Your son asks you for a Barbie. Do you buy him a Barbie?

[autoreply]

No!

Yes

[Anonymous]

Interesting question. No I wouldn’t.
I know when I was pretty young, I would want to play games with my sister. She had a large amount of barbies, and I was at an age where barbies were interesting same as any other figurine I could do make believe games with. Granted, I gravitated more towards the dude barbies (Ken?) and the cars but barbies nonetheless.

Fast forward a couple years, I went away from barbies and into action figures. I developed my taste towards legos, hot wheels, the green army men, superhero stuff, etc.. I think the earliest was Tonka Trucks— back when they were metal. If my parents got me any barbies, they’d have totally gone to waste after my tastes changed. Heck, I still find hot wheels (or cars in general) and legos cool, even if I don’t play with them. They hold a sentimental value.

So I wouldn’t get him barbies. I’d get him an action figure, or some other figurine. Why? Chances are his taste will change same as mine (or at least in a similar direction). He’ll be happier in the few years later then because he’ll have more toys that he’ll be willing to play with. Short term dissappointment perhaps, but long term happiness. Who is to say he’d even be unhappy with an action figure?

It’s not a guarantee he’ll follow the same route of interests I did, but it’s likely, whether by society or just me showing him my interests. I remember how cool I thought it was when I’d get passed down hot wheels from my dad or old legos.

[OlderAndWiser]

Boys need to learn to be men. His life will be much more simple, much easier if he grows up with heterosexual male interests.

[cuttl]

Barbie's a 3D pinup. That's pretty het male, isn't it?

[OlderAndWiser]

@cuttl When someone asks about buying a Barbie for your son, the assumption is that they are talking about a doll. If my assumption is wrong, @Asker can correct me.

[autoreply]

I do mean the doll. You are right. I, also, want my boy to be a man. Thus, I'd never buy him a barbie.

[lumos]

What if he wants the barbie because he wants to see her plastic boobs or whatever? Wow, how gay.

[Red88xxx]

@OlderAndWiser I understand your point but what if it was just a brief amount of time he wanted to play with one?

[Miyumi]

I find it fascinating how the majority of guys say: "No!". And the majority of girls say: "Yes". The gender stereotype in this question is real. Would you buy your daughter a mini car if she asked for it?

If I ever have kids.. they can have whatever they want. Son wants a barbie, my lil' pony, doll house, cooking set... sure why not? If he can let his creativity out by playing with these items why not. Same as if he asked for a videogame, car, lego w. e. The opposite would also be true for a girl.. if she asks for cars etc.

Why not? It's about them playing and letting their imagination run wild. It's not about wheter the current community finds cars or dolls toys for boys or girls.

When I was young I had more fun playing with mounted warhorses, building cities, playing civilization, racing around with cars then that I had fun playing with barbie dolls.

As for the close-minded people here: it doesn't mean that your child become gay 'cause it playes with toys that are considerd 'for the opposite sex'. But that's a whole different discussion.

Point is:
Yes, as long as he has fun playing with (what's considered) girl toys I'd buy it for him any day, just as I would for a daughter.

[SuperMan89s]

Go ahead and report me ! thats all you can do.

[Miyumi]

@SuperMan89s how is it child abuse? I fail to see how my opinion can make one so salty. It's merely my point of view. If you see things different that's fine.

[SuperMan89s]

If he wants to be gay as an adult then there is no problem ( cause he will be fully responsible for that decision )
but treating him in a weird way during his innocent childhood? Thats abuse.
you dont have the right to fill his head with this PC crap, especially when he is incapable of making his own decision.

[Miyumi]

@SuperMan89s What makes you assume he is going to be gay in the first place? It's not treating him in a weird way at all. The question is: "Your son asks you for a Barbie. Do you buy him a Barbie?". Nothing more nothing less. He ASKS for it himself. Meaning I don't fill his head with anything. He feels the need to have a Barbie. I never said he wouldn't have cars or anything of that sort.

I think you simply assume that he only will have 'girl toys'. While that is totally incorrect if you read my post carefully. I think you're stuck in a narrow minded way of thinking. Which is fine, but don't call me a dumb bitch if you clearly can't even read other people's opinions and think for a moment why they think a certain way.

[SuperMan89s]

I just said he is incapable of making a normal decisions cause HE IS A CHILD !!!
its your responsibility to teach him and care for his mentally and physical safety.
let me asks you this, if he said he wants to jump from the roof top, would you accept it?
And dont tell me I'm closed minded where you are clearly a horrible person !!!
My advice is don't have babies ! you would be a horrible mother.

[Miyumi]

@SuperMan89s See it however you want. This is my view and I stand behind it. If you're going to throw a tantrum and use insulting arguments in order to support your view you're going down the wrong road. I hereby will stop replying to you since you're not willing to respect other's opinions.

[SuperMan89s]

Why did you deleted my comment ! lol weak bitch

[Anonymous]

Playing with a humanoid figure in creative games, as girls do with dolls, is an excellent way to work out conundrums in interpersonal relationships, and as children mature and their ability to engage in cooperative play increases, sharing such a game is excellent for developing good communication skills and cooperative strategies. I can't think why I wouldn't want my son to learn those things. Learning how to groom and care for a doll is a way to help children learn about how to care for other people, and eventually, their own children.

What it doesn't do is make a boy queer or a sissy or make his penis drop off. It 2017 folks. Why do people STILL have a hang-up about this?

[lumos]

Funny how a lot of the guys are saying "NO!" pfft. These are probably the same guys crying about male gender roles and how men are so oppressed and discriminated against... y'all are the ones upholding these mindsets in the first place.
It's just a toy. I wouldn't want to deprive any of my children to express themselves and their creativity through playing with toys. My brother and I grew up sharing our toys. I'd play with his cars sometimes, and he'd play with my dolls or stuffed animals. Both of us turned out just fine and neither of us *GASP* "became" gay.

[blondfrog]

That's what marketing propaganda does to people. More importantly kids don't understand sexuality which is what these people saying no (mostly guys) are implying. I grew playing with some female dolls and stuffed animals as well and turned out completely fine. This is one of the few times I am ashamed of my own gender. Heck I even wore girl dresses when I Was a little boy and I am 100% completely straight.

[lumos]

@blondfrog right. And even if you had grown up and realized you were gay, so freaking what? Homophobes everywhere.

[blondfrog]

Yeah most people don't care if other people's kids are gay, but when its their own kids they become uncomfortable with it. I could care less if my son or daughter was gay.

[lumos]

@blondfrog I'm very glad to hear that!

[madhatters4]

no simply but not because he's a boy. i have a daughter and son and i don't intend on buying barbie's for either as i think it conveys a really unhealthy message rgardin body image.

i would buy my son dolls or toys that may be traditionally consider "girl" toys if he wants them. but not barbies because i don't really support the message i think it sends about what is attractive

[pinkglory]

Even if I'm a heterosexual/straight male, my answer is an astounding YES! I still prefer having a daughter over a son, but I also give it to a son if he wants one. I'm all about getting rid of the sexism of the colors blue and pink nowadays. My Class Color back in High-School (Loma Linda Academy Class of 2022) was Pink as well, and there were also more guys in the batch than girls, so I took advantage and embraced the color pink. I first got very enthusiastic about it during Sophomore Year. You know, I used to HATE and BE AGAINST the color pink before then, thinking I would get bullied and made fun of for liking such a color, and being called "GAY," even if I'm heterosexual myself. But in Sophomore Year, I said to myself, "SCREW ALL SEXIST STEREOTYPES ABOUT HOW PINK IS EVEN FOR GIRLS, EVEN STRAIGHT GUYS LIKE ME CAN LIKE PINK AS WELL!" So my obsession started to grow, and I now see pink as the SEXIEST COLOR IN THE WORLD, and I REALLY want to abolish the SEXISM surrounding the colors blue and pink, and I want to make pink unisex again! Also, SCREW ALL GENDER MARKETING WITH CALLING THEM BOY TOYS AND GIRL TOYS! IT'S A NEW ERA, GET WITH IT AND STOP BEING SEXIST! I HAVE A DREAM THAT PINK IS GOING TO OFFICIALLY BE A UNISEX COLOR ALONG WITH BLUE, AND THAT THERE WILL BE GENDER EQUALITY REGARDLESS OF ANYONE'S PERSONAL TASTE, NO MATTER WHAT GENDER THEY ARE! MORE MEN ARE LIKING PINK NOWADAYS, BUT I'M NOW TAKING ALL THOSE THINGS TO ANOTHER LEVEL BY LETTING EVEN THE HETEROSEXUALS LIKE WHATEVER THEY WANT, EVEN IF THAT THING IS TARGETED TOWARDS THE OPPOSITE GENDER, AND WHAT'S ALL THE HARM WITH THAT? LIKING PINK AND GIRLY THINGS DOESN'T EVEN CHANGE THE FACT THAT YOU'RE STILL A MAN, AND YOUR GENDER WILL NEVER CHANGE. SAME GOES FOR YOUR SEXUALITY IF BEING STRAIGHT. NOT EVEN THE GIRLIEST STUFF I LIKE WILL MAKE ME GAY! I'M STILL STRAIGHT AND A MALE! I SAW THE BARBIE MOVIE AND WAS ENTHUSIASTIC ABOUT IT AFTER PINK WAS MY CLASS' COLOR BACK IN HIGH-SCHOOL! I ALSO PLAY AS PRINCESS PEACH IN THE MARIO GAMES AND AM PROUD OF IT AS WELL!

[PrincessPie]

Yes, assuming he's a little boy right?
Not going to say no to him just because of what society will think or assume. I might say to him "that is for little girls" and see how he reacts but if it was something he wanted for birthday or Christmas then i don't see the big deal, it doesn't mean he's going to be gay when he's older, he's a child for christ sake lol.
I'd also buy my little girl a action man or play toy set or something if she wanted it. I'm not going to say no to my children for things which in reality really don't matter, not like they're asking for a gun or something harmful.

[PrincessPie]

*play tool set

[Mekara]

Sure, why not. I worked in Toys R Us two years ago and a little boy and his mom came in and bought Disney princesses dolls. His mom told me he loved watching the movies. I asked him which one was his favorite and he said Belle. It was too cute!! <3 <3

I hated Barbie and Polly dolls growing up. I use to cut their hair and strap them to fireworks when I was younger. My mom got the hint that I hated dolls lol. I use to steal my cousin's hot wheels and remote control cars. If my son wants a damn doll for Christmas, he's gonna get a doll.

[sawno]

Of course, i am up for raising my child ACTUALLY gender neutral.
So not the horror kind where my child turns out just like a girl that has been haunting society, but the kind where i will not tell them no no that's for girls when he is interested in something. So if he wants a barbie, he gets a barie instead of that new car playset. If he wants a car playset, he gets a car playset. Whatever peaks his interests.

[PrincessPie]

Exactly!

[Anonymous]

No, no, no, no. Never would I ever buy my son a Barbie. I’d get him toy guns and fire trucks and baseballs. An action figure is the closest thing to a Barbie that he’d get. I hope that if I ever do have a son, he never asks for a Barbie, or god forbid princess dresses.

[SuperMan89s]

Respect !

[Opinion Owner]

@SuperMan89s You ought to see the boys on the cheer team at my school... One of them dresses like a girl but is very clearly a boy.

[SuperMan89s]

Its called child abuse ! they are brainwashing them sexually and messing with their innocence.

[SwoopingHawk]

Nope. I buy him a Batman or a BB gun. It's okay for girls to hunt and boys to like sparkles, but buying a boy a fashion toy is a bridge too far, I don't want to encourage that. TBH unless my wife wants to my daughter wouldn't be getting a Barbie either tho. I don't think they're bad, I just think they're weird and a bit uncreative as far as toys go.

[JSmuve]

I buy him a barbie dressed in camo riding a monster truck into battle with flames flying out the back blasting Abba because I like to keep my kid confused as fuck.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

strap a firework jetpack to her back also! MURRRRRIIIIICCCCCCCAAAAAAA!!! :D

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

yeah... i would prefer him not to, but i'd probably try to wean it away from him. but it's not hurting anyone and if it makes him happy, so be it. plus, i'd rather him doing that and teach him to stick up for himself and believe in himself and be confident than doing things that destroy his confidence cause "i don't think it's right".

[ayylamo]

How could I have a son if I can't get laid? Checkmate, atheists.

But the question is hypothetical... so no I would not buy my nonexistent son a barbie. I won't stop him from having one if he wants to trade toys with his girlie friends, beg his mother, or use his allowance, but I refuse to be the one directly purchasing him dolls.

[Anonymous]

Well I mean, little girls play with Ken dolls. I don't think it's the gender of the doll that's an issue. Get him one Barbie and say something like "Look! Now G. I Joe has a girlfriend!" TBH most of my dolls were male dolls, only because I always played with the other little boys over girls at school, and I was fascinated by them. I'm 17 now, and as straight as a board. Guys are an incredible gift from God 😍😂

[19magic]

Tbh no I wouldn't, I don't care too much if he ends up playing with more girly toys but at the same time I wouldn't encourage it

[goddess87]

Most kids want something one minute and not the next. So.. I would get the something similar to a barbie like an action figure and if they still repeatedly for weeks asked for a barbie then I might get them a doll.

[Justacatlady]

Its just a toy. Reverse the situation. Your little girl asks for a Hulk action figure, do you buy it? Yes.

[Nandor]

Not the same thing... A girl can wear guys clothing but a guy can't wear a skirt

[Justacatlady]

@Nandor Why not? A guy is physically capable of wearing a skirt. It is your preconceived notion that makes it wrong in your eyes. He isn't wrong in any way for wearing it

[Nandor]

You can't pull it off with out getting those wtf are you wearing eyes

[Justacatlady]

@Nandor Only because you have been told to think that a man in a skirt is wrong. Its just an article of clothing.
The fact that you would care about other people staring and giving you "wtf eyes" is sad. A person should be able to wear and play with what ever they want. No matter the color, style or "gender"

[Nandor]

Think what you want I dont care in my and many other peoples eyes its wrong. And people wonder why they get bullied. Why can't I go to school naked after all I was born like that. I dont like how clothes feel like when it touches my skin.

[Justacatlady]

@Nandor Yes, your opinion is your own. You don't have to change it.
If you truly had a sensory problem and clothing bothered you, you would have to get help. Unfortunately nudity isn't a gender thing but more a legal thing and you would get put on a sex offender list if you run around in your birthday suit

[Nandor]

Well some people can go around showing off

[MarkRet]

I only had daughters, and the funny thing is, neither of them cared that much about Barbie anyway. If I had a son, and he asked for one, I'd think it's kinda weird, but I'd be ok with getting him one.

[UnimportantPerson]

Of course I would! It's a toy, and he's a kid. Why is playing with non-superhero dolls considered only alright for females? I don't believe we should be forcing children into social constructs at such a young age, or at all. If he wants a barbie doll then he can have one!

[karahiri]

sure. i had tons of barbies. and i took great pleasure in decapitating all of them. i would hope my son would follow in my footsteps.

[Tony_1693]

That's a sin.

[karahiri]

@Tony_1693 They were all whores. God appreciates my sacrifice.

[Tony_1693]

Lmao you sound Muslim right about now

[karahiri]

@Tony_1693 damnit. i was aiming for like... super crazy Christian a la Carrie's mom.

[sawno]

OH SHIT, now i understand your desire need to become a doctor. *Runs before his legs get cut off!*

[Tony_1693]

Lmfao.. when you're finally a doctor.. I'm going to be your first patient. We can talk about our gag adventures and my Adderall addiction.

[karahiri]

@sawno lmao. too late. you've bled out!

[sawno]

*Crawls with his last breath*

[karahiri]

@Tony_1693 my first patient... what a risk-taker lol

[damnwinter]

Yeah... I won't be thrilled, but I will get him that Barbie! If he's my child I love him and respect his choices (the ones he can make as a child, at least).

[Máiiréad]

My brother played barbies with me. :p
Yes I would buy the barbie.

[philipph]

😁 lol

[blondfrog]

Yeah, its just a toy. If I said no that means I have been brainwashed by corporate marketing propaganda. Playing with the opposite gender toys doesn't make somebody gay. Considering kids don't even understand sexuality at that age anyways.