You cannot choose who you are attracted to. Romance does not work like that. So the answer is no. You like what you like. I mean, please tell me how you can force yourself to be physically attracted to people you just are not.
Racism is hate for a race. Thinking they are below you. Having romantic preferences is not hating anyone.
@TenderFantasy What is wrong with not wanting to date someone who has a different culture than me and may lead to conflicts? Example in my country many native black people are still very traditional in terms of believing in witchcraft, labola (giving cows to your future husband's parents), ancestors, sending your kids to initiation school, slaughtering animals to bless your family etc...
My culture is completely different. So am I supposed to just not care about these differences?
I don't think so. I'm not particularly attracted to black girls, not because I think they're inferior, but because I don't find their features attractive. This doesn't mean that others wouldn't find them attractive. I'm most attracted to Asian, white, and mixed Asian-White girls.
I do find other races of races of girls attractive, however, just with black girls I find them the least attractive. But there are guys out who find them the most attractive.
It's complicated honestly... People usually think of racism as this "hate" extreme KKK pure evil type thing when it's more nuanced than that.. Simply thinkin a race is better in any type of way is racism.. Even if you don't hate any race. Most people don't hate another "race".. In the end I think many times a "racial" preference can be racist... Every group is beautiful and exclusionary practices of that kind should be questioned... People will like who they like though..
Is not being attracted to fat people prejudice? Or not being attracted to unattractive people prejudice? No. Your not basing their entire behavior and worth on their race or physical attribute ergo its not racist. You are not saying one group is inherently superior because of their race, ergo its not racist. Its a preference, that's it.
It’s no different than any other preference. Some people choose not to date those who are overweight, smokers, weed users, etc. Many, regardless of race, choose to date within their own race. It’s their prerogative. I don’t need to go out with anyone of another race to prove I’m not racist.
In some cases it can be, like if it was a deciding factor and you refused to be with someone because of their race then yeah thats racist. But if it's just a preference and not a deciding factor then its generally okay. I typically prefer brunettes but if a blonde or red head were interested in me and it was mutual I wouldn't turn them down because they didn't fit my preference. Same with eyes, body, height, and skin color as well.
It can be, depending on how the preference developed. If it’s based on stereotypes or you believe your chosen race is superior, that would be racist, but if it’s purely physical or you want someone who shares your culture, that’s okay. I still encourage everyone not to completely disregard potential partners because of their race, even if your preference isn’t based on racism. Someone might not be how you imagined your partner but you don’t want to miss out on an amazing relationship.
for dating? no. For pretty much anything else in life? yes. As such, it's tricky to pull off a "dating only" preference without it being derived from other things in life, rather than just being purely superficial, so having a racial preference in dating tends to indicate racism.
No. It's just a preference like prefering blondes over red haired people. Or prefering thin over thick. Or prefering smart over stupid people. You have certain preferences and with them you pick your partner. Prefering a biologically women over a trans women is also not being transphobic. It's your preference.
I think it's racist when white girls "have a preference" for their own white men or Asian or Spanish guys because they think they're superior to black men, yet get annoyed by black men who have a preference for white girls.
Even worse when these white girls won't date black men, but will date white or Spanish guys who act and talk black.
Is preferring a girl with larger breasts "perky shaming"? Is preferring dad bods over tall mascular men emasculating and sexist? Is preferring McDonalds to Burger King shaming of Burger King employees?
I have no idea where I'm going with this to be honest lol. I just know I prefer white girls and latinas over other races.
I don't think it is. It's just your preference. There's nothing wrong with it. It's racist if you start showing prejudice towards them or if you start being stereotypical rude and just racist.
You mean having a sexual preference for certain ethnicities? If that’s what you mean then of course not, you should only go after those who you’re attracted to, I rarely find a black woman attractive, most black women just aren’t attractive to me, I can’t help it. That’s not racism at all, racism is unequal treatment of people based on their race
Yes it is. You are saying one race is more beautiful/attractive than another. Therefore one race is superior, while the other is inferior. People are instinctively racist, despite all the social engineering to make people more open to interracial relationships.
Fuck my life, no it's not. Get the the fuck over yourself, not everyones gonna like you. The people who think it is are a bunch of fucking pussy, whiny, bitchy, dumbfuck, crybabies. Who fucking gives a shit who finds you attractive or not.
I don't have one, I've literally dated most races at this point, but I say to each there own. My boyfriend told me that he had a thing for white girls (and I'm white)
Meh, I honestly don't care too much. I think there is a difference between fetishizing and having a preference. For example, if you only date Asian women, and don't care about the individuals personality or anything else besides their race, that might be fetishizing. If race is the only qualification, it might be fetishizing. But if you just find yourself more likely to be attracted to a particular race, and also looked at each individual as a person, then I wouldn't say that's fetishizing.
U think racism is based on a lot of things than just hate.. Let's say you think "White" guys simply look better.. Than that means in a way you believe "White" guys are superior.. Which would then be... Kina racist.. Sure you could say "I can't help that".. But over time you can opened yo mind tk the possibility of there bein a bias..
@JDavid25 I'm young remember, still learning over here. :P
I don't have a racial preference. I'd go by things like you said, if I feel more comfortable with someone, though I don't even want to date or anything yet.
Aw yeah of course.. I ain't puttin nothin against you.. 😎👉.. Just puttin my opinion out there.. I don't have much of a preference either.. I think all groups of women are beautiful.. But really? 16 is usually the time people get crazy about datin.. Lol..
@JDavid25 Well, I've got bigger things to focus on. I don't wanna be stuck broke all my life, so I'd rather focus on getting a career, preferably in writing, so I can be more financially stable when I'm older, try to pay off my student debt when I get one, and then help my little brother pay off his when he gets one, and then help my parents if they need it when they're old.
Aw okay, that's good!.. Shoo, got yo priorities straight.. No hate from me for that here.. 😎👉.. You are doin the right thing.. Somethin many other teenagers should be doin..
Liberal dilemma. Technically you are discriminating against races if you have a preference, which equals racism. However, all people have no control over who they are attracted to, which the left uses to support LGBT. The general consensus is that racial preference isn't prejudicial but biological and therefore acceptable to an extent.
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You cannot choose who you are attracted to. Romance does not work like that. So the answer is no. You like what you like. I mean, please tell me how you can force yourself to be physically attracted to people you just are not.
Racism is hate for a race. Thinking they are below you. Having romantic preferences is not hating anyone.
How do YOU know that it's not cultural and that you did not "choose" who you were attracted to?
@TenderFantasy What is wrong with not wanting to date someone who has a different culture than me and may lead to conflicts? Example in my country many native black people are still very traditional in terms of believing in witchcraft, labola (giving cows to your future husband's parents), ancestors, sending your kids to initiation school, slaughtering animals to bless your family etc...
My culture is completely different. So am I supposed to just not care about these differences?
I don't think so. I'm not particularly attracted to black girls, not because I think they're inferior, but because I don't find their features attractive. This doesn't mean that others wouldn't find them attractive. I'm most attracted to Asian, white, and mixed Asian-White girls.
I do find other races of races of girls attractive, however, just with black girls I find them the least attractive. But there are guys out who find them the most attractive.
It's complicated honestly... People usually think of racism as this "hate" extreme KKK pure evil type thing when it's more nuanced than that.. Simply thinkin a race is better in any type of way is racism.. Even if you don't hate any race. Most people don't hate another "race".. In the end I think many times a "racial" preference can be racist... Every group is beautiful and exclusionary practices of that kind should be questioned... People will like who they like though..
Is not being attracted to fat people prejudice? Or not being attracted to unattractive people prejudice? No. Your not basing their entire behavior and worth on their race or physical attribute ergo its not racist. You are not saying one group is inherently superior because of their race, ergo its not racist. Its a preference, that's it.
It’s no different than any other preference. Some people choose not to date those who are overweight, smokers, weed users, etc. Many, regardless of race, choose to date within their own race. It’s their prerogative. I don’t need to go out with anyone of another race to prove I’m not racist.
In some cases it can be, like if it was a deciding factor and you refused to be with someone because of their race then yeah thats racist. But if it's just a preference and not a deciding factor then its generally okay. I typically prefer brunettes but if a blonde or red head were interested in me and it was mutual I wouldn't turn them down because they didn't fit my preference. Same with eyes, body, height, and skin color as well.
It can be, depending on how the preference developed. If it’s based on stereotypes or you believe your chosen race is superior, that would be racist, but if it’s purely physical or you want someone who shares your culture, that’s okay. I still encourage everyone not to completely disregard potential partners because of their race, even if your preference isn’t based on racism. Someone might not be how you imagined your partner but you don’t want to miss out on an amazing relationship.
for dating? no. For pretty much anything else in life? yes. As such, it's tricky to pull off a "dating only" preference without it being derived from other things in life, rather than just being purely superficial, so having a racial preference in dating tends to indicate racism.
No. It's just a preference like prefering blondes over red haired people. Or prefering thin over thick. Or prefering smart over stupid people. You have certain preferences and with them you pick your partner. Prefering a biologically women over a trans women is also not being transphobic. It's your preference.
Well the real woman over trans woman is more than preference its basically our genetics and to with carry on the speices
I have been dated before because I was Asian by a woman of a different race, not because of my personality or whatever.
Thing is, I get that some women prefer dating certain races and all, but when I'm dated just because I'm Asian and nothing else, it just feels bad.
Is it racist? No, I wouldn't say so, but it just feels off.
I think it's racist when white girls "have a preference" for their own white men or Asian or Spanish guys because they think they're superior to black men, yet get annoyed by black men who have a preference for white girls.
Even worse when these white girls won't date black men, but will date white or Spanish guys who act and talk black.
Is preferring a girl with larger breasts "perky shaming"? Is preferring dad bods over tall mascular men emasculating and sexist? Is preferring McDonalds to Burger King shaming of Burger King employees?
I have no idea where I'm going with this to be honest lol. I just know I prefer white girls and latinas over other races.
Larger breast could be perky too lol. 🤔🤔 I think you mean “smaller breasts shaming”
@lexiflexs I thought about that but it just sounded kind of dumb.
I don't think it is. It's just your preference. There's nothing wrong with it. It's racist if you start showing prejudice towards them or if you start being stereotypical rude and just racist.
You mean having a sexual preference for certain ethnicities? If that’s what you mean then of course not, you should only go after those who you’re attracted to, I rarely find a black woman attractive, most black women just aren’t attractive to me, I can’t help it. That’s not racism at all, racism is unequal treatment of people based on their race
Yes it is. You are saying one race is more beautiful/attractive than another. Therefore one race is superior, while the other is inferior. People are instinctively racist, despite all the social engineering to make people more open to interracial relationships.
I am birracial myself. (Mexican and Italian)
Fuck my life, no it's not. Get the the fuck over yourself, not everyones gonna like you. The people who think it is are a bunch of fucking pussy, whiny, bitchy, dumbfuck, crybabies. Who fucking gives a shit who finds you attractive or not.
actually scientists say that it is racist, but whoever read scientifical papers instead of watching media and believe bullshit
@tanya110290232 "scientists say that it is racist"... Sounds legit
@guy23454 The kind of scientists you find in gender studies.
Wow those are some strong words! ... Don't you want a baby? I do!
@guy23454 @Guanfei they studied medicine and biology, and really nobody asks you to change your opinion. It's just fact
You just need to chill out a while. Racists aren't around every corner waiting to pounce on you FFS. Here, relax a while and watch a nice video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjFnVTxteDsI don't have one, I've literally dated most races at this point, but I say to each there own. My boyfriend told me that he had a thing for white girls (and I'm white)
Your boyfriend fetishized you (That's racist lol).
Meh, I honestly don't care too much. I think there is a difference between fetishizing and having a preference. For example, if you only date Asian women, and don't care about the individuals personality or anything else besides their race, that might be fetishizing. If race is the only qualification, it might be fetishizing. But if you just find yourself more likely to be attracted to a particular race, and also looked at each individual as a person, then I wouldn't say that's fetishizing.
If you have a personal preference that's not racist.
But if you're going to hate on other races because of your personal preference then that is racist.
U think racism is based on a lot of things than just hate.. Let's say you think "White" guys simply look better.. Than that means in a way you believe "White" guys are superior.. Which would then be... Kina racist.. Sure you could say "I can't help that".. But over time you can opened yo mind tk the possibility of there bein a bias..
I**...
“personal preference” about dating other races,
is mostly code for
“I have a reason that is considered racist but I don’t wanna say it”
@JDavid25 I guess that makes sense, I never thought about it that way, to be honest. :)
Of course.. Now, if you simply are just more comfortable with them because you feel like you could relate to them more.. Then that's fine.. 😊..
@JDavid25 I'm young remember, still learning over here. :P
I don't have a racial preference. I'd go by things like you said, if I feel more comfortable with someone, though I don't even want to date or anything yet.
Aw yeah of course.. I ain't puttin nothin against you.. 😎👉.. Just puttin my opinion out there.. I don't have much of a preference either.. I think all groups of women are beautiful.. But really? 16 is usually the time people get crazy about datin.. Lol..
@JDavid25 Well, I've got bigger things to focus on. I don't wanna be stuck broke all my life, so I'd rather focus on getting a career, preferably in writing, so I can be more financially stable when I'm older, try to pay off my student debt when I get one, and then help my little brother pay off his when he gets one, and then help my parents if they need it when they're old.
Aw okay, that's good!.. Shoo, got yo priorities straight.. No hate from me for that here.. 😎👉.. You are doin the right thing.. Somethin many other teenagers should be doin..
Liberal dilemma. Technically you are discriminating against races if you have a preference, which equals racism. However, all people have no control over who they are attracted to, which the left uses to support LGBT. The general consensus is that racial preference isn't prejudicial but biological and therefore acceptable to an extent.