Why don't people accept that racial preference is racist? (Page 3)
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It's not racist, how is racist? We all prefer dating different people and we're attracted to different people. Race is just one of the many variables.
The fact you went Anonymous for this goes to show that you already know how dumb this statement of yours is. Given that you have the brains to realize this, which I starting to doubt.
One would think that forcing someone to have sex with someone they don't want to is rape.
1. Because it is el stupido!
2. Because taking this way leads to every preference being racist. This further leads to a robot-like society where you are pressed against your will into being a couple with some random human number #132425. Hope, you like it's gender, look, personality, interests, etc... because if not, then you are racist like Adolf Hitler himself!!!
This is just a terrible future! Don't go that way!
Well, if the that's the case, then the real issue is people treating people differently based on whether or not they want to have sex with them.
I treat everyone with respect. I don't care if they're a guy or a girl, straight or gay, attractive or unattractive.
Gay men must all be misogynists then because they aren't attracted to women.
Okay, so OP wants to fuck Brad and Chad, but they are not interested.
The result is the simple-minded lunacy that can be read here.
It is interesting how what was said to be (gasp) wacist progressed from not letting Rosa Parks sit where she wanted to refusing to miscegenate the ubermensch into extinction.
Everyone, stay with your own race. That is the natural order.
What if I like green over blue eyes?
Perky little nose instead of wide fat nose?
Curly locks instead of straight hair?
Big butts and small boobs?
Shorter curvy women instead of tall women?
You're a self-righteous parasite, a fking cancer.
Take your militant victim-hood somewhere else.
Well I think a man's perspective is obviously different from a woman's, but I don't necessarily feel it's racist. I have been turned down by women who tell me they only date black men. I think it's more sexist because when they say that my perception is that they look at men like we are service providers. Like we're just here to provide orgasms for them. Basically objectification. Anyway I'm glad that they reject me because I'm living for a real relationship.
Not all women are like that, how's this any different to making huge generalisations on women?
Did I say all women are like that? Men get labeled as all kinds of things but I bet you don't put your cape on when men get objectified. Put whatever label on it that you want. I believe some women see men as objects. Some women want a family. Same thing with men. If a woman were prefer black men but are open too any possibility that's one thing but for a woman to say they only date black men there's a reason for that And it's a sexual reason. I'm saying it's the sexist not racist. I don't see you putting on your cape and objecting to the fact that she says it's racist. Let's just face facts you would have a problem with what I said no matter what because of what's between my legs. Standing up for the objectification of men is not wrong. And I'm not going to validate your pig headed perspective.
I'm my previous comment I meant to say, how's this any different from making huge generations on 'men'. My problem was that you said "a man's perspective is obviously different from a woman's" that's what I meant about generalisations.
And for your information I always stand up against objectifying men, there are so many songs which objectify men and I am completely against it as much as I am completely against objectifying women. I've had male friends who were sexually harassed by a female friend who tried to get away with it by saying "I'm a woman" and I stand up against it in real life too. People need to treat each-other as individuals and not by their gender as a whole. This goes both ways.
*generalisations
Because from a man's perspective the only women who are at a disadvantage are fat and ugly. Here's a peak inside our mind.. if she has a nice ass it doesn't matter what color her skin is, and every race has women with big butts and flat butts. I don't think women of color are at a disadvantage but that's just my perspective, I was actually attempting to validate her which is a huge problem in a lot of relationships lack of validation as it were. And our perspectives are obviously different because there's not many men who say I refuse to date this kind of woman or that kind of woman. I haven't met everyman in the world but we don't think the way women do, we don't say I only date black women or white women or whomever, and if anything latin women (women of color) are regarded as the most attractive. I think it's normal to have an inside the box perspective on life and feel as if you have it harder than everyone else. I know I have felt like that but we gotta keep moving forward and have faith you will find someone that makes us happy.
Just because you think like that, it doesn't mean 'all men' do. a lot of men respect women for their individualism and not their bodies, and wouldn't blink an eye to promiscuous women. Racial preference goes for both men and women. What you are saying is disrespectful to men.
Yes ma'am I hear where you're coming from but you gotta understand men need a physical attraction, what one man finds physically attractive may differ from one another man finds physically attractive, if you (as a man) are with someone who's obese that's because you like that type or at least tolerate in in your spectrum of what someone would find attractive. We also might not become physically attracted to someone until after we become familiar with them I'm open to following in love with somebody who I wouldn't normally find attractive, but there would need to be physical attraction or it wouldn't work. I was talking about big butts because I was using that as an example. I could have said nice smile or not nice smile, smart not smart it doesn't matter. I think you're getting hung up on all these other things and not actually hearing what I'm saying. I understand all men don't think that way in terms of butts, but we all do think in terms of either attractive or not attractive. Unfortunately this is nature. You're right some men wouldn't blink and I towards a promiscuous woman But some men transcend that type of thinking we understand that just because someone is promiscuous doesn't mean they shouldn't be disqualified from consideration. I feel that's kind of judgmental. Maybe what's promiscuous to one person is sent considered promiscuous by the next. Maybe somebody would compare their body count with yours and think that you're promiscuous. I don't consider myself promiscuous but it would really suck if I met somebody that I really liked and she wouldn't give me a chance because of how many people I've been with. If you're going to be that way with promiscuous people sticking your nose up in the air at them and such, I suppose you would be that way with somebody who doesn't make that much money which would be messed up in the same way. We should be above labels. This is what I'm talking about when I say we don't think that way.
I certainly agree with what you are saying, and if you're talking about attraction, it is both ways. I can't speak for someone else or another women, just like you can't speak for other men. But from a personal perspective, I obviously am attracted to certain type of guys and am not to others, and I will undoubtedly be attracted to a man with a beautiful/handsome face.
What I mean to say is that both men and women like are attracted to physical appearance. But when you said 'men' like butts, it is a huge generalisation. I'm not sure if you're aware but there are some men and women who are raised alittle more traditionally, and to people like them (myself included) there is a very limited appeal to another person's body, and it's more to do with the face.
When I say some men and women dress promiscuously, I am in no way implying that they deserve to be treated with disrespect in any way. Irrespective of one's clothing style, no-one is allowed to harass or intimidate another person, a person's clothing is their choice. However, I'm saying that we are certainly allowed to make judgements based on someone's clothing.
By judgements I mean I'm allowed to think "this looks so bad" or "why would someone dress like this" or "why reveal so much".
This is nothing to do with how another person (a perpetrator) should act towards them, it's simply my thought on it.
People have the right to be attracted to who they are attracted to. That’s the entire reason our blood lines still exist. Nothing screams failure like going into a relationship you aren’t committed to. I’m very sorry people are racist and sexist and hateful and awful. However, at the end of the day, I’m going to bond with those I am comfortable bonding with.
Call it whatever you want, you're not going to make people fuck anybody they don't want. This reads like you recently got rejected, crying about it and trying to politicize your failure isn't going to move you past it any better.
It's not racist to have a preference. That's absolutely asinine.
And per your update, nonsense. That's the same dumbass thinking some guys have about lesbians. "Oh well, you're sexist if you don't like dick and won't date men!"
You have a chance of being correct ONLY IF a person rules out an entire race or group from being "acceptably attractive" to them AND treats them as inferior because of it !!
I'm not attracted to every woman from every race, but that doesn't mean I treat them with prejudice, OR LESS than equal, nor does it make me a racist. Racism has nothing to do with "attraction". Racism is based on ignorance, not biology or chemistry.
People are nicer to the ones they find attractive. So they treat their preferred races favorably.
And what if their attractions are spread out over many races and they just treat individuals they prefer with more "favor", but don't treat others of that race with "less favor". What if they are blatantly neutral to all people of any race they don't find "individually attractive"? I admit that most people do not act in the above mode, but I do.
Then they don't have a racial preference. Having a racial preference means you think all the people of a certain race are superior as sexual partners. This is sexual racism.
As I said before, that's just ignorance, and racism is born out of ignorance. You know, validating that kind of ignorance by giving it a "category" of its own (sexual racism), seems counter productive at best.
are some women baldists, and back hairists and shortists then?
Guess what, Life's not fair, all of us have disadvantages to overcome and blacks and women problems aren't any worse than anyone else's.
If you lost a leg in war come talk to me
How is it racist. I personally I'm attached to all races but I wouldn't say anyone who wasn't was a racist. Are gay people now sexist then?
many women go for white men as they see them as desirable. i was rejected many times cause i was black/brown.
@johnyash1324 did them women actually say it was because if your skin colour? No offence but I wouldn't want to date a guy who assumed everytime he was rejected it was because I was racist and nothing else to do with your personality. Maybe have some self reflection instead of jumping on the victim train. Plus if it was because of your skin colour would you actually want to date a racist women... Clearly not so these women just aren't ment to be
Plus I know a lot of women who actually see black guys as more desirable then white guys. Slightly because of the a myth about black men but a lot of women do find them more attractive. I've dated black men before who I found highly attractive
she said it on my face and also in front of my other dark coloured friends that she doesn't find dark skin desirable
@johnyash1324 well then do you want to date her after that?
NO but i felt bad when you're defending her even though she said it on my face that she doesn't date dark skin no matter how perfect you're.
@johnyash1324 when was I defending her? I don't even know the girl.
I think beauty is beauty, but within some families and circles it’s a lot more work when you date someone outside your race. It’s usually a generational thing but at least in America it can be a regional thing as well. Like I don’t want to be the token white guy in a black family and wouldn’t want that on a significant other. There are plenty of exceptions but personally I’m just not looking for any hassle from anybody.
We may be shallow or weird but racist is too much. Calling us racist, would belittle the real problems of people who face racism. In my experience it is the Asian, middleeastern and black people who mostly prefere their own race and ain't open to date white people for example. I dont Think white people mind it. I personally prefere turkish/kurdish/ white men.
I wouldn't know, compatibility is all that matters. If someone isn't interested in me because we aren't compatible because of their visual preferences thats not insulting to me.
Why can't people accept that sexual preference is not deemed as racist, wanting to reproduce within your own race is not racist. They tried to pull that line on Muhammad Ali in the 1970s and it failed, as he said "There's nothing wrong with me wanting my children to look like me." Just because he said he wouldn't reproduce with a White, Asian or non-black woman, as a black man. This woke stuff is bullshit.
It's not being racist. You act like having personal preferences is race related. Apply the same logic to eye color, or zodiac, or religious beliefs. People can decide if they don't want to date someone and they can decide what race they date
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