A lot of men are taught to see women only as an object to please them sexually. That's why you'll see a lot of cruel sour grapes comments when they are rejected, even respectfully, by women. My suggestion to anyone is to stay away from the lowlifes as much as possible and concentrate on the good men, and women, out there.
That's life for ya. We are brought up to think that way. But women judge each other far worse than guys judge us. But no one can judge me worse than I judge myself.
i don't think it's a bad thing. i think everyone does this male or female. your initial thought is they are attractive or not. then you speak and get to know them a little and that rating goes up or down.
can i look at someone and decide based on looks and say never! yes. that doesn't mean i'm a dick to them.
I find that its usually other females that tend to judge other females over appearances. No guy ever has said "one boob is bigger than the other , I can't work with these conditions"
But that also means the average woman look is usually already enough to be approved by men. At least that's the trend I see, men are attracted to womanliness and women are, well, womanly. I think women are in general more judgmental on that area towards each other
So according to men, 1) Because it shows how much a woman takes care of her appearance and puts effort into it, good looks means she ain't lazy and sloppy. Yeah lemme go do some nose pushups, it's because I don't do those daily that my nose is so damn huge and people will definitely comment on how my nose if too big if I do nothing about it! Brb gonna get those skinny nose drops.
2) Because it shows that she's not lazy and sloppy, part 2. That's why my hair was shedding so much. I was just sitting on my ass all day studying. Should have walked around the house rubbing fenugreek seeds on my scalp instead, but no I was lazy. Load of studies is not real load, I didn't even lift a single pound!
3) Because it shows fertility. Should have known why people make a fuss about the face that I'm born with dark skin, because I can't give birth. Dark skin is a clear sign of infertility. Or at least as per established facts, it somehow shows I am poor and don't have enough resources. Only if my dad was rich, all he has is one factory, three cars and some buildings and apartments around the city. I don't get why these same people commenting on how dark I am mocks me for being a rich spoiled brat! I thought I was poor?
4) We're biologically programmed to judge physical appearance of women. I'm biologically programmed to take the food with my hands and eat, what's table manners? I should also be able to not use utensils and aggressively bite out meat from the carcass and not get judged for it then, I'm also an animal you know? But most importantly, we're biologically programmed to sleep in the dark at night, why the fuck are you on your phone looking at the screen at 2am?
5) Because men are visual. Oh what am I then? Color blind? I swear I was wearing a blue and orange skirt on my date with an ex once and after we got back home he commented something about my 'red pants'. Visual, my ass.
Let's get to the real shit then. It's mainly due to the influence of visual and especially digitalized visual media, which has broken up women into individual body parts instead of whole human bodies. We're now seen as features instead of a whole package. Which means even the slightest things that wouldn't otherwise matter now matter to us. All gorgeous women, getting judged for the littlest things like their crooked teeth, flat nose, a but of extra weigh in the stomach, non-perky butt, and what not. Because we are seen as features now the standard is to ensure every feature is good-looking. Unlike women in previous generations who could be attractive even if they had 'flaws'. And no, I don't believe the 'flaws' people craze about these days even mean anything.
Because, whether you want kids or not, we're programmed to find people who are more likely to produce healthy offspring attractive. For men, this evaluation is mostly done through visuals, the key things being symmetry, which is why bigger, ahem, "assets" are favored, it's easier to hide symmetry with smaller bodily features. In addition to that, when women age past 30-35 the health of the offspring begins to have a higher risk of being lower, so men are programmed to find younger women attractive. Also just being healthy and fit also contributes to this.
Similarly women judge men on things they can't always control, what women find attractive varies through their menstrual cycle, when they're ovulating they tend to be more attracted to more "alpha" men, broader shoulder, masculine jaw line, etc. However, when women aren't ovulating they're attracted to men who seem like they can provide, which translates to, women like rich dudes. In a study that has been replicated more times than I can count women rating of men went up by 23% on average when their salary was next to their picture, women also tend to be attracted to slightly older men, not like retired or anything, but maybe slightly graying hair, because as men age, they tend to accumulate more wealth. Anyway I hope that answered your question.
Like it or not, everyone is judged by their appearance. We see that everywhere - in the judicial system, business, politics. Ugly people are judged more harshly than pretty people in court. Good looking people get more promotions and hold higher positions in business. Politicians benefit from good looks.
Maybe is has to do with the fact that good looking people are seen to be more physically and, by inference, mentally fit.
It's true that there is a fuckability quotient that applies more to women than men. That quotient has to do with age and child bearing capability. All men have to be able to do is impregnate, whereas women have a shelf life. But things are changing as many women are capable of looking fantastic well into their 40's, 50's and 60's now days and sex is no longer all about baby making.
The only fuckability quotients for men have to do with wealth and genetics. If a man can't support himself, let alone a family, he is considered to be a loser. Men who are born ugly or with mico dicks won't be judged well.
A lot of women only ever emphasize their own appearance, and then wonder why that is all they're known for. By contrast, I may try to assist someone else from as many dimensions as possible. Yet, some third-party asshole will often try to stop me, making cynical allegations based on race, age, and gender stereotypes.
A dude? Suddenly, I'm only helping XYZ gal to get sex. It can't be because I've literally witnessed her predicament destroy lives dozens of times, and I'm simply trying to put a monkey wrench in life playing the same tragedy on rerun repeat over and over again. Nah, it's gotta be to get sex.
White? I *must* be helping her out "to maintain the patriarchy", whatever the Hell that even means anymore.
I'm in my 30s and she's in her 20s? I get called a pedo. I'm not even exaggerating! I'm invited by the gal to help her out? I should "mind my own business" - never mind that my accuser is the one meddling in something to which she was not invited - AFTER bragging about following me around!
It's like these accusers have only half-functioning brains, if that!
Usually, it will be some late-20s-something woman with a zero-sum social climber mentality, who thinks she has the right to dictate whom I can and can't associate with. This happens a LOT on Instagram.
And I don't care what the accuser looks like. If she starts coming after me with that sanctimonious BS, I redirect her to the nearest dildo shop and tell her: "You know what to do."
They are? :) Both genders are in context. In terms of women its natural selection and dating parameters. Which also gives them disproportionate power in dating.
Women attract mates, men have to go ask girls out. That is dependent on looks/beauty/attractiveness. Women then ALSO accept or reject a guys advances based on his attractiveness.
So the focus is due to the general structure of dating or sexual dynamics. As focus is first on women as they are the ones who would attract suitors focus is on their appearance first. If it was reversed it would've been guys.
That's why media targeted at men has attractive men, media targeted at women also have attractive women. Women want to be desirable.
This focus on looks or judging as you call it is what gives women so much power and influence in dating and sexual dynamics. Women more than welcome to balance the playing field but their is a reason they are not willing to. So if they desire control and power in dating, power and looks go hand in hand.
Men are also judged but its not as open, or we don't see the affect visibly. Attractive people of both gender have many benefits in life, its called Halo effect.
Yes but there are cultures where simply having a beautiful face and body are not enough. People care about her morals, inner beauty, education etc. also. Hope it stays that way as we are not objects. We have feelings. I have observed that in my culture (unlike the west) people can appreciate beauty but the way they treat anyone depends on their inner beauty. Additionally, the parameters on which women are judged are less too (no matter how much the media exaggerates it). After interactions with people from other countries I have realized they analyze people's appearances far too much as the culture is really sexualized. I have heard people from those cultures calling Aishwarya Rai, Deepika Padukone, Katrina Kaif, Priyanka Chopra etc ugly and I'm like they all look 10× better than the ones who criticize them. The same applies to those who have called me ugly (I know it's ONLY because I'm Indian)
I have been to India and you have absolutely no grounds to judge the west. In 2011 30% of the female population is illiterate, it is near 0% in America and Europe. The gender pay gap is significantly lower in the west. There are a lot more female professors in the West than in India. That is inner beauty. I have been to India and though technically women may be allowed to make their own decisions about things like education, the people around me acted like they did not. Perhaps you come from a progressive family, well the rest of the country is still the rest of the country madam.
You can't let few ignorant people judge you, they are just trolls. 2% vs 98%. Priyanka is like 12 year older than forgot his name she's married to sooo...
Female literacy being 65.4% at that time (20 years ago) doesn't mean less inner beauty. There are women that want to study but can't because their parents can't afford it for them. Guys prefer an educated wife. The more highly educated, the better. You can't deny the fact that certain things which constitute inner beauty like virginity, good education etc are not even considered in the west while they are really important here.
What does virginity got to do with inner beauty? Lol Education is also considered very important in the west. Marriages are arranged in India, mommy deciding for men. That's the reason. Its no different in West or any other country in the world.
One Asian men at least in West are no different I seriously doubt it'll be any different in India. It is exactly that mommy deciding. If it were "mere" suggestion things would be a lot different. I see no one calling virgins ugly. We have gender equality, women are liberated themselves completely able to make any sexual choices or choices regarding their partners without any say from mommy or culture.
"And having self-control and being pure for your husband is inner beauty. It is something guys like you can never understand." I guess you are right. How exactly would would being pure have to do with inner beauty. Its simply cultural pressure if women aren't virgins then no one would marry them. Sex is natural, nothing shameful about it. :) Kama sutra came from India, Tantric yoga, temples with erotic sculptures.
Different is gender equality and freedom. In 20 odd years when their is more gender equality in India no one is going to care about "purity" Lol Something as sex would be norm.
I did not want to bring this up, but madam you have forced me to. More than half of all children are sexually abused in India. Indian children of both genders are deprived of their purity and innocence long before marriage, by a culture that values "family harmony" and "respect for elders" over truth and justice. www.med.or.jp/.../302_309.pdf
I have not been abused ever and people don't avoid sex due to society. There are sluts all over the world who do it and then lie to their husbands they are virgins. It is a personal choice but some bad guy would obviously think it's due to social stigma. There are women who don't want to give their virginity away. There are women who value themselves that they don't want to be used then dumped then used and dumped again and again till they become a slut. There are women like me for whom being a slut is not a normal thing. Society can't stop a slut from being a slut. And I know how virgins are stereotyped in your culture and you know it too. You guys see it as a burden? Why? You're delusional if you think all virgins who wait until marriage are doing it due to society or family. It is a personal choice as we both know how easily a slut can lie. We both know it very well!!
How can I be so sure about the ones who conducted the research when I have understood you try your best to make certain ethnicities feel inferior. That is another aspect of racism and I am smart enough to understand that.
And then you western guys complain about feminism. You add fuel to the fire of those feminazis who want to normalize being a slut and it will harm you a lot. When that happens men will also get objectified like women are objectified. Then you guys complain about not being attractive to women.
I hope it doesn't happen here. I certainly don't want hookup culture to be the norm as it creates single moms, high divorce rates etc. Which are already a lot higher in your country.
That’s how it goes. Men are attracted to women by their hips tits ass and beauty. And as such, society judges women based on that.
We do the same to men. Women are attracted to masculine men. Any man who is not masculine enough is a little pussy bitch, or something like that.
Both sexes get judged based on our sexual characteristics and it creates mental illness for both of us. And in both cases I say it is very wrong of us to do and we’re all scumbags for it.
It's not just women. It may seem like women are judged more harshly than men, because of having to worry about looking a certain way or whatever. At the end of the day, just be you. Dress how you want to, what makes you comfortable, and what is your personality. If you worry about what everyone else thinks all the time you'll never be happy. Plus, if you are always trying to keep up with these things and not dress or not act how you want then you are putting up a front, not being honest with others but more importantly not being honest with yourself.
Because women are just on their looks and men are judged on their income. It has to do with evolution Man were supposed to be the providers And hunt, Women were supposed to be attractive breed And gather material that can be eaten and burned This tradition lasted for about 10,000 years some societies this still is the case. In a society where bring home meat is in theIndication of a good provider anymore it’s in cash so that’s why men are judged on their income and women are judged on their looks
It's a patriarchal society where the best looking women are chosen by the most eligible/most powerful men. This dates back to the origins of civilization. Women play their own part in this by pushing makeup on each other at a young age. Yes, makeup is an excellent tool to help give yourself a confidence boost. But the origins of makeup were created so that a woman could try to catch the attention of a man. In lots of cases that is still the case today (think nightclub). Advertisements using beautiful models sporting long luxurious hair, expensive clothing, exotic makeup and diamond necklaces set a standard on what is important. Until fashion becomes less of a priority, this is going to exist in abundance.
Footnote: Men. Yes we are also judged on our looks. But not nearly to the same degree. In middle school you may have been picked on for your size or your interests. However, girls would get picked on for their looks.
Actually, men wore makeup long before women did. It was for the ancient courts, rituals, tribe relates things. Makeup is old though it wasn't exactly what we know it to be today.
@ImagineSketchy My knowledge of it went back to Ming dynasty era and similar cultures. So I stand corrected historically. However, I stand by the general message of my post.
Not only women are judged by their apparance, men also deal with these kind of problems, I mean you can't tell me that every man who spends a lot of time in fitnesscenter does it only because of health reasons... everybody is judged by the way they look, talk, walk etc. In the end it's more important to forget it and to get more confident so that these kind of things don't distrub you anymore.
Everyone is. This isn't unique to women. Even so, merely stating a double standard does nothing. Double standards exist for men and women. Different but equal. It's time people learn that merely stating differences does not make it insightful or useful.
Society is a melting pot of criticism. The standards we are held to make us the poster children for oppression. Societal constructs we have include the obsession for women to look a certain way, or they're not perceived as worthy or sufficient. It's not true, just some stupid illusion that will only ruin lives. It's partially natural, it's something that will always happen and we are biologically wired to do it. Some people are also just superficial and have an overwhelming concern for appearance
Every person is always being judged by their appearance. It is instinctual, a mechanism designed for self preservation. Women, unfortunately however, are judged to a greater degree on their beauty and sexuality than men. Depending on any number of infinite variables that can be beneficial of detremental to the individual woman. Its because we haven't reached the point in our evolution where the genders are truly perceived as equals. If we had, there would be no NBA/WNBA. There would only be the NBA. A double standard still exists. It's why we still don't have light sabers. We're not quite ready for them yet. I feel like we, as a societal whole, are actively and consciously making efforts for positive change in traditional gender roles and equality. Takes time.. I hope my perspective helps.
Because we can't judge them on sandwich-making skills anymore. Ha! ... Sorry. Joking aside, it's because of long-running societal norms wherein a woman is viewed as primarily being valued as a wife and mother. Being attractive is, of course, a very big part of making both of those happen.
Why are women judged on their appearance? Because most men are extremely shallow & like to see the 'perfect form'. We are all different-and the world would be a very boring place if everyone fitted the stereotypical media model of 'acceptability' in both male & female bodies.
People feel comfortable and inspired by those that look nice and take care of themselves and uncomfortable and even disgusted by those who let themselves go to the point of being a health hazard.
because beauty has a big influence on a persons life and girls have been using their beauty to get treated better and when girls expect to be treated good, they will be judged because they aren't pretty or "worthy" enough. People tend to treat attractive girls better but she isn't attractive enough, she gets shamed for expecting equal treatment. Guys are different because men aren't looked at as sex objects and people aren't obsessing over having sex with guys like they do women
What? Men are judged even much fucking harsher. Girls usually look better than guys, some girls are unfortunate in the gene pool but it's not that many. Even so all girls have to do is get make up and not be fucking fat. Guys are so fucking unfortunate. If ur born short or ur face isn't fucking average, that's it. I can workout but that's so much fucking work, like years and some people still look ugly.
It's sexual selection. It's the same reason that men are judged on social status and wealth. It isn't fair, but it is ubiquitous and biologically-based. Besides, women will judge other women for their looks more often than men do.
I don't judge Women / Girls on appearance , you be surprise some of the ones i find attractive while other guys find them different , people will be people it's shame cause there are lot gorgeous Chicks out there if they only knew how guys like me feel?
Ultimately because evolution's development of the sexes has led to physical attraction from men towards women being a key factor in sexual selection. This leads not only to men judging women by their appearance, but women doing it too as adjustment to men's way of thinking helps women survive socially.
To be clear, there are ways women can be seen as attractive besides physical appearance, and there are some equivalent ways men adjust to women's standards and judge each other accordingly.
It's the only thing people CAN judge you on without spending the time to get to know you.
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Its mostly women that judge other women based on appearance... Take you beauty magazines, or your fashion magazines... All created and made by women... Take slut shaming.. Mostly done by other women...
when it comes to reproduction sure women are judged on looks, just like men are judged on the fatness of their wallet... its all in perspective.
Why its sociaty change girls have to be thick in the right places know how to twerk and and face with makeup skills on point... and guys... pretty much the same... little style somewhat dirty maybe beards and tatoos is the look exspeacialy on thick men... mmmm
Simple. We have become so VAIN it's out of control. To me it's disgusting. Billions spent on trying to make themselves look more beautiful. Well friends... the makeup has to come off evenually and the ugliness you hid will be fully visible. If you have to buy $20 worth of makeup for your face, you have a real problem. Shame on you and your friends. If you lose friends over not wearing cosmetics... they were not good friends anyway.
I hate how anyone can be judged on appearance. I understand not being attracted to them, but just not talking to someone because ur not interested in fucking them is so bullshit and it's so common in school in our society
I don't do that but some women do that to me.. People are hung up on appearance. Problem is if you do that you often end up with narcissists. Now I'm far more interested in personality. I just would like someone non abusive and is genuinely interested in me.
Men get judged too, it's just women care more about it because it's the bulk of their value to society. If women developed themselves in other areas they'd be more rounded individuals and would care less because people would see their other values.
@little_bird1 yeah they would actually. Problem is most women use their attractiveness as their core identity from which their insecurities are built off. The best quality women haven't scared off the best men because they have diversified themselves through superior personality relative to most females so their insecurities don't piss off and annoy said men.
It shows how a woman takes care of herself. If she's sloppy and unkempt, who wants to hire her or date her? First impressions mean everything and you never get a second chance to make a first impression.
A woman is only judged based on her appearance as long as she doesn't have a good skill or talent to bring to the table. Once her work start speaking for her, no one cares how she looks.
Woman? Pfff really? You don't think men get judged by their appearance? Men also have lot of pressure to look so and so. So fuck off with this question
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It's your only value to men. So that makes a woman compete with other women. Same way with men 1. Looks 2. Money 3. Cars 4. Status Or the generic answer is you can tell if someone cares or attention-seeking by their outfit. You can tell a geeky girl from a slut from. A tomboy to fitness lady from a health guru chick. Like if guys have dirty shoes you know he doesn't really care about his looks
Everyone is judged by their appearance... the difference is women cares more about because the have to be chosen by. man... ( traditionally speaking) o personally think that if we change the way we think in respect to those kind of things... this would be a better world...
You mean why are humans always judged on their appearance?
Because humans are animals. Animals judge each other on their appearance and sexual energy. Duh. Ask God or evolution or the universe or whatever, not us.
everyone is being judged based on their appearance, cause appearance is the way we choose to present ourselves. you're not invisible. you must be new to this planet.
Oh sweetie!.. It's not a women's fault.. It's men's fault they Happen to have a Dick which only cares about physical beauty and doesn't cares even if the Girls is a psycho Retard..
Men are judged on their appearance as well, just differently. If you want to dress a little better guys will say look at this preppy fag, if you want to dress more casual, then its look at this fucking bum.
It's in our genes to judge others by appearance... The most sexually attractive people are considered prime mating material. Less attractive flips a primal switch that is embedded in our DNA.
Because men are hardwired that way... and this talks and concept is basically known by woman too... thats why boob jobs and butt jobs exist... Sadly we men can't do anything about it.
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