It really bothers me because no one seems to actually understand why the age of consent is set to the rather arbitrary age of 18 and not at the onset of puberty, because it leads to bullshit like this, and it leads to morons crushing together two very distinct stages of life into one and ceasing to think about it further.
It's obvious why there are laws against having sex with pre-pubescent children, but the reason why we have laws against having sex with post-pubescent children under the age of 18, despite the fact that the instant they hit puberty they are biologically sexually mature adults, is because it's hilariously easy to trick them into sex. Why wouldn't it be? Their body is literally being re-wired for that to the point where nearly every single waking thought is obtaining it. I also read somewhere that apparently for a very limited amount of time, teenagers emotional maturity gets knocked down to that of a toddlers, but just take that as hearsay. This is the same reason why it's verboten for anyone in a position of authority to proposition anyone they have authority under, by the way, and why it's doubly abhorrent for a teacher to have sex with their underage students.
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It doesn't matter what the age of consent is. You're a pedo for going for a minor under 18. Until that person is 18 and out of the house, that is now left on the 18 years. Adults shouldn't be touching minors! No, we are going to care, because most of you are creeps and you creep at any woman regardless of age and you make other healthy 25-year-olds look bad. You ain't gonna marry her, so come on. You just want something "Fresh" you can screw and mess up. I KNOW men with that behavior. They are not yet adults. They are seeking something real, and you are ruining their experiences all because your ruined and nobody wanted to sleep with you. Besides you being porn obsessed, that is your goal. I was that age myself. Thank God I had my parents because these poor girls need their fathers around. FATHERS start protecting your daughters from these creeps. They can't get women their age they have to go below the belt to get it. It is not normal to date a 16/17-year-old expecting them to be mature and then their broken later in life. There is a REASON you go younger. Because you haven't grown up yourself. Trying to go back to your teens so you can get involved hoping to use your age as a way to attract females. I knew that game years ago. Still know today. Only bitter men do this.
A 16 and 17 year old girl are not adults. They are still minors. Dating is one thing but sex would be statutory rape as the law does not consider minors as being able to give consent to sex. Why not date an 18 year old. Then there is no problem. Some would consider a 16 and a 25 year old as inappropriate. To me it seems weird a guy would date an immature girl instead of someone his own age and with someone he would have more in common with. Or maybe the guy just hasn't grown up yet and is mentally stuck back in high school?
Most people don't. Pedophilia is an attraction to prepubescent people, not teens/adults. People are (generally speaking), mentally and physically the exact same at 16 or 17, as they are at 18, 19, and 20 in most cases.
Exceptions exist, as with all things, but I stopped growing at 14, I know people who stopped growing at 12, 16, 20, 22, 25, and 30. I know 4 foot 40 year olds shorter than 6 and a half foot 12 year olds, and teens who are much smarter than people in their 50s (dispite the fact that brain development continues for a person's entire life, typically you get dumber as you age).
Racial ethincity mix plays a huge role in what age you reach physical adulthood, as well as what that will look like. But generally speaking, most people are not mentally prepared for relationships until their mid 20s to early 30s (it has squat to do with brain development, and is more a reflection of world experience, and knowing how shit works and what they want in life).
16 is too early, heck 21 is too early, people need time to sort shit out about themselves and learn adult responsibilities first.
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Regardless of the age of consent, 16 year old girls are not "pretty much adults." I understand the physical attraction, but. . . if a 25 year old guy is dating a 16 year old girl, it means
1. her parents are missing in action; and
2. the guy is probably taking advantage of the girl just so he can have sex with her.
And I don't care how strongly you reply ith comments about age of consent, my opinion will not change.It comes from older females who are envious. It's a type of mate guarding. A 30 year old woman actually knows on some level she is not wanted anymore. When compared to like a 16 or 17 year old. So why would some guy in their thirties ever date some women in their thirties when they could date a 16 year old? Because of this women call anyone who dates younger than pedophile to try to guilt them into being with them. Then you have males who can actually get any of the younger females junder females just agreeing with the older females because they hope that will make them attractive but the older females don't want them because they have nothing that they're attractive to other than being agreeable to whatever they say.
It's all the older females not wanting the competition and the Beta males just a agreed with whatever a female saysPeople have pretty much skewd info about who is pedo and who is not. If you are 20 and dating 16y old you might be creep or predator, but not pedophile. Not that you are one, you just might be. But let me tell you, I do not live in America and we do not have this conservative values as we do not label people who date minors pedos. Yikes, those people are dumb and boring, read a book.
I have many friends who date or dated 16y old girls when they were around 20y old, good families, supportive parents, it worked for them/still works. Sometimes people are just insecure and unhappy with their life, so they rather use labels onto others so they can feel better.Unless that adult is 19, probably never. Laws are made by old cis white dudes in congress. Just cause its legally ok dosnt make it right. A 40 yr old sleeping with or even lusting after a 16 yr old will always be a gross pedophile regardless of what the local law says. If a 50 yr old goes to th. Philippines, where age if consent is 12, would you not think them a pedo just cause its legally ok?
Personally im currently 28 and wouldn't feel comfortable with anyone 23 or younger.Legal doesn’t mean moral, plus the law is dumb asf and contradicts itself. For example, in my state the age of consent is 16 so a 16 year old can legally have sex with an adult but in another law they aren’t allowed to exchange nudes because if you send nudes to a 16 year old as an adult it’s considered “indecent exposure to a minor” and if the minor sent nudes it’s classified as “child porn” so the laws stupid and doesn’t even know what it wants to do in the first place.
I think it can be okay. The age of consent in my state is 16. It depends on the two people. If they're both mature, it might be fine. It would be better to take things slow in that situation. It's probably better to not see each other too much in order for the younger partner to focus on school.
When will pedophiles stop trying to justify their behavior?
I think the reason why there's a such huge drama about this, is because of the nightmare stories about girls moving in with their boyfriends. Total power dynamic going on. RIPE for abuse.
That should 100% not be legal at 16.
However 16 year old are just going to have sex with adults anyway. They're borderline adults with the excessive horniness of a teenager.
Relationships should be allowed, but just under some level of supervision. Parents still have to have a presence in order to help prevent predatory shit.
There are predators, then there are actually normal people who happen to have a partner that's 16 years old.
Would you rather have your daughter have sex without you knowing who she's with and getting groomed behind your back, or would you have her be open about it so that you can defuse the situation if the adult in question is giving off red flags?When pedophiles die off or stop getting interested in kids.
Jealousy.
Why do you think France is the country of love? Age of consent 15 and no one really prosecuted for having mutual feelings. They just give the young the right to exist (I remember myself at 13, I was madly in love in a much more adult way than any of the adults around).
Pedo really is if you are only attracted to children below the age of 12 (which I am not, they are children, still not fully formed beings)I see what you are asking. To answer literally: people will stop when there won’t be an obvious power differential issue given by age gaps anymore. And after that, culture will take some generations to adapt. It’s not the right time.
I agree. Once past the age of puberty they become attractive to adults. If you say they aren't you are lying or don't wanna believe that a 16 year old could get you hard. Typically the thing people don't like is 16 year old still dress and act in a way that is not in harmony with adults. In many states in AMERICA 16 and 17 is the age of consent.
Yeah, I was in this situation 10 years. Do yourself a favour and get out that can only end badly. they're never as mature as they like to think or act and tbh I was uncomfortable with it at the time even though I did like the girl because it's just a bit weird.
That’s alarming because it’s all about consent, if a person is unable to legally and cognitively consent then it is rape period.
And it’s called hebephilia not pedophiliaThe 25 year old is taking advantage of the 16 year old.
Ew you sound like a pedophile and if a pedo came anywhere near my kid I’d beat and kill him and smile in my mug shot
16 year olds are largely children and have a world of learning compared to a 25yo. It's morally inappropriate
Come to England or any other place were 16 is legal you will never hear anyone say such things and problem solved.
They're not a pedo, but its still dodgy. If you're more than 4 years older and dating a 16 year old somethings wrong with you
No, You are a pedophile and if you have sex with a minor you will be in the registry. Try getting any kind of life after that.
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