Do children these days get too many awards, trophies and celebrations?

[Cammy137]

In our societies, do you find that everything children do is basically treated as a success? For example: participation trophies.
Do you think there are too many trophies and awards being given to children and what effect will this have on their future?

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Yes, everything is treated as worthy of celebration but we should keep it that way!

Yes, everything is treated as worthy of celebration and that needs to change!

I don't think much has changed over the last decade!

I don't think that children are over-rewarded!

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[Ellie-V]

Those happen in the elementary stages of life like with the petty science fairs, when everyone kind of sucked 😂 I have never seen that happen anywhere else outside of elementary school. So I would have to say no, I don’t think that children get too many awards. There are certain schools that have annual award ceremonies for K-8th. But I don’t see the harm in it if they deserved the reward. Like it shouldn’t be a bad thing to show gratitude for good behavior/grades. It only encourages them to want to be better. And it brings out a little competitive spirit. So no, I also do not believe it has negative effect for them in the future. But I also believe that it doesn’t hold much weight in a positive way either because the kids grow up and they stop caring about the paper certificates and trophies, because then the reward and prize becomes College. And it’s up to the individual to decide if they want to go to college or live another kind of life.

[PinkMichae]

We are to afraid to hurt their feelings
So instead we make them feel as they have succeeded even if they didn't. Hard times help us grow and better ourselves.

[000_000]

A child with a 0.3 gpa will be allowed to walk during his 8th grade graduation without being held back. They don’t have to retake the year if the parents don’t want them to. There’s something really fucked up about that

[MeatPuppet]

Yes. It produces a generation of narcissistic, greedy, backstabbing sycophants and classcucks. It needs to change. We need a generation of self-reliant, hard working, cooperative and socially minded people.

[ak667]

I hate participation trophies because they've incorporated them here in Japan along with a lot of American styles of thinking towards education, like telling kids they can achieve anything they set their mind towards, giving bonus points for effort, etc. And I've seen the effect that can have in breeding very entitled children ill-prepared for harsh realities when their wildly ambitious and unrealistic dreams come crumbling down. It's not a pretty picture.

I don't understand this coddling and enabling style of taking care of children. They need to learn that they need to be good at something to succeed, and if they can't handle losing in a competition, we should be working on teaching them how to lose like a good sport and then, if they want to win, train and overcome their weaknesses or find something else they excel at.

It's as though we are trying to raise kids to be the types who quit their jobs to show up on American Idol, only to end up being completely tone deaf, then cry and get angry and argue with the judges when the judges tell them they can't sing, ultimately to tell them that they're completely wrong because the people around them always tried to encourage them by saying they're so great and telling them they can accomplish whatever dream they want.

[ak667]

I've also seen this contrast in my formative years, as I spent my childhood in Shizuoka during a time without participation trophies where the teachers encouraged us to work hard and actually become really good at something with no bonus points for effort absent results. And as far as I could tell that bred hard-working kids with realistic ambitions, still ambitious but towards things they were actually excellent at doing.

Meanwhile when I went to the US, I saw what is now being applied in Japan with the kind of coddling and participation trophy and "hurray for effort and dreams, even if the results are mediocre" kind of mindset, and mostly I saw a bunch of those types grow up to become miserable adults who had to learn the hard way that the real world out there doesn't work this way. The real world doesn't hand trophies for participation. It doesn't give jobs and promotions to those who put in effort absent results.

[sadismyname]

Sorry for the language but human child is the same as puppies. If the child did something good gets reward , otherwise will watch others get treats. That's how you teach them what's good and bad. And if the government makes a good teaching plan, it could help a lot. It's like doing a surgery on someone and correct the bad habits they learned from their family and society (like throwing trash on the grand not respecting the rules and stuff like that) . It could spoil the child if you just keep giving them rewards but over all no it's a good strategy if you use it well.

[BExNeko]

As someone who got treated that way, I can definitely say it's not a good thing. It didn't boost my self confidence at all, instead the trophies lost value to me.

A lot of kids nowaydays, however, do think they are badasses due to this, and as a consequence, are very bratty and rude.

A lot of other kids don't have a lot of patience due to this form of instant gratification.

It would be better if we treat them as worthy or praise them IF they do something that actually deserves it.

When you have an aunt like me who (even to this day) praises you EVERY. SINGLE. TIME (for example:) for having nice clothes on you or looking nice (while i didn't look or was dressed other than normal... AND I'M 20 YEARS OLD DAMMIT XD it's normal to have decent clothes on you at that age) it will not only be very annoying, but also demotivating.

[Anonymous]

Probably but I also think there's a social hierarchy to getting awards espicially in schools. Like at the graduation of my school the kids of parents who sat on the PTA board were the ones getting the awards. An extreme example of this was the daughter of a wealthy woman with a well known name and a big hot businessman got the award for science even though she sat the exam twice and only managed to get a B+ while my cousin got an A+ and a NASA scholarship to an American college at age 15, when he graduattes he will litterally be a rocket scientist. It's the same for the sports teams, the best player often doesn't play or make the team.

[BipBipLeddus]

There's "participation trophies" for everything.

Real winners get real trophies and they know it. Once a kid understands this, everything else is meaningless.

The only problem is when people don't expose children to the fact that in this world there are winners and there are losers.

This leads to complacency with sub par effort. They turn into the guys and gals happy with a dead end minimum wage job.

[ItzYaboi]

I thought of the same way towards graduating from middle school and elementary school and even high school. I don't see them as big deals but to parents and everyone else it's overpumped up (I couldn't find the word here). Like c'mon everyone can pass middle and elemtary school

[alex_4rex]

I've chosen other because i think that a bit more balance and making getting to the reward harder. But yet, there are many things that should get celebrated a lot. The base of everything, when you just started something and sorta get into it, many rewards and positive results will give you motivation to continue when it gets harder. You have to make the rewards a bit harder to get then so they don't get spoiled and lazy

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

When I was growing up you get a certificate of participation if you got your butt kicked.

I can't stand this whiny society now, where everyone wants to be a winner, but don't the pain, sacrifice and hard work that goes into it.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

*want

[NightOwl399]

Yes! I have a niece that always throws a fit if she doesn't win. So her parents just lie to her by telling her she won. It's so unsettling because they're just giving her a false sense of accomplishment which will definitely affect her later on in life.

[blubblubblub]

From one side it may give them self esteem and hence resilience and belief in themselves. But on the other it may be over protecting them and making them thinking they're entitled to a crap load they really aren't entitled to.

[Anonymous]

don't overdo it.

sometimes, it is good to reward because it uplifts the person and makes the person want to be better.

however, if u keep doing so, that person might become complacent and think that whatever he does will still be rewarded.

you need to have a balance of reward and sometimes punishment for not doing well 🤷‍♀️

[DoctorWize]

With all of the bad in this world I am hearing and seeing lately, I rarely hear about any good. This includes awards. I hope President Trump gets the Noble Prize, I'm waiting patiently for this.

[JustMyTake]

Shouldn't he make piece with North Korea first though?

[JustMyTake]

*peace. Meeting is a great step if something comes out of it. If not... The DPRK gets what they want and the US gets nothing

[Kai02]

I don't know i mean i dont know a single person who took a participation trophy as a sign of success. Everyone i knew as a little kid just took them as a sign of losing

[Iamagoodguy]

Yes they need to change it because when you don’t win you should see only the winners get something so you try harder to get it or don’t moan when you don’t get one

[JellyDonutguy96]

yeah

everyone thinks

that because the retarded kids can't keep up everyone has to get a trophy enough is enough, The Strong survive and the weak suffer let's go back to that

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Earlier they have been drilled by their parents and teachers to be respectful and learn that you need to work hard to achieve something, nowadays they are spoiled brats

[Mexicoman101]

I would take away my childrens participation trophy if they got it, lol.

[AuronII]

I think society in general are finding too many ways to celebrate mediocrity not just with children.

[BronzedAdonis]

Yes, everything is treated as worthy of celebration and that needs to change!

[xxxx9i]

No its always been like this. Its good to encourage the next generation.