In both cases, the issue lies in the point where it inhibits your ability to live normally.
Someone who’s insecure about their appearance may develop unhealthy practices in attempt to slim down or bulk up. Someone who’s clinically anxious may experience difficulty in basic conversation or skills needed to maintain a job.
Likewise, being excessively narcissistic can hinder someone’s ability to function. I know someone who loves herself and believes in herself so much, she doesn’t accept the notion of subjective thought. Anything she thinks or feels is objective truth to her. This makes it very difficult for her to establish meaningful relationships.
Loving yourself is fantastic, but being full of yourself easily blinds you to reality, and damages your ability to interact with other people just as much as insecurity does.
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Loving yourself isn't the same as being a narcissist. That's just called good-self esteem. It's only a problem when you begin to think of yourself as superior to everyone else, only think of yourself in every situation, and are generally a very conceited person.
There's a HUGE gap between loving yourself and demanding respect and being a narcissist. A narcissist is someone who is unable or unwilling to perceive anything in any way except for how it helps or hurts them. Absolutely everything becomes all about them and their opinions. They don't consider other people unless they think they can gain some personal advantage in doing so.
Because narcissists are over confident, selfish and infatuated with themselves. It makes them extremely shallow and two dimensional people. They are also extremely insecure and lash out at any perceived threat to their ego. Generally just dicks. Nothing to be proud of
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Having positive regard for yourself is fine. Actual narcissism is a different thing entirely. Perhaps you should look up the symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder.
There’s a difference between loving yourself and being a narcissist. Loving yourself is important, and having confidence in yourself is important. But you can love yourself and still love other people and show compassion and care for most other individuals. Narcissists can’t. They don’t give a flying fuck about other people because they’re self-centered assholes who are too busy caring about nothing but themselves.
Also, no one ever said it’s no problem to live your life hating yourself, that’s also a psychological issue.Narcissists can't love anybody but them selfs. They use people and gain happiness from hurting them.
Being vain is believing that you are better than everybody else. Your shit still stinks the same. You don't become a better person by thinking you look good. You become a better person by realising you are no better than anyone and treat others with the same love and respect you would like yourself.
Selfish people are why the world is fucked up. Everyone out for them selfs and won't do a god damn thing to fix anything.the problem with being a narcissist is that its only OK if you're an island. its not as glorified as the mean teen movies make it out to be. in real life no one likes narcissists, no one is their friend. sure, people pretend to be nice when they're around and turn on them when they leave. this only works for psychopaths who have no real emotions, but if you a person, it will weigh on you. sooner or later, you will wonder. "why don't people like me?" that will be the beginning of a dark and lonely journey in the world
A lot has changed since I started transitioning. Estrogen should really not be underestimated. I will never be a middle aged beauty queen but I've had more of a tendency to pay attention to what I wear and makeup, and I really like shopping. Part of it seems natural. But I don't pretend to be irresistible or anything. I just want to be presentable. If a girl wants to look nice then that's okay.
A narcissist uses people, thinks they can do no wrong, and thinks everything is about them. You can love yourself and be confident without being a narcissist. Those aren't mutually exclusive.
Being a narcissist is the same as being self loathing neither are particularly fun to be around and both are psychological issues at both ends. Both are pretty self centered and can be quite volatile. The difference being that one blames themselves for being bad where as the other won't accept any responsibility for the negativity they bring.
As for being vain. Well looks fade over time. It's like being proud of something that slips through your fingers untill it's gone. Sure you may have looks now but you have less of them as time goes by.Not true. A narcissist is someone who lacks empathy and believes that they are worth more than anyone else. A narcissist is made by traumas and their ego grows by letting other people down, attention and for cheecy comments about looks. They manipulate people to gain something and without caring about the person they are hurting. They also see themself as perfect and they can never be wrong according to them which is why they blame other people for their own mistakes.
Narcissists exhibit the following personality traits:
1. Needs constant praise and admiration. 2. Always having a sense of entitlement.
3. Exploits others without guilt or shame. 4. Frequently demeans, intimidates, bullies,
or belittles others.
5. Everything is constantly about them (as in selfish).No offense, but this makes you sound like a total bitch. I don't know if you actually are one or not, but this makes you sound like one. You don't use apostrophes when they're needed, you think you're better than everyone else, and you act like all/most plus-sized people hate themselves.
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~ Mrs MansonI don't actually see anything wrong with it to some degree, I can be a bit vain myself at times but I think it just shows you don't need anyone elses aprovel to make feel good and it's okay to like yourself. The only thing is some become ignorant and have big egos and think their better than others, are more important and have the right to put people down which I don't like.
It's anti social behavior and it's not about loving yourself.
What you seem to be talking about is being conceited, shallow, and likely materialistic. Nothing inherently wrong with being those things, but don't be surprised when no one likes you..Hmm... I'm a sociopath. Not quite the same thing. Wish I was a psychopath. I could beat my brother then. God, that guy is manipulative. He's determined to drive wedges in between everyone in our family. He's done it. Multiple times. Crazy psycho.
Because society profits off your self-loathing. The makeup industry or those “get thin quick” pills for example. Then again, being a narcissist isn’t great either. It makes you into a toxic, self-absorbed person with no regard for other people. Self-love is a very different thing than narcissism.
being obsessed with your looks is only a small fraction of being a narcissist. they are abusive. ... they are jealous, rude, apathetic. my mom is one and its ruined my life. I've had low self esteem ever since i was aware of my thoughts, my mom is always in a competition with me. its not good. now i see these narcissist traits in me because its all i know. im slowly learning to break them all.
One.. It leads to sociopathic behavior, It causes the person to be manipulative and hurtful to others weather or not they intend to be. It causes the person to have no conscience, or such a diminished one where horrible acts against others for personal gain causes very little if any guilt. Basically people with NPD are all around horrible people.
Being a narcissist is different. My dad will literally yell and throw things, hop out of the car in traffic and bang his head on the wall if you try to bring up his faults. He refuses to hear it. He never interacts with anyone because it’s not what he wants to do. He never keeps a promise if it’s not something about him and expects the world to cater to his whim. This is a narcissist.
Narcissism generally makes you unrightfully into yourself to the point you feel you're superior to others. You lack perspective and can never accept you're wrong and they tend to mistreat others.
You can be attractive without being a narcissist.Being too full of yourself can lead to overconfidence. Overconfidence can harm you and people around you.
Example being narcissistic about your strength then picking up a weight way to heavy for you then dropping it damaging the floor or your foot or a friend.
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Talking up your cooking skills and hosting a dinner party. Then realising you don't have the experience you need to cook the dish properly and serving the party awful food.Do you mean having narcissistic traits? Because everybody has that to one degree or another and yes, we do need it a little.
But having narcissistic personality disorder and actually being narcissistic, being a narcissist. They don’t actually love themselves. The problem with that is they often manipulate, put down others to feel good/lacking empathy, severe mood swings, etc.
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