. i am an outcast. me and society do not get along. i prefer it that way because i think society is nuts.

[MakeShiftThug]

I usually make friends with people that are ignored and who are socially outcast for no reason. And not necessarily on purpose.

[Dred1614]

I have enough melodrama with my female friends. No way.

[StefvhenGAG]

There's no reason that you can't be friends.

[Miezko]

I hope so, otherwise I'm screwed.

[Miezko]

I'm a social outcast, but I'm not nor have I've ever been ashamed of it. Shoot, I'm proud of it. For the life of me I'll never understand why people want to fit in, I want to stand out.

[sixnineanon]

I'd be his friend because I'm a social outcast too

[anonman32]

lol me too.

[sixnineanon]

@anonman32 pals 👥

[Anonymous]

i got a thing for outcast

[Dog19]

If you discovered he was actually dead would you still hang out with him

[jesusnicolas768]

Uh sure