How to not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace?

[LittleSally]

[Wonderer89]

I think as I’ve gotten older I’ve just become more adept at removing myself from situations or people that bring constant negativity into my life. Of course we all go through bad situations and circumstances beyond our control, but there seem to be people who are always bringing those around them down. I used to feel like I should be the one to help them, either to build them better situations or push them to be better people but it’s just not my responsibility and I have better things to do with my time.
Their behaviour only affects those in proximity, so I step out of it

[Fitness-Fanatic]

I look on their behavior as a reflection of who they are as a person , so I try not to take their behavior too personal. Because however they behave towards me, it's about them and their struggles , not about me. I just cut all means of contact if they are toxic people.

[findingdreamland-1]

At work , there are so many people like that and there is no way to escape because I have to work with them. So when they irritates me I literally do not care. I keep going. I go the way I want. If they do not like their problem.

[Mexicoman101]

Most people are stupid, their opinions shouldn't matter. For someones opinion to matter they need to demonstrate that giving them credibility has utility for your life in a substantive way. You will never please everyone, & sometimes being right means going against everyone in the room because the truth isn't formed democratically. I mean shit dude, look at what music people are buying.

[LittleSally]

*More than opinions, I am talking about behaviours that bring negativity and bad feelings to you as a receiver of them - how do you ignore it and just walk away? Basically - how to be completely Zen in your life so as not to let others bring stress upon you?

[Mexicoman101]

You just need to recognize them for what they are. Sometimes a person sending negative vibes is clearly going through something & I can feel bad for them but still not want to heed their tone. Other times they're just mentally disturbed & you know they're not someone you want to use for social let alone mood cues. You also just have a different life than them, maybe things are going really well for you but not for them, & it makes no sense to allow their predicament to just become yours.

Misery loves company, that's the way people are. You gotta hold most off at arms length.

[jdrrichmond]

It takes practice. When I am in a good place emotionally, I have a pause button. I have a few seconds to think before I react. That gives me time to examine the situation and decide whether I should react or not. When I'm not in a good place, I react reflexively. That almost never turns out well when I feel attacked.

[jdrrichmond]

I should say, when I'm in a good place, I can respond rather than react.

[lernulo]

Autoknowledge, if you know who you are, and what you want, when they say something about you, you are able to see if its true or not, and not give other people the possibility of saying who you are.

The other part is the shadow in the men

[5ara8ear]

Don't dwell on what others do, focus on what you can do for others and treat others kindly instead.

[linds34]

I try to avoid negative people and people who take a lot of my energy.

[victor247]

Just stay focus, determine and be yourself. There is an adage in my language that says "When you go to the market, do not listen to the noise of crowds in the market, but concentrate on what you want to buy "

[Mhmd3esam]

A lot of people care much about what other people say, and as a result they lack to find inner peace if their actions contradict those of other people. They have set the standards of people around them as a reference to what is right and wrong rather than following their own standards.
A rational person will find inner peace if his actions agree with the standards he/she set, nevertheless of what other people think.

[mikeandy]

What work with me is just avoiding people who might have negative influence

[Somoneelse]

I'm not fully sure. I'm trying to find this out myself as well. As far as I know, trying to remove yourself from negative people, negative situations or negative energy helps already a lot.

[9teen]

You stop caring. There is no rational reason to care for anyone anyway.

[TsubasaCorrupted]

Letting other people's negative behavior affect you, is akin to drinking spiritual poison. Don't drink it.

[SpunkNugget]

That quote is so inspiring, keep posting more please.

[TheDreamRunner]

Act like you're already full of yourself and don't give a damn

[Archangelo]

With expectations comes heartbreak. No expectations nothing to be upset about. Fimple!

[valualty]

Knowing how mind games work is one strategy

[AbdKilani]

Live and let live

[pizzalovershouse]

i guess you mean the zen moment

[trick1988]

when you find out tell me.

[Ajinkya93]

Drink alcohol once in a week, that works for me.

[bongger]

Such an easy question, you buy weed and smoke it.

[TheDarkOne_21]

Three eye meditation

[frankcan]

Breath!!! Send everything to shit and relax

[divyadekate]

It'll destroy you only if you take it.

[My1stOfwb]

True that.

[vjshubham25]

Consider them as dogs

[Paris13]

I don't. xx

[Eskandra]

Been confident

[Laggy]

Kill them.

[Ajay367]

Hi sally ji