A man/woman breaks down crying right next to you. What would you do?

[Average_but_not_Joe]

So, I've been having a debate with a friend of mine. She says that if a person breaks down crying, people would help them out regardless of what gender they are. Is she right?

If it was a man, what would you do?

If it was a woman, what would you do?

Give an answer to both scenarios please!

I'd help either of them out

I'd ignore them both

I'd only help one of them (post your answer please!)

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+1 y

Well, so far it looks like half of the guys would help both people, the other half would ignore them.

Then most of the women so far would try to help both of them, and only some would just back away.

[Anonymous]

I was grocery shopping and the clerk that was ringing me up was clearly going through something. She was literally fighting tears. I asked her if things were okay, and she kind of mumbled I'm fine, but she looked like she was struggling so hard, that I offered to give her a hug which she declined. I ended up just telling her that whatever it is, it might not be okay today, but it will be on down the road. She thanked me, and off I went.

Now if it were a guy, I probably would not have offered a hug unless I knew the person, but I would have also definitely tried to see what was up or if I could help. Not everyone in this world has someone they can turn to, and all of us need someone to just give a s--t sometimes even if we don't know them.

[EssieEsmerelda]

I'd ask if they were okay just to feel better about myself. And then I'd probably rub their backs and tell them some weird random stuff until they get up and leave or they stay and feel better. It can really go either way. I'd try to make them laugh or they could cry harder it could go either way

[SirRexington]

I have no idea what I'd do. I'm not good at that shit. I'm a guy who analyzes the situation and asks questions to better understand and hopefully give advice. But I'm not good at comforting and doing the "there there, it'll be okay. Do you want a hug?" type shit cause that's just not me.

And who are these people? If they are strangers I'm likely to stare curiously but I'm unlikely to approach.

[Average_but_not_Joe]

Lol, I completely understand man. I'm not that good at this kinda stuff either.

P. S. These are just random people that happened to be sitting next to you when they broke down crying

[SirRexington]

So like at the bus stop or something?

[Average_but_not_Joe]

Yeah. Or at a Starbucks, at the DMV, at a restaurant, in a college classroom, etc.

[SirRexington]

Id probably hesitate but eventually I'd speak up reluctantly to make sure they were okay.

[OvershareGamer]

How can I help? I'm the one who made them cry. haha, kidding.

I doubt I would do anything because I would assume they want to be left alone... although two years ago I saw a girl crying on a curb and I drove a loop around the block to talk to her and see what it up. She was gone when I got back.

[-Wildfire-_]

I would ask them if they where okay and if they felt like talking about it with me or someone else, would help. of course, it would be very awkward for me since I absolutely suck at comforting people, and honestly I would probably just want to walk away, but I would feel even worse if I just walked away. if this happened it would kinda be my worst nightmare tho, cause I feel like me trying to talk to them would just make things even more worse or uncomfortable for them.

[Davis04]

I’d definitely help both out!! I’d feel heartless if I just ignore them and not do anything.
As humans, we all got something going on in our lives, whether it’s school, work or home life related.
Personally for me, to be able to ask someone how they are ( I bet that would make their day).

[just_a_potato]

If there is anyone just breaking down all of the sudden in a public place it's clear they are in distress and the person that i am, I can't ignore that

[frerardsprincess]

I’d just move away bc I wouldn’t know what to do and I don’t like having people around when I’m upset so I always feel like touching someone or trying to talk to them while they cry is just rude and annoying

[Gothd011]

would try to find a pastor preacher therapist Oprah dr phill someone who a lot more equip...

I would be uncomfortable no matter who 0_0

[Average_but_not_Joe]

Same!

[JimboGB]

😄...

[Anonymous]

I would be very worried for the man and try to talk with him. Depends if it's a normal man or a feminine man though.
I would probably ignore the woman, perhaps only ask what's wrong and tell her to call someone if needed.

[EclipseoftheHeart]

I'd elbow them in the ribs and say "Suck it up and stop whining!" :)

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman. I was a hysterical mess in the middle of my high school once, having a panic attack. No one cared. Not staff, not students.

[Average_but_not_Joe]

After having that experience, would you help out someone who randomly had a panic attack next to you?

[Opinion Owner]

I did it before that experience. Multiple times. Anytime I see someone crying.. I just can't ignore it. I've had people have full on panic attacks just cry on my shoulder

[BeMuse]

It’s none of my business unless I’m close with them.

[sawno]

I'd help out when i either know them or notice nobody is helping them yet. No matter who it is.

[SkipStop]

Move away. I don't want to risk getting into trouble or tricked or pranked.

[cth96190]

Walk away.
My days of being Sir Saveaho are over.
I was fucked over one time too many.

[pleasestopthis]

I generally don't know what to do when people cry. I suppose I would let them be and cry until they feel better.

[MackToday]

I give the their space. Typically it's a crazy person probably because of patient dumping.

[House5plusforth]

They may be mentally unstable and may cry for know reason as there mental issue.

[LuvAsh]

I'd ask what's wrong and see if there's anything I could do to help

[CaptainSmartass]

I would personally leave them alone for a bit. They might need a couple of minutes to themselves.

Simples...

[Anonymous]

wonder why glue doesn't stick to the bottom of the bottle

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[MrB81]

I woulnd't assume they want my help. People cry for many reasons.

[DDpsy]

I would ignore the chick and slap the little pussy around so he can embrace his toxic masculinity.