No, but some people label some of their racist views in dating as preferences lol. I met a girl who said, "I would/could never date a black guy" and her reason was "culture" and she referenced what she saw in rap music videos.
She couched it to justify it and say she's not into white guys either (she was white) and that she was into Mexicans. Her boyfriend at the time was Mexican.
Same girl broke up with her boyfriend who cheated on her with some other girl and she married a white guy lol.
She's an example for me that a lot of girls and people in general have ideas in their head of things they think matter to them that really just don't fucking matter. Like a girl will have a list of things she considers as standards for any guy she dates next. That all goes out the window the moment she meets a guy she likes and breaks all her "rules" for him.
Having preferences is fine. Exing out an entire race, labeling it as "just a preference" is pretty fuckin racist lol. You could just say "I'm not into Asian girls" or whatever and people will get it. Not at all racist. It's not even trying to say you just have a preference. You're just saying based on your experience and girls you've met you have found you're not really attracted to Asian girls.
You're not saying, I WOULD NEVER be seen with an Asian girl. That's a different level.
I think it depends on the reasoning. Is it because of stereotypes like black guys have big dicks, or white people have great credit (both of which aren’t always true) or is it because of physical attraction?
My racial preferences are purely physical attraction. For the longest time I’ve dated white women because the skin complexion attracts me physically. Whenever I saw red blush against the light complexion it made me weak in the knees. I also like the straight and blonde/brown hair the common with white women. But as I got older I got more exposed to different ethnicities and honestly I find girls from every group attractive.
I just haven’t built the confidence to approach someone other than white girls because I’ve been dating them since I was in high school. It feels naturally. But honestly I’ve wanted to date Asian girls too. I’ve dated Hispanic girls. Black girls. I think it’s only Asian and Middld Eastern women i haven’t dated. But I would. I really want to 😭😭. Give me advice people!!
I really want to be more open and confident and start introducing to “any” woman. Not just white women
White women are colorful. That's what is attractive about them. Asians and those with dark brown or black hair to me are more traditional looking beauties! Like me I'm a black haired Asian woman! Filipino and take pride in that!
@TenderFantasy I definitely like the jet black hair I see a lot of Asian women with. I always see them come in at work and I'll try not to get caught gazing. Lol. Same thing at school. I always want to say something but I always feel like I'll get flat out rejected. Asian women are beautiful and the accents drive me wild
Wow lol what a triggered question! A great one nonetheless!
I'm Asian (filipina). Growing up I have always SEEN white men dating and marrying and having children with Asian women! ... I GREW UP in the US where the majority was white... unfortunately/fortunately.
From what I can observe, a lot of people ARE racist in a way that a lot of people will only pro create with their own race (to them they are preserving the racial lines/ the purities), OR they will try to "color outside the lines/think outside the box" and be the odd one out that goes and marries a person of a different race than them and mates with them (though I've seen it only rarely)! Seems like most people want to be the former (preserve their race). Also, I already know that Asians LOVE their white men! And I'm not blaming them because there ARE hot white men out there but sometimes they go for the old nasties just because they are white! Mostly that will be for the green card/visas! Then the desperate old whitees will comply JUST because they are desperate! Mexicans marry mostly mexicans. ... And if they stray then maybe the next powerful race with the most influence? And that is whites.
Oh please not everything is racist! I am interracial my parents are different races but interracial dating is not for everyone I don't get why some of y'all are trying to paint it as this amazing experience that way better then dating someone your own race. It's only great when both partners are equal in the relationships. Many times people force the other person to adapt to their culture that's is not a healthy relationship. I did interracial dating and I didn't like it because of the controlling and how if your white other races just assume you will change yourself completely to be with them. If you guys want to do that fine but me I don't believe in controlling is love so. Also, majority of people want to date their race. That's perfect fine. For example,
is it right to go on this site and try to get people to date you when it literally a site for people of the same race who want to date each other AKA not you?
"Racist" implies a conscious attitude. What features are attractive and which are not is not an issue about which we make conscious decisions. I never decided to be attracted to petite girls with small boobs and I could not justify the attraction of it was ever required. These are simply not conscious thoughts and our preferences do not reflect a conscious decision to exclude.
I am attracted to Caucasian women and Asian women, but I am not attracted to black women. If my preference is racist, then why am I attracted to Asian women?
If I am not attracted, should I pretend to be interested in a black woman just so someone on G@G won't call me racist? Isn't that horribly unfair to the woman as well as to me?
There is a HUGE difference, between “I’ve never found person of XYZ race attractive”... and “She’s attractive but I’d date if she was a different race”
Sort of? It's kind of a gray area to me, depends on the circumstances and context. I understand not being generally attracted to people of one race, or preferring one race slightly over the other. Or even for cultural reasons, like "I can't relate to people of X culture as much as people from my own culture, therefore I prefer my own culture". But if you're like "no, I could literally never date someone who's (insert race here) because I think ALL of them are (insert negative trait here)" I can't help but think there's a certain amount of racism behind that statement.
I think it's normal to have a preference for your own race but if you could never see yourself dating anyone outside your own race, I'd question your motives.
Yes I could never see myself dating anyone but a white girl. To me they are the most attractive and of course I want white babies with blue eyes like mine. Whoops, I am not political correct or woke — such a terrible person!
Depends on the reasoning. If you're simply more attracted to a certain race, then no, it isn't racist. If you're equally attracted to races but your own views of a particular race force them so seem less attractive, then that could be racist.
However, I don't see why it matters. We don't all have to be attracted to all people. There's no harm in not dating a certain race.
Consider a race outside your dating or friendship pool is discrimination based on prejudice. But racism as a concept, is much larger than your tiny little rephrase of what you think a dictionary would say.
In other words, you're speaking from a place of ignorance.
And you don't appear to be the class of sufferers, so I think. I'll listen to them, not you.
lol lol lol lol being aware race and date and have children that look like you and not of another colour is not racism. It is keeping your gene pool clean.
Next step. Explain how being into Asians and not into say, Hispanics, fits into that definition of racism. This is your chance. I will listen to what you have to say unlike these other idiots. Let’s hear it.
Ok, so here are some various resources on the topic.
No one is re-defining racism. That ignorant people want to believe a tiny little dictionary definition covers the entire concept is simply their ignorance.
@8-1DevDoc I don't agree with her "generally yes", but she didn't even say the dictionary is ignorant, you just reworded what she said to make it sound like that. She obviously was saying something else which you misinterpreted.
Again, I also think you can have a preference without being racist.
Are you talking to me? Rather hypocritical & bold to say "whether you agree or not" right after saying: "Instead of asking me to elaborate and discuss you just told me I was wrong".
You literally just implied everyone was wrong if they don't agree (or not).
There is no oppressive class. All of this is a result of culture. It has nothing to do with racism, unless that actual person is racist but then obviously we would assume that if you’re a white nationalist you’re not gonna go for black girls lol.
It’s all culture. Has nothing to do with race. If anything you can say people are “culturalist.” But that’s not the same as race.
The idea of race, is an attempt to separate human beings and claim a genetic basis for supporting the separation. That is racism.
All these “problems” the articles wrote about are functions of culture in every aspect. Except in those areas where a person is actually racist.
But, I don’t think there’s much to debate here. We would have to take several steps back and debate a lot of other core ideas first. And that’s just not going to happen.
... YOU ARE ALLOWED TO LIKE DIFFERENT PHYSICAL TRAITS OVER OTHERS! Is it racist not to like red hair as much as brown hair? Or racist to love green eyes? No, and no one would ever accuse someone of thinking that way for liking those traits. And believe it or not... these ARE equivalent comparisons. The common denominator is differing pigmentation whether in the skin, hair, or eyes. Since the only way we ever seem to really define "race" is the based on level of melanin in one's skin, it's equivalent to make a comparison between liking one hair color over another or liking one skin tone over another.
If it's okay to have preferences with hair color, eye color, personality, body-shape, etc... then no it's not racist to think different levels of skin pigmentation come with varying levels
Basically, we either need to expand our sense of differing races by hair and eye color... or we need to get over ourselves and realize we're all the same fucking species just with some different adaptations we've gotten over the years.
You mean that you are more attracted to a race by another? No, it is normal. But I don’t like to speak in terms of races, I don’t believe we are different races. But I do prefer some « types » to another, and that is nothing to do with racism. Example, I don’t feel attracted to black people, but I do recognize that some black guys can be very hot / good-looking / smart, etc. But it is subjective, and not because they are black. It works with other types like blond/pale skin guys, or ginger guys, or Asians, or I don’t know, it differs from people ;)
Racism it the belief that one race is superior to the other or that you can be superior to a group of people because of your difference in race.
Racism preference may or may not be racist depending on the person's reasoning behind racism. Person A could prefer White or Latinos over Black people because they find Black people disgusting or find them inferior. Person B could have exactly the same preference but just because they find White/Latino people more attractive and they have nothing against Black people at all. Person A is racist, person B is not.
Where these black Einsteins, where are the motor vehicles they have designed, cell phones, computers etc. DEFINITELY NO THE SAME INTELLECTUAL ABILITY AS WHITE PEOPLE
Not even a little bit, because preferences are just preferred physical traits, it's not a hard line due to hate. My husband is cuban, before him my preference was white guys but I met him and he was great in everyday and very attractive. I wouldn't leave him for a white guy just because he isn't white and I need to check that box because I hate other races... That would be racist. You can have all the preferences int he world but if you meet your perfect partner they might not check all your boxes but you won't care. Racist would meet their prefect partner and not be with them solely because of the color of their skin.
I think people here who say its isn't just never read scientifical papers, which says that preference are not exist and yes its racist. They use preference as implying a choice, while actually its only decide if you are hetero / homosexual etc. Shortly, because we can't choose to whom we are attracted we can fall in love with person of any race. And holy shit, in the beginning of human story we all were black which gives lot of info to think about. But seems thinking with own head is old fashioned today
and real life example, one of my friend said he is not into Asians. He fall in love with Korean girl and married her. So I'm sure love is blind and you can fall in love with person of any race. Actually g@g is demotivating, I think I'll delete my account soon. So here you go with disagreements and minuses
its really funny how you just disvote without saying any argument against my words. If humanity will stay like this, what kind of future will we have? I'm looking forward when majority will be replaced by robots
Why stop at race? Why not demand that I am equally attracted to men and women? Why not demand that I am attracted to people who don't share my interests or my faith? Where does it end?
Point blank, having a preference isn't racism. Racism is the categorical bias and denigration of a race. To say that "all whites can't dance" or something is racism. Preferring to date Japanese women is not racism. I can be totes ok with other people of other races and I don't have to be attracted to them. Racism is finding out ways to screw people out of jobs, homes, etc. Tolerance is saying "It's cool but not my bag, baby."
I think we should be more tolerant and part of that is to stop demanding things from one another.
I don't think so, I prefer people outside my race tbh. I'm black but i grew up in a family where the men were really shitty tbh. And our personal goals and beliefs often don't align, me with black men I mean.
I still wouldn't mind dating one it's just rarer for me fo find one attractive or appealing. I like white guys and Asian guys a lot though. Some Hispanic and Indian. I've dated all of those except for a black guy lol. Not on purpose it just happened that way. But I think the racist aspect depends in the intent of the preference. Mines is led by attractive, something I can't help.
If someone chooses based on prejudice mainly, then I think it hits racism.
Look, im not officially a 'SNOW BUNNY' But i prefer black guys & have been strictly black since 2011. So, im sure i could find you a hot black guy😌seriously. as a white girl im encouraging you to experience an interracial hook up. get back to me after you think it over, k?
Not gon lie that's kina learnin toward racist because you believe that most "Black" men are a certain way and can't line up with yo goals and beliefs..
@JDavid25 I'm not saying all, I'm saying often times the one's I've encountered didn't. For example a I'm atheiest, a lot of the ones I've met are into religion based on how they were raised. Which is fine but that doesn't align with me.
And some of them were really into me settling down and not having to work. Being a mother. And I'm not into that right now, I won't be for a while. And a lot criticized me when I showed my intelligence. They said I was acting too smart, or I talked too white. And they said I wasn't black enough because I was light skinned. And called me stuck up.
@JDavid25 But I've also met black men who treated me with respect and were very kind to me. They liked me for me, unfortunately I was already dating someone at the time so that didn't matter or couldn't go anywhere.
Thats why I said it just happened that I never got to date one yet. And I'm not opposed to it, I like all men. But it's rarer for me to really find black men attractive. I can normally tell right away based off how they say things and carry themselves. Thats the indicator for me.
But at the end of the day.. You are talkin about a certain culture of "Black" men.. And also the "Black" dudes you have met.. Which is a small minority... I'm always wary when someone says "I've dated and liked every group but these group of people".. Then it's a bias that they don't care to confront because "It's just what I like".. But many times it's much deeper than that..
@JDavid25 Well, I'm aware I'm talking about a small group of black men, that's why I said not all black men. And it's unfortunate I haven't gotten to date a good black man yet but if I had the chance I would.
But so far my best experiences have been outside my race. So by default, my preference is there because that's what I'm familiar with. So maybe familiarity equals some form of bias, but I'm open to anything and I give everyone a chance so it's not that big a deal to me. Also, being bisexual along with everything, my options are pretty widespread so It depends on how life rolls out and who i click to more as an individual.
Well that's fine if you feel more attracted to and date the guys you feel more comfy wit.. My main gripe was the reasonin initially... But I understand what you are sayin..
Oh no we were always good.. 😅... I guess I was just waitin for yo clarification.. Also I never thought you were racist.. I was just talkin about what I thought the action meant..
In a way it's racist. But there negative and positive racist thinking. A positive would be like saying Latinos cook the best tacos. A negative would be someone saying Latinos aren't as smart as white people. Real racism is thinking your race is superior to another. It's not someone not being attracted to a certain race. I myself happen to think mix races make some beautiful people.
PinkMichae Naive at best. All the tech and electricity cars etc were designed by superior intellectually White Men and WOMEN. What has the other race brought to the table except that they breed like rabbits?
Everyone. @Badballie has given the perfect example of being racist in a bad way. He thinks because white men has had many years of opportunities to invent things that some other races haven't had, that makes whites people superior. But it takes all kinds of people from different countries to help build the tech we have. Not to mention Asians have come up with great technology. A lot of technology we use was designed and built by them. Other countries that are known for their architecture, fashion, etc... With that said I bet there are people from other races that are more successful than @Badballie and are laughing him all the way to the bank.
And @Badballie don't forget we are all part of one race. The human race. So stop inflating your ego just because you are white and that alone makes you special and superior. Cuz it doesn't. In my experience people that have to get their ego boost from their skin color has nothing else to get it from because they haven't done anything else worthwhile.
No @PinkMichae we are not all the same race. Races are subspecies. If you were in nature and saw a black bird and a white bird, each with different sizes, cultures and habits, you’d classify them differently. Most of your thoughts are your emotions. Whites have contributed much more to the planet than others. That’s a fact. Blacks have been here much longer than whites and didn’t so much with it. In fact, watch National Geographic and some blacks still live like they did 50,000 years ago. Unbelievable!
And @PinkMichae if I say Latinos and blacks score lower on IQ Tests than whites and and Asians, is that racist or a fact? Typical liberal — if facts disagree with their opinions, then it is racist.
You may think hybrid babies are “beautiful” but objectively speaking, that is totally incorrect from a proportions based Analysis of beautiful. The hybrids are almost always better looking than their black parent which is what makes you think they are beautiful
@joesheks listen. Yes we have our differences but we are all human as well.
As to your question I would say it's racist and sometimes a fact. Because there are plenty of black or Latino people that have higher IQ's and plenty of white and Asian people who have lower IQ's. Not all racist things said are always negative like I said. But even if you say something racist by generalizing that you think is positive, it's not always positive to some. Like the assumption that Asian people are really good at math. Now it may sound like a compliment to Asians except the Asians that aren't good at math and feel like they are inadequate because they don't fit a stereotype.
The facts are anyone that is judging others by the color of their skin good or bad is saying something racist.
@PinkMichae I’m not sure what mean by plenty regarding blacks and IQ. The black IQ average is at the 16th percentile of whites. So the gap is quite large. Perhaps you may think it’s no big deal, but when America is a third world country and Europe continues to decline because they wanted to be “hip” maybe you’ll understand that having a bunch of low IQ folks in your country doesn’t help. Reality isn’t always pleasant or nice but we cannot turn away from it. If I see a black and assume that he has an IQ relatively low, that is common sense. Just as if I see a rattle snake, I am cautious. The problem is that millions of people like you are brainwashed into believing that we’re all very similar and the differences are superficial.. this entire civilization is built on the backs of our ancestors (whites) who sacrificed so much to build the most advanced civilization in history. And you really think that an Afrocentric civilization would be more beneficial? Please don’t ignore what is in front of you.
@PinkMichae do you ponder why there are no black first world countries OR why blacks never invented a written language? Can you admit that they are generally very primitive where they have no lt come into contact with whites? We literally dragged them several thousands of years ahead — but we won’t get any thanks. We have literally been programmed to think in terms of racism instead of facts. Their lower IQs is why they could never invent a written language or establish a successful nation. And IQ is largely genetic so the situation is terminal. They simply haven’t evolved enough to compete or live in our civilization. Why do you think there is always unrest or turmoil? Racism right? We whites hate nonwhites so much that Asians have higher IQs, lower arrest rates and higher incomes than whites. It certainly couldn’t be that blacks and whites simply aren’t suited to live together. It couldn’t be that they have a higher proclivity for crime. It couldn’t be that they make terrible fathers. You do need to learn to understand generalities because you are missing the forest for the trees.
No I don't ponder those things. I don't care if black people on average have a lower IQ. I don't judge individuals with generalizations. What I meant was there are plenty of black people that are smarter than white people in the world. Maybe not in general. But that depends on if the study took college educated white people and tested them against uneducated black people.
Regardless I don't care. We are all still people at the end of the day and offer different strengths and weaknesses.
Also you just did exactly what a leftist would do by assuming I'm a liberal and calling anyone I don't agree with racist. I only call people racist that fit the definition of someone who judges others by their skin color.
I'm a conservative woman that is use to being called a racist, nazi, white supremacist simply because I'm conservative. But you have the right to believe and think what you want despite it being racist. I just don't agree with you because I believe in the individual and not the generalization.
Yes and no. Yes, if you choose a partner purely based on their race. No if you are particularly attracted to a race but factor in all other aspects of a relationship too.
There is a little known threshold (little known because I made it up) called the golden brown threshold. Most who are darker than this, they're race are attracted to those lighter than this skin tone. Those who are lighter than this prefer those who are darker than themselves (tall dark and handsome).
Therefore, choosing without being racist, we should see more mixed race people in the world now hitting that golden brown color. Like the beautiful Naomi Scott, starring in Aladdin and Charlie's Angels.
It depends why. Some are for racist reasons, some just don't find it attractive. I'm mixed and I do not find men from one of my races attractive at all, and that is my own race (or one of them at least) I am not racist to them, they're just unattractive to me.
Well first of all people should understand the word racism. It's not cool to relate everything to racism. Now TBH I don't get attracted towards some east Asians or Africans or even Indians sometimes that doesn't mean I hate them. It's biological your brain just doesn't click it meanwhile I also find many European, Russian and American women so attractive but i don't get attracted to every single women. It's your own preference and choice unless you are shouting and insulting that person for their color or looks or skin. We Are All Africans TBH
It's racist if someone is absolutely disgusted by a specific race just because they are that race. Everyone can say that they have a racial preference but often times end up liking someone that isn't that race because us humans fall in love with each other based on personality. I say that I prefer Asians because I do like them however I could equally like someone that is hispanic. I personally do not find black people as attractive as I do whites and Asians because I just prefer pale skin HOWEVER I still find blacks and all other races to be absolutely gorgeous. I think I could generally find anyone attractive once I get to know them. Racial preferences kind of melt away when you get to know someone, unless of course you are a racist. I like Asians a lot, but I can look at an Asian and decide them to be unattractive. I don't intimately prefer blacks but I can look at a black person and decide I want them intimately. A racist will make no exceptions.. at all.
Most definitely not. I’m mixed with caucasian, Africa America, and Native American. And personally I prefer Asian women. Why, because I feel that they have a stronger work ethic, more submissive. Not because I want someone to control. I just feel like there is less drama with them. And also because I feel like they are genuinely kind people with 0 motives behind it. I’ve dated all kinds and types of women keep in mind. Plenty of every race. It’s just my personal opinion and preference. There’s nothing racist about it.
No. Racist means you exclude them from things in which there is advantageous or beneficial things in which both deserve equality for. Not wanting to date outside your race doesn't make you racist. If so, then dating only outside your sex, makes you sexist.
We don't need to justify why we only date our race only. It is not hating on a black woman if I date white women only or Asian women. She's not being misfortunate by me giving her no chance at dating me. She's not being unfairly disadvantaged or losing any rights that she should have. It's a preference. Preferences can't be immoral if there is solid reasoning.
Racism-a belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race
Racism-racial prejudice or discrimination.
These are the definitions of racism. So basically, to answer your question, yes and no. The intention isn't to exclude if you have a preference, it's just more of what your attracted too or what makes you feel more comfortable. Yes, there is a hint of racism in it, but I don't think it's hate, it's just simply what you like more.
Like for me, I don't necessarily think pale white women are super attractive. I much rather have someone with some complexion and tone in there skin. Darker hair, and a richer cultural history. That's my preference, doesn't mean I won't go for a pale white girl if she fit all the boxes on my list of values..
Its a preference, a type, its not like you are disrespecting people. Its like saying: I will not probably date an overweight 5 feet tall ginger... just not my type. You can't choose who are you attracted to
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