Is a racial preference normal?

Question

Is it like hair or eye color? Or is it racist or is it super weird.

Though, I think people being attracted to someone different then themselves is pretty normal. But when it’s too much of a fetish it becomes weird to me

alice55 · Accepted Answer

I think it's weird to have a preference for someone other than your own race but I don't really care what people do

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Yes, of course. It is very rare to have anything in common with someone of another race.

ohsheeT · Answer

I Think it's called choice. And who you choose is no one's Business. This is your life , so that means what it means.

We are all here to learn to become the best we can become. In doing so no matter what it is. If it bring out the best in us and makes us happy. That's all that counts
if it makes you love deeper , and give you Clarity
And a truer meaning of self and other it's a beautiful thing.

I THINK when we find who or what we are looking for. And we live life as one. The world becomes a smaller place you live in that happiness you smile and say hi to everyone. You help others if you see them struggling there is no judgement. There is no racism there is not hate there's just life. To give of yourself to others to become the best you can become. So be happy make your life meaningful and share it with who every you want

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

There is a skool of thought that suggests that genetic diversity is generally better for the gene pool. Some would argue that we are predisposed to selecting mates with differing characteristics for that reason. Evolutionary biology suggests that we might provide our offspring with a better chance of survival by unconsciously selecting someone whose strengths and weaknesses are complementary to our own. There’s also something to be said for the adaptability of progeny raised multiculturally. A familiarity with broader customs and likely multiple languages increases the chances of assimilating with different tribes and ensuring the bloodline continues.

DishLady · Answer

A lot of people are asking racial preference questions this week. I don't know why.

I guess each person has their preference in height or personality or whatever. "Racial preference" can also just boil down to a cultural/regional preference, so it might be a little difficult to pinpoint.

Avicenna · Answer

It is, even among most people who date all races and ethnicities.

Cormac995 · Answer

Statistically yes. It's been proven that on average white people normally mate with white people, Asians with Asians and black people with black people etc. There're obviously exceptions, but most people prefer to date people of the same race or ethnicity with a small age gap. Also, it's been proven that we all look alike to each other to some extent.

If all black or Asian people look alike to you as a white guy it's not inherently racist it's your brain doing pattern recognition. Because of them having a different facial structure than you, you focus on the patterns you see and not the smaller subtle details that let them tell each other apart and again studies have shown this applies to everyone.

A lot of black people think all white people look alike and a lot of Asians think black people all look alike hell just look at Anime with black people in it it's basically the same character over and over regardless of anime. This is also part of why if you have like one black or Asian friend you can usually pick them out of a crowd but the rest will still mostly look the same to you.

It's because you have been around your friend enough you've broken past pattern recognition with them by being regally exposed to what they look like as opposed to strangers you pass in the street. Also, to a certain extent a little bit of "racism" is natural and again it's been shown all people are slightly racist and again it normally ties to pattern recognition, but white people are all a little racist just like black people Asians etc are too.

Basically, we all have subtle negative responses to things foreign to us because it's a natural response to potential danger. From a monkey perspective as humans when we see a strange monkey from another troop our natural reaction is caution because we don't know their intent. It's instinct.

What real racism really comes down to is how you act and treat people. If you treat them with the same respect and dignity you treat everyone else, you aren't a racist really. That slight knee jerk reaction is normal but as long as you keep reaching out to everyone regardless of race with your human side over your monkey side in my opinion you're not a real racist.

Real racists are mean, discriminate and spread hate deliberately. They actively wish harm or misfortune on others and treat them as a separate group from other groups they like and make it clearly known with words and actions. That's racism.

Datboi65 · Answer

Do you like coffee or tea? Scrambled eggs or fried eggs? IPhone or android?

People always have to pick a choice between different options in their daily lives. Dating is no different. Most people pick the choice that they're mostly familiar with, while others like to explore.

When it comes to racial preferences, most people prefer their own. No, it's not racist to like your own people, because then the vast majority would be considered racist.

The ones that typically have a type that is outside of their race typically do so because:

A) They cannot fit in with their community for some reason (perhaps they were bullied by their peers for being quite/different) or if their "first crush" was from a different race

B) Are influenced by movies/television/ social media (their favorite character is played by someone from another race)

C) They decided to date outside of their race once and had a mind-blowing experience that completely changed their type.

Apart from that, most people prefer their race and that's it. In the age of social media however, we have plenty of people that like to share too much on the internet (aka TMI) and tell us on twitter or on random interviews what their type is, and I mean there's nothing wrong with that, but it's definitely attention-seeking behavior. There was a cringe-worthy trend on tiktok a while back of white women lip-syncing "I love you Black man" sound and a bunch of other brainrot that's basically people telling us what their type is.

I personally don't care or judge people what they like. To each their own. However, I think that trying too hard to impress the demographic that you're attracted to by making stupid clips online/ asking them on street interviews if they like your ethnic group is cringe asf and it can definitely turn many people off from interracial dating.

Anonymous · Answer

Whether you're a literal racist or not, I, nor anyone else, can force you to like something you don't think/feel you like. Like why do I want to date someone who is either super obsessed with me because of my race, alone, or who hates me because of my race, alone? As with any other dating check box, I think you should keep at least some type of open mind towards things not falling into every box you check, including race, but again, that's me and my opinion, and if someone doesn't feel that way, life moves on.

Screenwriter · Answer

People usually choose the people they grew up with, encountered in their churches, schools, neighborhoods, through organized play like baseball, soccer.

If all of these people looked like you ethnically, it's more than likely you'd find yourself attracted to similar folk.

Also might have to do with the makeup of your family. Some families are socially and ethnically diverse. Others aren't.

And sometimes people are bored with the similarity of their familiar group and do look outside of what they've always known to see what's out there, so they sample people of different backgrounds to see, "are they that different?"

And often, what they find out is humans are very similar, but, it's socio-economics and education that are more stringent lines of demarcation between people.

itsannalee · Answer

Well i only have 4 ex and they all different.
1. Asian 2. French 3. French mixed Arab 4. Italian American.
And my current partner is Turkish mixed Arab, and i’m Han Chinese mixed Javanese. And I don’t think gave any preference is racist. As ling as they don’t hate other races and treat them bad.

Anonymous · Answer

Preferences are normal, hard lines when it comes to categorizing people is bigoted and short sighted.

I am a transwoman and when I came out one of my best friends had some really transphobic things to say, a few years later he called me up and ate his words and told me he had fallen in love with a transwoman. Initially he had a bigoted position, and the universe made him shift

Personally, I dont prefer to date black men, I find certain language that is culturally accepted within their community to be obnoxious... (I can be a stickler for grammar) my current boyfriend is black, and most of his family is well educated and well spoken, and I love them to death.

So, we're we bigoted, I guess not so much because we didn't draw a hard line based on uncontrollable qualities of people, but we had preferences, and the universe had other ideas.

Anonymous · Answer

Nah, it is not. I do not think racial preferences are as harmless as they might seem. Often, they reveal underlying racism, whether people realize it or not. Certain physical traits, like blue eyes / green eyes or blonde / redhead, are often idealized, while others, like brown eyes or darker hair, are unfairly judged or looked down upon. This goes beyond simple attraction and can become a fetish. So, in my opinion, racial preferences are not really normal; they are problematic and usually rooted in racial prejudice.

slatyb · Answer

It's not "super weird". It's fairly common for people to be attracted to the exotic. There are many reasons we may find someone attractive, appearance, personality, and that's how we get together.
But when it's a fetish, when they are objectifying the other, that doesn't lead to a happy partnership.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Partner attraction is individual. I don't care. Some of the women I've dated later admitted that they only date guys with lighter colored eyes. Some like tall. Some like petite. Do what works for you.

Hating people because of inherited traits is another matter.

Anonymous · Answer

I think to but also linked to religion and culture. Like at school there was a Pakistani older boy that was always asking me out, praising my ginger hair, blue eyes and pale skin but I would never date a Pakistani and I told him as much, of course he didn't take it well.

abbyjgriffin98 · Answer

I think if it is just the physical appearance you are attracted to, I don't see it being odd. But if you only like the race because of a fantasy you have about said race, that can be a pretty unhealthy mindset. I think if you date a fantasy, all you'll see them as is a fantasy. But people who are adult enough to date can make their own choices. As long as the relationship is between two consenting adults, I don't see an issue.

AlenAHHHH · Answer

Yea like any preference is normal. People like who they like.

avery58 · Answer

It's weird and racist if it's a fetish or you degrade those who aren't your preference (or even your preference, by stereotypes or sexualization). Other than that, no.

qwerty2469 · Answer

No. Things I hold dear like consideration, politeness, being on time, not being violent are all white supremacist traits. Or traits only found in white people. I found this to be true. Other white people aren't only a preference its a must. Im glad my 3 daughters were taught to be racist by all the blacks and browns they go to school with. The white man marches on.

Anonymous · Answer

Keyword preference. Everyone has their own attractions. People can get shocked when they find a match outside their usual comfort zone.

NathanDavis · Answer

preferences are preferences... racism is racism and fetishes are fetishes... all of these three are very different things of their own

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I think that our preferences indicate our state of mind. When people have a narrow mind, their interests and views also will be "narrow".

dragoblack · Answer

I think it's less about skin color, and more about cultural differences... which is understandable. Cultural compatability of ideology is important for most people.
I personally don't have a problem with women of a different skin color, but even I'm weary of the toxic parts of their cultures. I take it on a person to person basis, because, not everyone follows the culture they are born into.
In the end what is important is your reasoning & intentions behind your preference.

WhiteThought · Answer

It's sexual preference, not racial preference. Most of sexual attraction is all visual, and some races may do it for you, some may not.

AndrésC64 · Answer

I'd say that it's not unusual, but likely influenced by what people have seen. I like girls of all races, but I do have a preference for black hair and darker skin like latinas or Indians.

Blackcat1952 · Answer

Honestly, yes We all do it to a point. Bad or good right or wrong everybody does it of all colors 💯 racism now. They might force it on you because how things are now but officially no

BeechImFabulous · Answer

By default, I think that people should prefer their own race, religion, nationality, etc., because it's just easier and helps to maintain group identity and cohesion.

But some individuals are outliers, and that's totally fine. Just don't racially fetishize, and everything is good. I certainly wouldn't want a woman to want me just because I'm Caucasian and blue-eyed.

Staximus · Answer

You're never going to stop "birds of a feather flock together". It's been that way since the dawn of time.

FreyaRed · Answer

Yes it is. People feel attracted to certain phenotype they are accustomed too and those phenotype occur in some races relatively often in others they don't.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Though I'm into dark-skinned, beautiful, buxom black cowgirls, I of course LOVE a buxom blonde best !!!

SotiCoto · Answer

Given most people stick to dating within their race, I'd say it is normal, yes.
And yes, it is somewhat racist. But in practice it tends to be more of a cultural familiarity thing rather than a genetic thing.

grega239 · Answer

Why wouldn't it be?  Why does anyone care?

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

I hope not. In which I mean the normal part.

DonaldDarko · Answer

It's either a fetish or it's been programmed into them on purpose to think race mixing is the norm.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I think it’s normal, but I personally don’t have one

jazzy34 · Answer

I have a racial preference. I’m not racist, though.

Smegskull · Answer

An unexplainable "I'm just not attracted." is probably fine. A "I would never be attracted, because of X, Y, Z" is probably a prejudice seeking a rationality.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Not really. People have art preference, then its only normal that they have dating preference as well and it includes racial preference.

lightbulb27 · Answer

odd to me but seen it before.

Anonymous · Answer

It's personal choice of every individual. From their perspective, it's normal.

Anonymous · Answer

It's perfectly fine to prefer a particular skin color or nationality IMHO

SuperZonicGUY1992 · Answer

Just admit that you're a racist maga.

tatiydg · Answer

Yes I only date black men.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Seems pretty normal...

mattthefatbat · Answer

Natural selection

Anonymous · Answer

Its weird asf in my humble opinion

Wodens_Apprentice · Answer

Anything to the contrary is not normal.

Abbiii · Answer

Yeaa

HДLILБΞУ · Answer

It is normal, I confirm..

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I like big booty latinas 🤷🏼‍♂️

Anonymous · Answer

Totaly normal

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