Why do you think black women are the most undesirable race of women?

Question

I'm curious to know, as a respectable black girl myself

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

So a couple things.

- I'm not gonna just deny your claim because you've probably seen stats around dating and so on. But they need to be unpacked a little bit.

- I've seen good us data sets suggesting black women and Asian males received lower ratings on average on American dating sites. HOWEVER
- the impact of race was actually quite small compared to a lot of other factors. Being 'good looking' is way more important. White women might get contacted 50% more than black women on average. But good looking women get contacted literally 500% to 1000% more than average ones. Your own characteristics matter much more. Similarly for men, being handsome, good job, tall are much more significant
- the data on race I've never seen crossed with any other factors. And they ARE linked. Maybe 6' Asian guys are just as popular as 6' white guys. We -know- that in the US a higher proportion of black women than white or Asian women are overweight. We know that overweight women are less popular in dating sites. I'd love to see data on popularity by race adjusted for weight.

My guess is that maybe 1/3 or people aren't open to interracial dating. The rest are. If you're a black woman, I think you're probably about as desired as any other women of similar weight/characteristics among those who are open to interracial dating.

On top of that, I personally feel there's an additional barrier in that the 'assertiveness' level of male approach that's considered normal is different in North America, on average, between Asians whites and blacks. None are better or worse, just different. Black guys project a little more swagger and obviousness than white guys with Asian guys being the most subtle, and similarly, he Asian guys would take the most subtle 'no' as definitive. I think this is why black guys do well at interracial dating (in spite of the act that when asked women -say- they are the least interested in them) - they just go for it more. And white guys do well with Asian girls but find picking up black women hard, while Asian guys are too subtle with both.

Anyway as a woman you can solve that problem yourself by being aware of more subtle flirting and recognizing you need to give more clear flirting back, as opposed to just laughing in a way you may think means 'keep trying'.

HikerDude · Accepted Answer

I think it's because black women are so combative, and because black women have the most exclusionary preferences of all. Most black women laugh at the idea of dating a white man, or an Asian, or a Mexican, or... anyone who's not a black man. Hell, even among black men they seem to be pretty picky.

So y'all need to broaden your horizons if your want to date men of other races. But I get the feeling that black women ask these questions more for validation than out of actual interest in dating guys of other races. Y'all want to be wanted by other races of men, but you don't actually want to date them.

JoahZ10nT · Accepted Answer

I remember seeing this video. We're they ask a little girl what doll they want. One was white, other one was brown and one was black. Most girls went for the white, then the brown And the last was black.
And they ask them why? And they said white is pretty and black is ugly.
This was the video I watch in school and it's sad

Mayamoon02 · Accepted Answer

Its madness. Black women are incredibly pretty and age beautifully. Just a couple girls I had screenshot from instagram

cross98 · Accepted Answer

i think the fact that people automatically target blacks for studies like this is crazy but yeah, i guess because it's a "statistic" so it must be true, right? :/

Anonymous · Answer

I come from eastern Europe (tall people, white skin and blond-ish hair all around).
One winter it was freezing cold, i got out of the supermarket and crossed the street to go home. I noticed this black girl, i looked at her a bit as I was heading her way and approaching... The first things noticed: the darkest black skin, but green eyes and great face features. Plus she seemed really athletic. I had to look again. We made eye contact for a while, stupid of me I did not started talking to her.

Went to France. Stayed at this rather small hotel close to the riviera. the cleaning lady was in fact a french black girl. Again, darkest skin ever and that wiry black hair. Bumped into each other several times while I stayed there, but I don't speak french. I did get a vibe she might like me though, something in the way she was looking at me. One day she entered my apartment to take the towels, though I was still there. Being a good host, I offered her some chocolates I had around (purchased from town). She had this great smile.
Her face features were a bit rougher than the first girl I told you about, but still she had something.
I definitely wouldn't have minded a one night stand with her. Imagine France, great small and cozy hotel, single in an apartment, attractive black girl my age.

There are two black sisters using the metro and I constantly see them around. Again, two fine girls my age.
So I personally liked 4 out of 4 black women I bumped into so far.
That is 100%.
Now if we compare the number of white women my age I bump into daily with the ones that I actually find attractive enough to (at least) have sex with, then the percent would be at around 10%.

It depends on the overall appearance, fitness, attitude, behavior in society... Don't imagine that guys will only pick black girls because there are no white women left for them.

Chico_brah · Answer

I think I read a study that was conducted over a string of American Universities and it said that blacks the the least sexually attractive alongside next to indians. There are some hot black girls out there though. I Personally find Asians the most unattractive.

AhGojira · Answer

Black girls on youtube... Food for thought... ...

Anonymous · Answer

I actually used to prefer them when I was in middle school and the first half of high school. None of them paid me any mind, so I had to get over that really quickly. (Oh, I'm white by the way). They've dropped down the list because of it.
Now if I did find that needle in a haystack, I'd have to worry if I was just the settled choice of their circumstance or that they are going to just preach at me for being white.

As for society in general, probably the stereotype. I don't disagree with them for disliking certain behaviors, but would they make exceptions for the many that aren't that? Standard of beauty probably plays a part.
It gets a bit muddled when you look at just black guys. I don't quite understand that one.

abc3643 · Answer

I don't think that is so. Undesirability is a function of the people doing the desiring. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder which is somthing to which this heinously ugly woman can attest...

tyber1 · Answer

From personal experience, more likely to be loud, aggressive (not in a good way), poorly educated, out of shape and financially unstable. I live in the tri-city area of New York, and most black women I meet are either from those cities or they travelled up from New York City. So perhaps I have seen worse than average examples of black women, but I can only tell you what I've experienced.

Anonymous · Answer

Because of the way they're represented in the media, hollywood and pop culture. Black women are thought of as masculine, aggressive, unfaithful etc. Lots of negative stereotypes.

It's the same way I am stereotyped, I'm Asian. If girls are asked if they like "asian guys", what naturally comes to their head is what they've seen in movies and hollywood, they think "asian = short, geeky, not masculine, kung fu masters"

Thanks to new social media platforms, things are changing. With unbiased platforms like youtube, people can show that everyone is different and not a walking stereotype. Plenty of attractive and popular Asian men and black women on there.

Ripper_E · Answer

I don't know where you're getting this info from but I LOVE black girls. They aren't necessarily my preference, but I am very attracted to black girls. Almost all the girls I'm attracted to or have been attracted you are black. Again, it's not because they are my preference, because I'm attracted to all kinds of girls, but most of them happen to be black.

yellowgirl00d · Answer

Black girls are insanely pretty. Gabby Douglas, Simone biles, Simone Manuel, many other athletes, Kerry Washington, Halle berry, Rihanna, etc.

Anonymous · Answer

The way they carry themselves

For me they are always loud and aggressive.

They dont havw any feminine traits or not enough.
I like girls to be kind nice and giving. And supportive.
All the ones I've come around aren't that.
Well all the American ones.

So im not attracted to them at all. Like not even a little. I dont hate them but i will never date one.

Also im gonna leave the lightskinned black gir debate for another time

CrazyCatPerson · Answer

Black women are not undesirable. The same thing is said about Indian women and I don't believe it for a second cause different people are attracted to different races. And I can say I have seen plenty of good looking black women.

Anonymous · Answer

Because of the stereotypes, also because of the media and tvs shows that they play roles in. For black women they are thought as 10 babies on the hip, living off of welfare, no baby dad in the picture or if there is a baby dad he's locked up in jail. Loud, obnoxious, constantly fighting, in your face etc. I know these stereotypes don't portray hardly any back women, but I feel like this is some of the reasons why.

Jeeevan · Answer

Black women can be really hot but the media likes to portray things in the way in which they see right.

ParamountArmada · Answer

they tend to be more physically unattractive. but dont get me wrong, I've seen many beautiful black girls.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think thats true I've seen plenty of Black girls with White guys in my country so...
Plus I think it's more muslim girls who are the least desirable honestly. I never see someone else than a muslim with them...

Saoirse_Nua · Answer

I don't know if that is true across the board - Lots of guys find black women very attractive as much as any other race.

Yanoa_Yanza · Answer

Why do you think that I think that black women are the most undesirable? :o

Kylesar · Answer

I don't think they're the most undesirable I just think that media and YouTube portrays them in one of the worst possible lights, and that keeps some people away I'm not one of these people

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's due to all the racism against the blacks.

Prettyapathetic · Answer

I don't know. I just accept that I may be more undesirable because I'm black.

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