Some people I know called me racist recently cause I only like to date white guys and it really pissed me off so I'm going to talk about this openly.
I'm white and I prefer my own race. I can't help who I'm attracted to, other races don't do it for me cause I have nothing in common with them. with a white guy it's easier cause I'm also white, there's a more natural connection and similar background. I also want to marry a white guy, and I want my future children to be white and look like me. I don't think there's anything wrong with that it's my preference, I'm not being racist. Most people prefer their own race so are they racist too?
Seriously what is wrong with society that they always have to throw around the R word? It's not wrong to date within your own race. and yet I'm being treated like it's a crime. why is preferring your own race considered racist?
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Well some people only want to date their own race because they're racist.
Some people have a preference for one race and its just 'what they're attracted to'. That's quite possibly not racism. I don't personally have strong feelings about skin color, but I have strong feelings about -hair- color, and presumeably I don't have some racial hatred driving a preference for brunettes.
That said, it raises eyes when people say things like 'I'm not attracted to anyone from race X'. Really? I suppose it's possible, and without any racist aspect, but THAT surprises me. As I said, I have a -strong- brunette bias, but are there blonde's I'm attracted to? Definitely.
There's also the fact your answer mixes a few things - cultural compatibility for example- that wouldn't universally hold. I know one black guy for instance who was adopted as an infant and raised in a white family. His background would match any white girls.
So it's not that unusual for someone to have a preference, or to commonly enjoy dating people with similar backgrounds, but those seem to explain more a 'unlikely to date outside of race' then 'won't'.
Also, it's a bit of a shame when any of us just fall for 'similar background'. On an individual basis, that may not be what you or I would call racism, but it creates an unfortunate on a societal level if everyone just tries to stick to what's comfortable.1