What’s your opinion on older guys in their 30s dating young girls that are barely legal or so at 18?

[Anonymous]

[VanityFair888]

Technically that's legal but I think they're fucking pedos.

I'm 26 and I've been friends with 19yo girl and was taking a course with 19-20 yo girls. From my perspective they were all so cute and childish. On the other hand man in the age of 30 and more are really mature and old enough and also in quite different stage in life.

No one can assure me that they date those teenagers for their personality. Just they are not matured enough and easy to control, also some of them are really dumb and that makes manipulation even easier.

It's not even about young and old, cause 18 yo is young and so is 25 yo and 30yo. Just most girls in the age of 18-24 still have that childish, immature brain, childish face and half formed body. I think that is what turns them on, that's a masked pedophilia for me tbh.

[Joshydavid25]

It can't be pedophilia cause they are not prepubescent children.. They are fully grown and fully formed human beings and while you may see them as children infantilizing them they are fully grown and at the age where they are capable of pedophilia themselves..

[VanityFair888]

They are not fully formed, maybe fully grown but something is off about seeing grown, mature man with those innocent cute teenagers who are only technically legal

[VanityFair888]

I mean for hookup, ons or one-time date that's okay but relationship or marriage is off-putting

[Joshydavid25]

Have you seen the way some of these 18 years olds look and dress? Nothing cute and innocent about that.. You're also only like 8, and 7 years older.. Hardly a motherly age gap to be seeing them as "cute little babies".. They're hormonal balls of attitude.. Although I do agree that they have a little of energy and zest for life.. Which I find kinda cute..

[VanityFair888]

Yea it depends I guess, but I see that 18 and 26 age gap is way more deep than like 30 and 36. It's rare that 18yo has already had life experience of 26 or 30yo and is on the same level. Even if they look and dress like 30yo women. It feels like they are on the way different stage in their life and 30+yo shouldn't have anything common with them if there's not anything wrong with them. 16yo and 10yo don't have a motherly age gap neither but 16yo would view 10yo as a little cute child.

[MemeSupreme]

unless they in another country where its a social norm which is already weird to me... its gonna be double weird and creepy

[Anonymous]

Good for them. Alls fair in love & war. The only people I see that complain about older men dating younger women are older women who were more than happy as younger women to date older men.

[yakumo]

As consenting adults, it is their decision and none of my business. Like any other couple, hopefully they are happy.

[Avicenna]

It's legal since they're consenting adults.

[Joshydavid25]

They might be able to get away with it depending on if the guy still looks young enough.. 30 is pushing territory.. But I mean it's whatever.. She's 18.. Looks a little strange, and I might think she has daddy issues maybe..

[slatyb]

Mostly they are bad news. They are immature and have no success with adults, so they hit on women from dysfunctional homes and too young to know better.

[Starrrboy]

I don't like it.. when I think about it and imagine someone doing that to my daughter I wanna f*ck them up lol..

[Asker]

Imagine your daughter gets cream pied and pregnant at age 18 by a 30 year old

[Cuminginside]

I think he prefers another 18-year-old to knock her up.

[Starrrboy]

Lol asker , I knew it was a trolling question.. whatever gives you the kick man...

[Starrrboy]

@Cuminginside 🤷‍♂️ 🤷‍♂️

[Cuminginside]

Oh I'm sorry did I break your concentration so you don't want your daughter creampied and pregnant by any age okay just make that distinction clear.

[Starrrboy]

@Cuminginside what? I don't understand what you're talking about lol

[Cuminginside]

You do have knowledge your daughter is going to get creampied someday and going to carry somebody's baby. I mean what do you think she is a little princess because I've had to observe a lot of therapies with so-called princesses and let me tell you something They are anything but.

[Starrrboy]

@Cuminginside we're clearly talking about guys with age difference and not guys in general.. weird flex lol

[Cuminginside]

Yeah but you could not specify or you would not maybe there's an English deficiency on your part I don't know I mean just be a man and the knowledge that your daughter is going to get creampie someday and 9 months later we'll see the results of that whether he is the same age her or a little bit under or over or something just acknowledge that it's personal growth dude try it sometime. You can always make a clear to her her age or a little bit younger like a year or so but no more The girls like the older guy I don't know it's some kind of a DNA psychological component I personally lean towards the spiritual attraction I could be wrong but we'll stick with the DNA for now. Have a good night unless you going to give me a reach around and the warm hot shower we don't need to continue this conversation I mean it's already getting boring and I'm tired of dealing with unacademic people and you sir are clearly unacademic And you let your emotions get in the way That's a dangerous business remember Scarface Manny and his sister.

[overthinkergirl]

their thing is none of my business. maybe they really love each other. i know a guy who was 29 and had a girl who was 16 and they have 2 children now and live hapilly.

[Anonymous]

its weird. people in their 30s shouldn't be dating 18-19 year olds. doesn't matter if its an old dude and a young girl or a old girl and a young boy. 20-21 + is whatever though

[Chthou95]

Do you think 18 year olds should be allowed to join the military?

[Opinion Owner]

@Chthou95 actually i dont think so, they're too immature

[Chthou95]

An 18 year old can do a lot of things at 18, but can't date or have sex with who she wants

[OddBeMe]

Creepy. And it’s just a fetish thing and no one can successfully argue against it.

No 30 yr old can have a healthy romantic relationship with an 18 yr old.

[Staximus]

I'd say most 18 year olds are too immature but some are already living adult lives. Old enough to die for your country is old enough to bang who you want. As long as neither are being taken advantage of.

[scentoflavender]

Its none of my business, provided that they're both consenting adults.

[Dinklex3]

I think it’s gross.
That used to creep me out as a kid.

[normalice]

Immature and insecure. She will outgrow him.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I have no opinion. That's legal in my country. Do what you want.

[notfoundtoday]

I am 29 and My preference is between 24 to 35 anything beyond makes me feel weird.
I can talk to them but I would not think about dating them.

[Chthou95]

If she's 18, i dont care. If she can join the military, move out of her parents house, buy her own house, start an onlyfans, be out after midnight, buy a gun in certain states, she should be able to date who she wants

[OGname2]

Makes me feel like they'd date 14 year olds if they could get away with it

[Anonymous]

only used for sexual purposes. not "dating", they have nothing in common whatsoever.

[MikeTheBartender]

Great for fun, for a serious relationship odds are against them

[Alex-Snow]

While it is legal I hope the younger girls are not being taken advantage of

[LiamJHayden]

Whom consenting adults date is none of my business.

[rachel776]

that's my situation now 🤷‍♀️

[Asker]

How old is your man

[Cheerfull009]

It is their choice, if both are consenting, why others worry

[Apple1996]

They are creepy

[Asker]

But why

[Asker]

My boyfriend 29 and me 20!

[Apple1996]

Because they can't get a woman their own age so they have to go after dumb teenagers instead

[Asker]

I’m not some dumb teenager

[Avicenna]

Apple, maybe they don't want to date single moms. Plenty of those in their 30s.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna there are plenty of single moms at all ages

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna also there never a excuse to date a literal teenager. It's creepy under any circumstances.

[Avicenna]

18 is an adult. If you don't like that, you should be lobbying to have the age of consent raised. Just because you have a hangup with it doesn't mean relationships between consenting adults are something awful. Relatively few 18 year olds date guys in the 30s anyway.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna they are adults but that doesn't mean it's morally right to be in a relationship with them. Morals are more important then what's legal. If everyone stuck to morals we wouldn't need laws saying that people can't fuck kids

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna I don't have a hang up with this. It's just obvious grooming to do this type of thing

[Avicenna]

Those are just your feelings about such relationships. And your feelings aren't based on facts. The fact is that women who are of legal age are not kids and they therefore not "being groomed". Your feelings are based on seeing them as kids, which they aren't anymore, as laws recognize.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna you don't know what being groomed means 😂

Grooming can happen at any age

[Avicenna]

If you want to delude yourself, sure. I see no need to extend adolescence.

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna a asshole manipulating others doesn't have a age limit. To think it's only kids is ridiculous

[Avicenna]

Manipulation is definitely not limited to men. Let me ask you this- when I was 18/19, I had some flings with women around twice my age. Obviously they initiated it and just wanted sex, but were they "grooming" me?

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna it can be done by both men and women. And she could have been grooming you

[Avicenna]

Grooming me for what?

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna for sex 🤦‍♀️

[Avicenna]

LOL, I wasn't a virgin and I was a consenting adult. Enjoyed it very much. We both knew what we were getting out of it.

That's your idea of "grooming"? It doesn't fit anyone else's!

[Apple1996]

@Avicenna it doesn't matter if you wanted it or not. Still can be grooming.
I'm just going on the basic definition of grooming. I learned this shit in school like 8th grade so other people are well aware of what it is

[Avicenna]

You have a strange notion about grooming. It doesn't fit anyone else's apparently.

[Brittanykeen88]

I think it's morally wrong

[Asker]

Why? My boyfriend is 29 and I am 22

[Brittanykeen88]

The age gap wouldn't be as bad if you were later 20s or 30. Young people are so inexperienced and naive. I always question why older men want to date some so much younger. Your guys isn't that bad though. I dated a guy and found out he dated a 17 when he was 28 that was def wrong.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Age gap feels too big to me.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Another user mentioned it would be for sexual purposes only, as they would have nothing in common, but I say the reverse is more likely to be true for me. I have more in common with people in that age group, so it would be for platonic/friendship purposes only to hang around them.

I struggle to find a woman in my age group I relate to, because so many women think having fun is something you "grow out of". So not many women in their 30s play video games or make art or build model kits or watch cartoons/anime or go to comicon etc. Why are so many of them so boring?

Pro tip, if you want older guys to fall in love with older women, stop being grumpy and boring, be fun, have fun, make art, learn an instrument, play video games, learn the sciences, be a geek and dress up as your favorite sci-fi or fantasy character, watch some cartoons/anime for fuck's sake.

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't really agree with that.

[JacobJordan]

If they are both 18+ nothing wrong with it.

[RavVid]

18+ are adults.

[jahaims]

They are losers

[riverrat3]

Consenting adults