It’s really baffling me how so many people keep saying it is selfish to not consider the feelings of others when feeding MY own baby. From my body. Literally one of the most selfless things a mother can do. Has our society really come to this?
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I continue to get hate on this take. Even as recently as today. Why? 🤔
For those who say they never see people say hateful things about breastfeeding, why don’t you mosey on over to the comment @888thegreat made comparing feeding babies to sucking dick, urinating and defecating in public? 🤔
Why do so many people seem to think breastfeeding in public is selfish?
It's inappropriate and thinking "I have a baby so I can do whatever I want" is obnoxious as hell, too. No, being a mother doesn't mean you get to say "F*k everyone else." It's not hard to go to a restroom or hallway or something in order to whip your tit out to feed your baby.
The annoying thing though is the double standard in which certain women think they can do whatever they want, but that no one should be allowed to comment on it, as well. The same kind of women who'll walk around damn near naked and think any (unattractive) man who notices them, is "rude and misogynist."
This sh*t really grinds my gears. This "Princess" attitude of some women; ironic that these are usually feminist women who claim to "want equality" while also wanting the whole f*cking world to revolve around them and for basic respect and decency for other people to not apply to them. There's a certain obvious-as-f*ck car-named chick on here who has this same sh*tty hyper-entitled feminist attitude.
I don't usually do so, but I agree with 888. It IS like sucking dick, urinating and defecating in public. If a woman wants to whip out her tits in public, then men should be allowed to jack off to them in public, as well. Not that I condone either one, but at least that would be fair and equal treatment. Otherwise, use a feeding curtain or take that sh*t in a semi-private area like a restroom.
The whole doesn't revolve around you and being indecent in public isn't excused just because you have a baby. You're not the only mother in the world and PLENTY of women can not be indecent, selfish, and sh*tty when it comes to feeding their babies, not that breast milk is even as healthy for babies, anyway. It stunts their growth and development compared to baby formula, which has more nutrients in it.
It's baffling TO ME how some women think they can literally do whatever they want because they have tits and a pussy and that literally no one else matters in society but them. It's the most entitled, upper middle class, white woman think I can think of.
Trying to get other users to validate your short-sighted opinion on this is irrelevant Especially when you don't actually dispute anything I mentioned here. Guess we'll just disagree here.
Having a hungry baby means I feed the hungry baby when he is hungry. That is it. Bottom line. Mammary glands used for their intended purpose. Baffles me how anyone can 1) have a problem with it 2) think I’m somehow selfish? 3 ) think it is any of their business
1. Having a kid doesn't make you the center of the universe. 2. The world doesn't revolve around you; thinking it does is the selfish part. 3. You can go in semi-private areas to do that. 4. You are LITERALLY making it everyone else's business by doing it in public. How do you not see how narcissitic that sounds?
"I had to pee. Everyone in the world urinates. If you don't want to see my cock in a Walmart aisle, go somewhere else. I have the right to pee whenever I want to. Grow up!"
None of that changes anything that I said. And what the "law" says is irrelevant to what ethics and decency are. Slavery used to be supported by the law, too.
A creepy man could videotape you while put in public, claiming he's going to go home and jack off to you, and then post the video on PornHub so others can do it too. He is technically protected by the law too, especially if he blurs your face out but leaves the rest intact. So if you have an issue with that, then you'd be a giant hypocrite to your own logic, here.
I suspect that if we looked at the history of breastfeeding in public, we would find that it was extremely common and unquestioned until baby formula was heavily marketed.
Umm I'm awkward socially. And anything to do with nudity and sex makes me uncomfortable when I'm not in a setting with my intimate partner. My limited exposure to women, pregnant women, babies and children means that I'm uncomfortable and ill informed about a lot of women things.
Even as a young girl going to the toilet with another girl is something I find really weird. I'd actually hold in my poop if a friend followed me to the bathroom to talk the same for breaking wind. And I'd get an upset stomach. That to me is very private. As I got older talking about periods was also something I found to be really uncomfortable with. I'm getting better at it. But I realise its maybe the lack of exposure. Don't get me wrong when I see women breastfeeding I wouldn't dare tell a woman not too I'd just feel really awkward that she's pulled her breast out and basically look and go the other way.
I do think I'm curious about it and my curiosity would be considered perverted at my age since I should "know" about these things. But I don't. And not actually being a mum myself well yeah!
Im just weird and how long this response is probably shows that. Sorry!
I haven't read the other responses here yet. So I wouldn't be able to speak for others. But I will because I'm curious to understand what they feel if they're actually honest enough to say. I remember there was a young girl once that kept crying when I was in the hospital. I was awaiting a blood test, I didn't sleep the night before as I was stressed/scared of the underlying issue. Anyways she was crying and crying and it just wouldn't stop. Over time it really started to grate on me because well she just sounded so desperate. But I let it my feelings get the better of me I jumped up and approached them. I took a deep breathe and asked if the dad if they were OK. I asked her name and spoke to her. And much to my surprise she actually stopped crying she wanted a little attention. I reassured her that she would be there for much longer as her dad's ticket was very soon. I learned that she wasn't haven't a blood test and asked if she wanted some water. With dad's permission I went and got her some. I encouraged dad to give her a little cuddle until I returned. And he took her out the pram. I think because she was 3 or 4 I think he thought she was a big girl maybe too big to want to sit in his lap. Anyways this really helped. She had her water and was all the happier for it. My energy was completely zapped and I nearly fainted in the chair having my bloods simply because I allowed myself to get so angry with the crying instead of doing what I wanted in the first place which was see if the girl was OK. I remember her name actually Abigail. I don't necessarily think I reacted to her the way I did because I'm a woman. Because my reaction stemmed from finding it unbearable. Her crying was just sooo piercing, it was really upsetting to me. Not going to her, I felt guilt and deep concern. I'm glad she perked up because I really needed that blood test.
Some people are intimidated of a woman having power over their body in the US, thus they shame it for things it naturally does. (Vaginal discharge, periods, giving birth, and breast feeding, celliulite, stretchmarks, hair, asymmetrical-ness) even though breast feeding waa very common back in the day and still is in other places,. Its a "damned if you do damned if you dont" type situation, whip the nipple out and feed, its your body. This shit is ridiculous. We are people as well.
Breastfeeding in public is beautiful. The little guy/girl is hungry and needs to eat.
Since not everyone thinks that and some are offended, it is usually good for the mother to cover up as best she can so not everything is exposed.
And if someone criticizes you for breastfeeding, just ignore them. Most will just go away. If they continue to criticize you, simply tell them you are feeding your baby, give them the evil eye, and keep doing what you're doing.
Did you know that in most states, it's legal for women to expose their breasts in public (the result of several protests back in the 1970s and 80s)? Breastfeeding doesn't even come close to that.
If people can be seen stuffing their faces with food and not bat an eye, then a baby being fed shouldn't be an issue. If you're uncomfortable seeing it (and it's fine if you are) just move on. Decency or no, move on. I hate it when people use the excuse if "there's children here" when it's the kids who actually don't give a fuck. It's the adults who make a fuss and sometimes feel they're entitled to their feelings enough to approach a mother in the act to harass her. You're not being a man for harassing her. And you're not being a woman by doing so either. Just being an annoying twat with a tit complex
I don't understand why people even give a shit, personally. It's not like the woman is defacating in public, for Christ's sake.
Like, who sees a woman breastfeeding, and goes, "The vile monster! How dare she sully the good name of public decency with her disgusting boob!!" Would they rather listen to a screaming baby, because it's hungry?
If I see someone breastfeeding, I don't give it a second thought, and couldn't care less. It's none of my business, and I don't see a reason to think about it further.
Do people think it's selfish? I think some people feel that it's inappropriate, because breasts are sexualized in our society. I definitely think that women should be allowed and feel comfortable to breastfeed in public, however I am absolutely turned on by the sight of a naked breast and the "womanliness" of the breastfeeding. I try not to look but it is really difficult not to. So please feel comfortable to breastfeed, but also be aware that many men will be sexually attracted to your breasts. I can't help it and I really try to be a good person - there are many predatory men out there, so please be safe.
I think men know they are *supposed* to. Actually doing it when there is a naked boob a quarter turn of the eyeball to the left is much easier said than done.
Those people need to stop sexualizing breasts and, by proxy, sexualizing breastfeeding. It's gross that they think that way. Breastfeeding is a natural act. Now, I will say this has a caveat to it.
Guys, this doesn't hold true for you if you have a lactation fetish. No sliding across the booth and popping a boob in your mouth lmao
Seriously though, I have no idea why you get hate on this topic. I'd understand if you are one of those moms who change their baby on the table cause that is gross. Feeding your baby though, a-ok.
I for one support breast feeding in public. I have never found breastfeeding sexually alluring in any way.
That being said, I find breasts *very* sexually alluring. It was a part of our sexual foreplay that both my wife and I enjoy. And my ex girlfriends. Why should we stop sexualizing breasts if all parties involved enjoyed it? How does my or anyone else's finding breasts sexually alluring hurt anyone?
I too don't know why you get hate on this topic, loves2learn.
Update comment: nobody should ever read anything posted by 888. He is two brain cells short of being capable of rudimentary thought, let alone coherent posts.
Perhaps some of the hate stems from a natural tendency humans have to keep the status quo, as in "It's always been that way so it's upsetting if you change it for no other reason than it's a change!" Sadly people are often that way. Look how long slavery was around.
In other cases, some people really do have breastfeeding fetishes. Indeed, some adult couples engage in it. Perhaps they worry this might arouse them? But I don't think that would be a good argument since there are a great number of things that arouse people that aren't covered up (mouths and legs for example). And yet virtually everyone goes about their day without incident seeing hundreds of mouths and legs every day.
People don't know or understand how something works, they tend to be afraid and create a false evilness or in this case a false selfishness so they feel better about not understanding how something works.
They usually are the people who can't adapt to change and get angry when something in their lives change.
Thank you. Tbh i think a lot of people forget most of the hateful comments that people throw at us aren't even directed at us. They hate themselves and their lives and instead of attacking themselves they look for the first person they can find to let out this hate. It really has nothing to do with us but everything to do with them and how horrible they feel inside, so they just hope to make as many people feel like them
Because they feel uncomfortable and want to blame you for their own emotions. Kinda the way things are now. That makes me uncomfortable so you must stop. Personally, I think people need to start taking responsibility for their own emotions and stop putting the blame for them on others.
Most women do not go completely topless. My youngest did not like being covered but sometimes I did use a small burp cloth above him.
It’s a long story. Bottom line, I wrote some mytakes about my journey a couple months ago and as recent as yesterday I am still getting hate on them. People telling me it is selfish. It’s just absurd. I care because I have been there. It is a cause close to my heart.
I find it funny how everyone is all for tits and is quite happy to see a girl walking around basically naked but when she’s feeding her child it’s like ew get out of here with that.
Why are you getting hate posts on such a natural thing as breastfeeding? Are they the same ones that post that they prefer tits over ass pics? Feeding your child is necessary, and when you're out the necessity doesn't go away. Some might say that you can hand pump it and bottle it. But if your child is used to the breast, then it's the breast they should get. Carry a blanket with you to cover yourself as it apparently is too provocative for some people.
Naked breasts on a beach are a green light. Half naked breasts on a beach, feeding a baby, means they aren’t ever getting any there. Can’t have equals rejection. Triggering hurt.. triggering childish behavior. Breast feeding really is a reliable maturity meter for the single friends around a new mother. 🙃
Its not selfish at all, its the creeps and perverts out there who make sexual and sound gross, mother goes through so much pain and its mentally very draining to take of care of a new born , least we could do is make the mother comfortable in public area
We're taught to sexualize breasts so seeing them used as intended to feed a child confuses people because they think breasts are taboo because they're sexualized and they can't separate themselves from that taboo. It's ridiculous in general, but there it stands
This is something new in this culture. When I grew us there were not all the formulas and the people I knew could not afford it if there was. I was breastfed along with everyone I knew. It was just how a baby was fed.
If you posted a pic of a cow feeding its calf would you get the same hate? I don't think so... People are fickle when it comes to doing the natural thing. I do not understand it either... They must not have been breastfed as children.
I would think that more than half of those complaining about mothers breastfeeding in public would be okay with girls going topless in public. So is feeding a baby the issue for them? I just don't get it...
Why do so many woman claim that so many people have a beef with breastfeeding? I literally could care less. And I've never actually heard someone complain about public breastfeeding... ever! So what is it? Are these new moms just full of hormones and looking for a fight? Feed or don't feed your kid. I really don't care.
They’re not shaming. You can breastfeed, but you should still be modest about it. I love my body, but it doesn’t mean I want everyone and their friends to know about it or see it.
I think it's wrong to shame mothers for doing that. Honestly, I try to take a proactive role and when I see a mother breastfeeding I make sure to give her a smile.
I dont think its selfish. I just think its kinda uncalled for and can be done elsewhere. At the same time, i let my dude suck my titties in front of the staff and those waiting in the rollercoaster line at the theme park. Now that, was selfish and uncalled for. But i did it anyways just like breastfeeding mothers will continue to do as they please.
@Still-alive i mean im not gonna breastfeed regardless but if i did, i’d pump beforehand or feed the baby at the crib. I just pull my titties out in public to let my dude suck on em because i feel like it. So i wouldn't be surprised if some women do it just because they can. It is what it is. But im not them so i really ain't worried about them. My kids gonna drink formula anyways 🤷♀️
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