Do you more often bring out the best in people or the worst in people?

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ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

I believe that like attracts like and how you see yourself shows who you really end up interacting with at the end of the day.

I like to think I am a good person, but more often than not I tend to attract people who only hurt me or offer nothing of value which brings out the worst in me being my cynicism and distrust. I hate typing this because it is not fun to admit, but I am being transparent.

I try to bring out the best in people who probably don't deserve my time and it leaves me drained.

Silas_153 · Accepted Answer

When I'm online I bring out the worst, but in real life I bring out the best.

J2ohhhhh · Answer

Tldr: neither, I always go for truth.

I don't really have any preconception of someone I like. I like to see the people's real selves and decide if I like them or not. It is kinda high risk high reward for them, because if I like them, I truly like them for who they are, but if I don't like them they cannot really say that I didn't see their values or anything it's just simply I don't like them as a person. I think the biggest difference two people can have is the ability to take this risk. And my number one reason not to like someone is the incapability to be rejected in this way. Most people would say that it's not their true selves, they have much more values and stuff, but for me if someone don't have this self-expression, I consider that they've show me that they built their whole selves around not to be rejected lead by simple interests such as being popular, comfortable and have resources. In Buddhism too much self interest is animalistic trait and people who possess those traits are going to reborn in the animal realm. What I'm trying to say that I think I bring out the truth from everyone. Sometimes people try to act tough and I aks them questions and smile and tell them random stuff and it has an effect on them, usually grumpy people are avoided and it really makes them think why I'm having a different approach and they often show a naive curiosity and silliness. I think I'm really good at getting into controversial topics talk about them so indifferently as they were just information and this often makes people comfortable to reveille their dark side.

candycandy02 · Answer

I an a weird and awkward girl. I am not so nice and i am not so rude. When i am quiet, i look like a very cold person. I don't put myself under people and not over people either. I am more on the rude side than nice😅
But i would say i Probably bring the best in people.
I can be caring, loving and more if i want to.
I sometimes give people Good advices, help them out, comfort them. I am like a mother för my friends, cause they all come to me för advices.

I am Good with helping other, but i am bad with telling myself.

One of the worst thing about me is that sometimes i can tell brutally truth. But i read a person first to see if they can handle the truth, so that i dont destroy them or their life.

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

I don't trust that I do either one really. I am capable of helping someone have a really great day or a really bad one, but for me to believe I brought out their best or worst really takes away from their own power and control of themselves. Even if I put people in their position of strength or weakness, ultimately it is up to their own mindsets to shine or fail.

That being said, I would love to be around when they hit their best because I enjoy seeing people happy.

Bluemax · Answer

Would it not be wiser to ask people who know me?

Time and time again, research shows when you ask people if they have a positive trait, they will disproportionately answer "yes."

Are you an above average driver? Most people answer yes.
Are you charismatic? Most people answer yes.
Are you attractive? Most people answer higher than what others rate them.

And so on. We are not at all unbiased observers of ourselves. And research shows we skew towards the positive.

TurboKid · Answer

I make lots of people smile and laugh in person. I consider that the best. I might not be able to fix their life problems for them but I can bring out a laugh or smile here and there. Over text though, I sometimes think I bring out the worst.

exitseven · Answer

I think I tend to bring out the best in people. In the IT department I managed most of my technicians all moved on to bigger and better things, some went to college and got their degrees and some got advanced certifications. I encouraged them to do so and I led by example obtaining a second Masters Degree myself.

mk200195 · Answer

Everyone can bring out the worst in someone if it’s the wrong person. A sensitive person put with someone overly critical.. A talkative person with an introvert. That being said, my parents bring out the worst in me, and I bring out the worst in my mother. I don’t normally bring out the worst in people, unless they are overly critical, don’t respect emotional boundaries and invalidate.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

I try to bring out the best in people but they are certain people that rub me the wrong way ✌️

FoxnEagle · Answer

What would you categorize "torturing them with jokes and making them laugh to cheer them up, but other times making them laugh at inappropriate times which causes problems?"

FreyaRed · Answer

In job I can bring the best performance out of people, but in private I think I bring the worst out of people around me. Lot of people are very negative to others in my presence, I just don't know it's me or they are just that way.

Lliam · Answer

Usually the best. I try. :-)
I make a point of acknowledging people I meet, including strangers, and treating them with courtesy and respect. I try to raise people up.

The only people I may not bring out the best in are those who share their political or social opinions with me and then get offended if I share views that differ from theirs. If I agree with them, though, everything is hunky dory and we're new best buds.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

YOU definitely bring out the best in people.

I don't know about myself. That's a great question. I'd need to do a survey, I guess, to get objective feedback. If I bring out the worst in people, does that mean I need to change my language?

DarkCarousel · Answer

We’re all the villain in someone’s story.  I don’t think I’m fully responsible for bringing out their best or their worst. But I have inspired some. Others, not so much.

candleteabrunch · Answer

The best. I really am an easy-going guy. But i can't please everyone and i notice sadly i do bother some who prefer tough guys not nice guys. I'm a nice guy to all men and women. I try. I try the best i can.

Andres77 · Answer

It depends on the person.
If they're a good person we tend to get along well. If they're an asshole... maybe they sense that I'm not going to tolerate their bullshit.
So in them the worst comes out. But not around me, they tend to start rumors and try to cause trouble.

LukeLugh · Answer

It is hard to tell unless if I spent a long time with that person. I consider myself to be an optimist who makes people clarify what ails them through questions that are interpersonal in tone.

DollAlone · Answer

I would like to believe i bring out the best in people. I do my best to make outsiders feel welcomed and as if they are part of the group. I make lonely people feel wanted. People who dont have many friends, i introduce to my circle. People with no self esteem i help find traits about themselves that they can focus on and feel proud of

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I'm often told that I brighten up the day. So, it's a positive.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I certainly hope that I bring out the best in people. Probably most of the time.

Lionman95 · Answer

Lets be honest I try to bring out the best of people I care about for some reason. That´s not possible but what a wish.

ThePolishKnight37 · Answer

Wow it is half and half. I am an empath and i tend to irritate people with out saying a word. I try my best to help everyone I come ion contact with.

Marco10 · Answer

I try to bring out the best in (most) people or at least that’s what I think.

libsaretards · Answer

Depends if I like the person or not. If I like them I bring out their best. If not, I expose them at their worst.

clampfan101 · Answer

I’m very open minded and try to see the good in people, so I imagine at least the better in them.

loves2learn · Answer

I’d like to think the best. :)

Not_Average · Answer

Either or… I’m rarely just a “chill” guy that evokes neutrality from others.

blindedd · Answer

hate to admit it, but im the friend someone turns to when they wanna get revenge :(

Grond21 · Answer

I try to bring out the best in people. And I would say I often bring out a good side in them.

Gray-Wisp · Answer

Definitely the worst. However, trolling with unpleasant truths does that.  It's better than not acknowledging them at all I suppose.

tatianamay · Answer

I don’t really know. It depends on the person, I think

A_Bell · Answer

I reflect what they bring. I prefer nice, but if people come at me, I come at them.

Siren777 · Answer

Always happy & enjoy sharing my happiness with those around me. I don't have any complaints with those I surround me. So the best.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

I don’t know if I’m that helpful but definitely not the worst.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I'm a positive person so I think that transfers it's self to bringing out the best in people.

shouldnobetter · Answer

I like to try to bring out the best in people. But it will probably bring out the worst in me... LOL

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I like bringing out the best in people

fonduegirl · Answer

I'm provocative... So it's mostly B.

NightHawk99 · Answer

Why do I get the feeling everyone who voted yes is lying their asses off? 🤣🤣🤣

LaFerrari · Answer

Depends if I'm on T Week 1 or T week 2, T being TRT injections... But normally I would say i try my best to bring out the best in people.

GhostMochi · Answer

He says I make him happier and a better person, so I guess the best?

invalid1 · Answer

It's not like I am responsible to how people present themselves to me.. Not gonna play into this!

krin_m · Answer

I would say neither most of the times. At times the best!

DaveToo · Answer

I always try for best.

Archerer · Answer

I bring out the best in my partner, and that is enough for me.

Overmind · Answer

Depends on my mood I can do either or.

Lynx122 · Answer

Usually the best :)

Hastur225 · Answer

best in women worst in men

BarryLiverstone · Answer

The best

anylolone · Answer

Both and in between.

MLGbreezy · Answer

I'd say the best

msc545 · Answer

The best, I hope.

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