Why wouldn't he dance with me?

[Anonymous]

Okay so I was in a guy dancing with some random guy when I see a boy looking lonely and everyone else is dancing. I ask him if he's OK and he says he's fine. Then I asked him if he wanted to dance and he gave me a stank look then said no. I don't think I'm ugly I'd give myself a 5. What is either because I was grinding on another when I asked him or was it because I'm ugly?

Give your best guess...no one knows for sure, but I'm wondering what you would think.

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It's OK, you can tell me if it's cause I'm ugly. I'm black so that may be why. Some guys just don't find black chicks attractive and that's cool.

[virgin_eyes911]

next time just let him be lonely lol. I mean I don't think its because your black...there's a lot of guys of other races that are attracted to black girls that have sense but I think we come off more itimidating then say a white girl, Asian etc. So don't ever go by color. My boyfriend is white and he says if I never would have come up to him he wouldn't have been dating me at this moment...because he didn't think I was interested in white guys because I'm black. But I mean I fi saw a guy who was grinding with some girl dirty style and then he came up to me I would definitely give him a stinky look...because I would be like uhm wow seriously pretty much just threw up in my mouth watching you do what you did to that man...now your going to come up to me and want to do the same with your sloppy second body...(not refferrng to you just an example.)

[Anonymous]

No offense but he did it because you weren't hot. You may not be ugly but on a scale of 1-10 a 5 isn't very high. I'm not trying to put you down because I'm not winning any beauty contests either, but there are a lot of guys who only want to talk to hot gorgeous girls and not average or OK looking ones. And they are mean to girls that don't fit their standard.

Also why are you saying it's because you're black so you must be ugly? you say that like there are no pretty black girls out there. don't group all black girls together because 1 guy was an ass to you

[Asker]

I didn't say it was because black girls are ugly? I said it might be because he's not attracted to black girls.

[Asker]

I don't understand why his standards would be so high. He was a 5 too.

[Opinion Owner]

even not so attractive guys are like that too. guys can look like "who did it and why" but they still expect a girl to be a dime.

[Asker]

i guess if you say so, but I think it might've had been more due to that I was grinding on another guy while asking him at the same time

[MizzVMN]

Don't listen to this chick, she's dumb.

[Vasillilaw]

Hmmm...I think the boy was stupid. That's my answer. lol. For all you know he could have had some weird social disorder. I used to have a boyfriend that didn't talk to me in school. He seriously acted like I didn't exist. Was it because I'm ugly? No. He's just stupid and should be hit by a car...just saying. lol

[brianmi]

He probably saw you as a social butterfly, who has no problem with dancing. that said, he's a wallflower who has yet to realize it's OK to be happy and have fun in public. lastly, if he saw you dancing, then you caught eyes, then all of a sudden you're asking him to dance, he probably assumed you saw him as a pity case, some charity, and he may have been insulted by this. I use a lot of probablys and if's because I don't know him, you, and I wasn't there, so my answer is truly hypothetical, but it's exactly as I saw it in my head. if I'm way off I wouldn't be shocked haha

[islands7]

He saw you dance and you're better than he.

Next time, leave the ugs out of the guessing and be more helpful to little boys that are afraid of people making fun of them on the dance floor. After a minute of showing him simple steps and praising his minor successes, he'll have fun & appreciate you.

BTW gals will dance with the ugliest guys in the place, just so they can dance; this is true in reverse on those rare nights when there's more guys than gals!

I've been dancing for many years - you gave away the best answer to the wrong answer.

[StupidButCunning]

Well, maybe he felt like you were trying to pit him, maybe he was waiting for someone, maybe he was stood up, maybe he just didn't find you attractive, maybe it was because you were grinding on some other guy, there's a multitude of possibles reasons. The only thing you have to know is that it's likely nothing personal against you. Oh well, you tried, enjoyed the rest of your night and forget he existed. It's best to not touch on subjects like that since with the reaction you said he gave It'd suggest he'd get defensive quickly.

[Marciano1]

no I seen sexy black chicks and I'm not black, I don't know what you look like but the word ugly is not in my dictionary...since you saw him lonely then he must have been really shy and didn't know how to dance (he wouldn't know what to do on the dance floor) so that's what I think. He was just shy.

enjoy...here is how he would have danced :P

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4moPhSeDWFI

[VeritablePlethora]

Not gonna lie, I laughed so hard at that link. Thanks for making my day

[Marciano1]

Its cool man.

[Cizcobv]

If you think you're a 5, then to everyone else you're probably a 2. So, yup, you've answered your question. You're ugly. Think about it. If you were a hot chick grinding on someone, and asked the dude to dance, he would have said yes. It's that simple, really.

[Asker]

i'm definantly not ugly. but he could've thought I was. beauty is in the eye of the beholder

[Reggie1]

A lack of confidence and a feeling of being pitied or pilloried by you may have been his reason for putting up the defences.

Thinking about it, his family could be racist or he could have just been unnerved by your confidence. You weren't drunk were you?

[Asker]

I was tipsy, but not full on drunk,but those are all good reasons.

[Standingpretty]

It might be because he didn't know how to dance himself and he didn't want to become embarrased. He could not be doing it because he doesn't know you. There's many reasons why not, guess you'll never know now though.

[elenagirl42]

Okay so I was in a guy dancing with some random guy when I see a boy looking lonely and everyone else is dancing. I ask him if he's OK and he says he's fine. Then I asked him if he wanted to dance and he gave me a stank look then said no. I don't think I'm ugly I'd give myself a 5. What is either because I was grinding on another when I asked him or was it because I'm

[tohrment]

Maybe he thought you were asking him out of pity? I mena, you asked if he was okay then asked if he wants to dance. Maybe you hurt his pride and he responded a little aggressively/defensively.

[hALLDAY]

He probably didn't know/wasn't good at dancing and didn't want to embarrass/make a fool out of himself. Or he was to nervous to do so.

[MizzVMN]

He probably didn't dance with you, because some people don't dance.

Some people get nervous about being judged when dancing, so they just don't.

[gummybear888]

he could have been nicer about it. giving you a stank look isn't nice of him .

[MariellaRo]

Maybe he just doesn't like dancing ;) Lots of (shy) guys prefer to stand aside and watch.

[aggiipaggii]

I think he was too shy to say yes :S

I bet he felt regret after he answered!

[Shaun]

He sucks at dancing and doesn't want to embarrass himself?

[arashmenalagha]

because he's a f***er...

[lolli]

Maybe he can't dance?

[yewieman]

Well, grinding is a huge turn off imo.

[Anonymous]

he sucks