Why people don't undestand why female victims many times don't come forward?

[SomeBlondeChick]

Many male & female victims don't come forward. I'm going to use the female basis working in women's shelters for five years and hearing stories many times.

1) Stigma.
With the increase of false rape claims (made by drunken cows), as an example, real rape victims will have to face this added drunken-twat stigma on top of many others (she wanted it, she led him on, they knew one another, etc.).

2) Fear.
I've relatives & friends who are in police. One quit when the local city detachment he was with, desperate for bodies to fill the ranks, hired a guy. Why?
Charges were never made so couldn't deny him on that... but everyone knew he was a spousal abuser (cops often called to the house). How do you think his wife felt when he became a cop? He'd be buddy buddies with any of the officers who'd respond to her calls. And, unfortunately, there's police like this all over.

3) Dependence.
Not just financial but psychological. Many abuser victims either came from a similar household as children or have low self esteem/respect. Their abuser plays on this. They make the abused feel as if they are not good enough for others, can't survive without them, etc.

4) Repercussions
Abusers isolate their victims. So there's no family to turn to. I've dealt with women who haven't spoken to their family in years, decades even, because of this. And depending on how far under the abuser's control that lack of contact may be very negative to the point family to be blunt simply don't care (a you made your bed & lie in it mentality, we warned you a hundred times, etc.) anymore.

And then there are repercussions depending on one's culture. Other cultures have different ideology on abuse and how it is treated (or normalized).

[WowwGirl]

Scared of the man and the repercussions of coming forward also financially some are dependent if the guys a spouse

[NetSapien]

I heard about this when I lived in Vegas. This happened while Mayor Oscar Goodman was in office. Now his wife's the Mayor lol.

Judge got canned and the victim was awarded $250,000 if I remember right.

This was just an example of how bad things were in Vegas at the time. I visited back in February to pick up my weapon and some belongings I had left in a storage unit there and it all seems worse.

[Tyrael]

I imagine a lot of the times it's because it isn't caught on camera and there's rarely a witness, making it their word against the accused. Which results in a potentially expensive legal battle with little chance of a positive outcome, so it's easier to just not do it. That's the case with any crime between two individuals though.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Most of us DO understand why females often do not report crimes for which they are the victims.

2. Males are also victims of crimes.

[hellionthesagereborn]

How do we know they don't come forward? We know that abuse claims are made far more frequently by women then men even though statistical data provided by the CDC/NCVS and other studies shows that men are actually more likely to be abused by a spouse then women are: www.newscastmedia.com/domestic-violence.htm
We also know that lesbian couples report the most sexual assaults and domestic violence. This suggests that either women are far more violent and abusive or that they are far more willing to report then men are. In addition, the CDC/NCVS data found that men did not report but women did, thus showing that in reality its men who do not come forward not women.

Then you have the issue of coming forward years later, which is to say that these are highly unlikely to be true. According to several studies, it was found that 40% of sexual assault and rape allegations where FALSE, either patently and provably or admitted to be false by the one who made the claim. They also found that the longer the period of time between the claimed event and when they made the accusation and "came forward", the more likely the claim is false: johndavis.gonevis.com/how-many-rape-accusations-are-false/

So we can say fairly reasonablly that women not only do come forward but come forward even when no incident even occured and its MEN who are don't come forward (as it was found men did not report rapes against them by women (which is statistically identical to male on female rape: www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/2014/09/22/rape-cdc-numbers-misleading-definition-date-forced-sexual-assault-column/16007089/ )

As for this incident, I see nothing wrong beyond denying the request of a female officer and the conduct after. Body searches are very very common, they will run their hand up to your genitals, anywhere where you could be hiding something, by its nature it requires that you touch the person in a way that is inappropriate and by its nature it is uncomfortable.

I don't know the details and they convinently left out any information (selective editing is something the media loves to do). The reasons why they would do this is if she had prior drug convictions, if the husband accused her of having drugs, if she was acting erratic and made them suspicious of her having drugs etc. Women accuse officers of sexual misconduct pretty much all the time because its a sure fire way to get people on her side and hate the officer. I mean even right here we have no idea what happened but you already know he is the bad guy, he is the monster, that a female judge and multiple other officers just stood by and did nothing while a woman was sexually assaulted (something you have never seen in your life and no one else has either because sexual assault and rape is one of the worse things you can do in our society besides harming and doing it to children), and many women in these situations use that knee jerk reaction to their own benefit. Talk to officers and they will tell you this is not abnormal, its the norm to be accused of wrong doing even when their is other people their who can see that it never actually happened.

Now is it entirely possible that this is exactly what it appears to be? Sure, absolutely. Is it likely that the judge, the other officers where all in on it and this officer decided to stop a court preceeding just so he could go through her purse risking his career and his freedom just so he could cop a feel of a random woman? No, no that is highly improbable. In fact I would say so unlikely that its far more likely she is lying then telling the truth. This idea that women NEVER lie is an absurd one, why we presume the guilt of all men and the innocents of all women is insane to me. As for the "internal affairs", they want things to go away so they make them go away and its easier for the state to destroy a persons life then risk being sued and all of them losing their job. I will never understand how people can think a system is so corrupt that police officers just rape and sexually assault women on a whim with a judge on the other side of the door who does nothing BUT would then believe that the entire system is not corrupt and any investigation that results in the guy getting fired is absolutely trust worthy. Either its corrupt and you trust nothing, or you use reason and sound judgment to come to the conclusion i. e. that their was a disturbing lack of information from the other side (they could interview her for a ten second clip, but couldn't get an official statement from him explaining his actions?) and that the cost reward for this action doesn't add up.

[David_Kek]

Why do you feel the need to put the word "female" in the title, and what exactly is it you think people don't understand?

Because in my judgment, anytime I hear people complaining most female victims of X, Y and Z don't come forward, what I actually hear is someone pretending to care about female victims, when in actuality they only care about the political leverage that one can gain from holding up a hypothetical female victim as justification for whatever your cause is. That's not the desire for less female victims, it's the desire for more, being a profitable currency.

Normal people understand fine well that many if not most victims of everything don't come forward, they just don't bother counting them, because you can't count an invisible number, and nor is it their responsibility to look for them.
End of the day if you're an invisible number because you choose to be an invisible number, then it is genuinely your own fault why no one cares. Why on Earth would you help anyone, that doesn't want or even try to help themselves?

[Celtero]

Eh, this case you're showings seems like a false allegation. Unless the "drug search" wasn't supposed to happen, there was no sexual assault. Touching her where he did was likely part of the drug search, as was asking her to lift up her shirt. She seems like a crazy bitch, these sorts of people pass through the legal system all the time and you can tell the staff is used to it.

[jshm2]

The same reason male victims sometimes don't

Schools don't teach the "right" way to make a case and bring it forward. A lot of people fuck up their testimony and cases because they either just dump it on a lawyer, or assume the process works like in the movies.

[Jessie91331]

1. We aren't believed
2. No one really cares
3. Unless it is a little kid, cops just laugh it off
4. Depends on who you are depends on how you are treated. If you are rich, cops and everyone wants to help. If you are poor, working class or homeless, no one cares. Told to just get over it and move on.

[Anonymous]

To preface, that's horrible. But I'm of the impression that "many" (likely most, if not nearly all) female victims are victims to police officers. So this example doesn't illustrate why female victims don't come forward. I'd imagine that in most cases, there isn't much, if any, room for corruption like this.

[John_Doesnt]

America has a cop problem. We need to get rid of qualified immunity so that cops can be held accountable for stuff like that. Also the judge was a woman and she did nothing. Seems like the whole justice department needs to be reformed.

[Anonymous]

Personably, I would not want to come forward. I think I'd try to move on. I don't trust the courts and law with this kind of stuff and it's so emotionally charged that it would be painful to try to get anything or of it.

[blondfrog]

From the body language you can tell the judge knew too by not looking at her. Disgusting they should all go to jail. This is why people want to police everybody and why cameras are a good thing.

[FilmGuy93]

It's something you kind of need to see happen before you really "get" it. I was molested as a child and I can safely say that I never would have guessed the shit storm you catch for not being down with getting molested.

[BubbaTech]

People don't think...

Many people are very private. And don't want their lives out there.

Good or bad. That is how they feel.

[Anonymous]

Why is the female judge ignoring what is going on in front of her?

[ThisAndThat]

What about the male victims that don't won't come forward because they feel they'll be taken lightly or won't be seen as a victim?

[bamesjond0069]

Probably because if someone committed a crime against me id go to the police. I dont understand why would i not? That seems really fucking weird.

[Justme143]

This is heart breaking!! Poor woman and child. All 3 of those court workers where wrong ESPECIALLY the Judge!! LADY where is your compassion and concern couldn't even look at her uggh

[AFellowWeeb]

tell that to all the men that got falsely accused of sexual assault and got locked up

[Kayokenx3]

She sues them, she wins! Simple as that. Abuse of authority must end immediately.

[LazarusTheRisen]

Most victims male or female don't come forward. I don't know why you are indivializing just women.

[Anonymous]

Title is wrong. Video didn't show a sexual assault.
Also it doesn't say why he was fired, only that he was fired. It was her word against his, what takes 6 months to be investigated? It's all very strange.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why people don't understand why male victims many times don't come forward.

[modelUN242]

Embarrassing, shame

[Anonymous]

I would break my fucking fist on that guys face

[ChefPapiChulo]

Fat pigs

[sixtyeightplusone]

he said she said

[Anonymous]

Playing victim convincingly can be very hard.