I really cry of confusion because not only most white people hate us, but black men too (most). They'll stereotype all women for being "ghetto" or "crazy" we aren't crazy, we love so hard and only want whomever we go with to ourselves. That sound selfish but I'm tired of getting stereotyped for cheating. I'm not a cheater like your ex. I seen on twitter this black guy praising his Latina girlfriend (which is okay) but in the same sentence degrading black women especially dark skin women, women of color, and women with Afros. That's not okay. Then the rapper "Ugly God" and other black males are degrading us too. It's a shame how we can't all get along.
Well the thing about stereotypes I will always argue is that they have all come to be due to actual real life examples of that behaviour actually being real. It would make no sense otherwise. So whether or not you agree with the stereotype for yourself - you have to agree that if people see something enough times it will obviously become seen as normal.
On your end, if you don't think you act like that then good for you. But take care not to make yourself a martyr to the idea at the same time. Blaming others for seeing things a certain way and worrying about it too much is pretty key in becoming miserable. It will just make you think "everyone thinks this there's no point being different".
That attitude is false. Always be the best you that you can be and become the change in the world you would like to see.
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I rather ask a real question instead of those dating and sexual questions, so I just made a question that came to my head and something that I saw. For your information sweetie
And good for doing so. Heaven knows this place needs more intelligible questions.
Just make sure you don't take offense where it is not given. People commenting on a generalised stereotype isn't reflective of you as an individual. Even if you share some of the attributes associated with it such as gender and skin colour. Anyone who is at all worth listening to will be able to respect you as a human being in your own right.
I don't listen to stereotypes. I also have the privilege of growing up in a suburb, where a lot of black people criticized me for not being black enough. The best thing you can do is be unapologetically yourself. People say a lot of horrible things, but if you put your energy into being the person you are or want to be, what they say doesn't matter. Pretend you're a princess, and they're just your peasants. Everyone being against black women is just a matter of perception. If that's really you in that picture, you're gorgeous. Don't listen to what ignorant peasants have to say about you. You know who you are.
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I love this comment. Thank you and yes that's me in my profile picture
Black women are gorgeous, iv'e only know a very small number personally as friends and i found them very attractive, intelligent, clued in, very funny, witty, and not afraid to speak their minds. Women are women, doesn't matter colour, race, whatever, the same wonderful human beings with the capability of enriching any man's life, if he has the sense to let them.
My ex-girlfriend is black (I'm white with blonde hair) and she is absolutely beautiful and i loved everything about her. I always tried to get her to wear her hair nautural. I think when a girl wears her hair in afro puffs it is both cutest and sexiest thing ever.
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I absolutely agree. Thanks for loving her. She deserves to be loved 🙂
You are a beautiful young woman and I am sorry that you are feeling such animosity. And if you feel that you don't have any real friends right now as you had stated, use your time for introspection and goals. Work like Rhianna until your detractors want to know if you are hiring.
Well, yes, it is extremely selfish to want someone all to yourself instead of respecting the time he spends at work, with his friends and family. That insecure, needy behavior is NOT attractive in any way! Also, if you are aggressive, dominating, have poor hygiene, terrible manners (treating others, including strangers, like shit, eatting with your mouth open, embarrassing yourself and him by picking fights with other people), not respecting him or his opinions, are over-weight, have multiple babies by all different fathers and expect him to take care of not only yourself but your children as well, aren't educated, don't have a job (to show responsibility for yourself instead of blaming others for your failures), are racist and insulting towards women of other races or who just may beore attractive than you? If you want to attract a GOOD man, not some loser thug, then you have to be the best of yourself. Black men choose women of other races for all the reasons I just listed. But, you want to know the quickest way to meet someone you're interested in? Get busy. Get busy with school, work, hobbies, anything and in doing so, you begin to forget how much you want a man and THEN you become attractive to one. No one, not man or woman, wants to be with someone who is needly, insecure and demanding. All of which you seem. Good luck, sweetheart. And please, DO NOT SETTLE FOR SOME LOSER, DISEASE RIDDEN THUG WITH NO JOB, A BUNCH OF BABY MAMAS AND A CRIMINAL RECORD!!! IDC how lonely. you are, don't go for some pos, who WILL just end up hurting you, for a month or two of affection.
Nono people are people. White women cheat just as much as black women. Latinas are fucking crazy and don't think they are innocent when it comes to cheating. Women are women, men are men. Cheating and ghetto comes from your upbringing not your race.
Black women are gorgeous. There's ugly in every race. Funny story, I banged the shit out of a Latina in her apartment. Her man was on a trip and her baby was in the other room.
@dannymexico90 You have a lot of nerve for trying to insult someones appearence, considering you're just some fat mexican spick. Changing your avatar, won't change your shit appearence. Now fuck off Jorge and go mow some lawns now that you can, before ICE gets you.
I don't think it's necessarily a color issue but an attitude problem. It is a stereotype thing though. A lot of it has to do with the way they were raised. But if you look at most women, they are all a little crazy no matter what color they are.
I have been with two black girls (I'm white by the way) and neither one of them acted ghetto. I think a lot of it all so has to do with the way their treated.
And that makes you different from the others. There is all ways going to be racism and hate towards others and it's not always about skin color. Unfortunately we live in a society where there is too much hate and I don't think it will ever end. I'm sorry you have to deal with that stuff. It's not fair.
It's the games that a lot of black women play and the insanity that follows. It's a touchy subject for sure. The ghetto, or bitchiness, lack of class...
all add to it. Not every one is that like though, but it is a sterotype for what seems like majority
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Well I disagree because I'm not like them "ghetto" "lack of class" black girls
Hey, you can disagree all you like. but the fact that you skipped over the 'most' part lets me know you are psychotic, ghetto and a dramawhore. You're turning anything said into a personal attack. peace out homeslice.
Most of Europeoids don't hate Negroids, be they males or females.
Overwhelming majority of Europeoids, however, either openly or secretly want to live separately from them, preferably each in their own country, or if they happen to be historically tied (such as Negroids being shipped to US after being previously bought from African tribes), then at least in separate communities. Pretty much that's it.
Why would they want to live in separate communities if they don't hate them then? Are they not normal people just like you? What's the whole deal with the separation? You lot pretend too much like "no hating", but can't even be able to hide the racism inside you! Smh.
Not everyone thinks that way. Of my co-workers, the black ladies are actually my favorites. I respect them more for being blunt and honest with me, as it helps me to do my job better. All the white ladies are always so PC and fake nice.
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I wish I was friends with you. I really don't like mess and I love shopping. I'm in school to be a pharmacist 😊
LMAO, the irony here. You wanna talk stereotypes? Lots of people assume that I'm a lesbian, because I only wear men's clothing, I don't like shopping, I don't wear makeup. But I'm into men. And, I'm a clutterbug, truth be told :-P
But pharmacy, that's awesome. Much respect, for all the maths, sciences, and latin required. You must be really smart and/or very driven.
If it's necessary to use a bonnet for your hair, then it's simple logic to assume that the black girls living in mansions wear them too. That's how I see it.
Mostly due to stereotypes wich are in most cases true honestly I've dated over 13 black/mixed women though and all we're cool down to earth and easy to get along with so its sad that the ghetto ones give the keepers a bad name
For one, I don't hate black people or any people in general. Like, where does it get you to anyway, you know! Also, them people that u speak of probably want to get on the good side of certain sponsors or something which is why they talk about people in that manner, however, I could be totally wrong ofc.
People are stupid sometimes and like to stick labels on everyone and everything. I have never hated black women, nor have I held any particular negative beliefs about black women.
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Thank you and people are stupid. I actually love everyone except the mean hateful and ignorant people
I don't blame him, Latinas are gorgeous. Most of them have a body, pretty faces, can cook, just the right type of personality, and beautiful skin tones etc. Anyways, I don't think you should be getting upset just because people of your own background don't like you-they're not obligated to like you.
If I were you I would be mad at the black women who have created this stereotype which is pretty dominant to be honest. And everyone hates it. It is only natural.
Are you kidding? I feel they are the most talented race on this planet. I find them warm, funny, passionate, grounded and better at everything than anybody else around them
I really wish the world takes you guys more seriously. While on one hand I see your achievements in the field of sports, music, literature, etc, I think it is the political failure that the world judges you on. A continent predominantly black should be much more than what it is.
Well if people hate, they obviously have a problem. But they are not obliged to love either. Stereotypes exists for a reason. Meaning there might be a little bit of truth in there. It would be stupid, however, to a assume every member of a race is exactly how their race is seen.
I'll be honest, I live a top ten largest populous city in US and its not uncommon for me to go an entire day seeing even one black woman.
So I think it's fair to say that I "learn" about black women mostly through online and TV media. From what I see, it's seems that there had been a huge push to promote black men and given roles where they can be seen in a better and better light over the years.
At the same time, I have not seen this for black women. If anything, it's the ones that create the stereotypes you talk about
it's so strange, people would degrade black women to seem hip. Like it's the trendy thing to do. I don't know what we did to make people mad, but we seem to be paying it it tenfold.
look I hate it just as much hell I have been wanting to get with a beautiful edony like yourself but all this shit and I can't even get a hey back It sucks
You can't be getting salty over not everyone being attracted to you. Not everyone will be attracted to you, it doesn't work that way. So just because someone is not attracted to you, that does not mean they "hate" you. Stop victimizing yourself.
It’s not about her being salty because some men are not attracted to her. It’s about how those same men, especially black men, degrade and put down black women unnecessarily and meanly for no good reason even though black women really don’t do much to hurt anybody. This degradation and semi-hatred of black women seems to be common these days.
you're welcome. it is really how I feel. i have minimum tolerance for people that say things and then they crack it as a joke. I have worked with many many people of color and I heard some rough jokes. I thought it was over the line but hey when I said something they looked at me and said the same thing it was a joke.. I was well one thing what would you think if that was your mother, sister, daughter. bingo I got the reaction I wanted :)
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