Is having a racial preference racist according to you? Why/why not?

[Babygirl_S]

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11 mo

A person wouldn't prefer any race if they didn't think they're superior to all others. So it essentially means that even though a person is open to dating all races, they would reject someone for their preferred race. People don't like to admit but it's racist to discriminate like that based on race. The best one can do is accept that they're a racist.

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11 mo

I see... so everyone thinks they can have a preference but when I say I prefer x race they try to force me to like y race. I know my rights.

[KostasKouvalis]

I mean, it CAN be, but it doesn't have to be. But there certainly must at least be some biased. But honestly, I don't think it's wrong to not want to date certain races, because you find them inferior to others. Not all races are equal. That's just a fact. And if that hurts you, go crawl into your little safe space. Racism is a form of discrimination. Just because you believe someone is inferior to you, it doesn't mean you will discriminate against them. And I can date whoever I want.
The funny thing is, there are people who have preference for their own race, yet throw a hissy fit when someone doesn't find their race attractive, yet also at the same time, if you ARE attracted to their race, they accuse you of fetishizing them. It's like if you're White, no matter who you're attracted to, it will be problematic, so I honestly stopped giving a fuck. People need to just mind their own fucking business.

[Babygirl_S]

You sound bitter. I wouldn't mind being fetishised by a white man. In fact I like being objectified.

[KostasKouvalis]

I sound bitter? How so? None of that was directed towards YOU. I'm talking in a general sense, though I did have one specific black user in mind when I wrote that.

I know you wouldn't. And if I'm completely honest, reading your other posts, I think it is YOU who is bitter because you can't get a White man.

[Babygirl_S]

I don't live around white men. What makes you think I can't get one to like me?

[KostasKouvalis]

I don't think that. YOU do! At least that's the vibe I'm getting from your posts. Like the one you just made about White men not finding Indian girls attractive and saying that all White men think they all have bad hygiene and smell like curry.

[Babygirl_S]

I really don't. I live in India. White men are just a fantasy. I have seen a lot of their opinions on the internet and honestly, there is some pretty racist stuff out there.

[KostasKouvalis]

I'm confused why would give me MHO, but thanks

[inhua]

the dating market is the only place where participants can legally discriminate others even based on things outside of their control

of course this can be weaponized if you can't kill someone, you prevent them from procreating in which they might as well commit suicide

[Cynicaldreamer]

This is a loaded question-

Most people will say, "No! Because it's what I like..." which yes, is fine and it's a preference: you can't control what you're attracted to.

It just comes off as seeming racist because you're closing your options to a particular race (s) and not allowing others a chance, even if they check every other standard you're looking for in a relationship.

Put it this way- imagine someone saying, "I don't dating (insert race here) women." Yet she has everything else a guy is looking for in a relationship. But he won't date her due to her race. Well now he's restricted his dating options, and has to look doubly hard to find someone else that matches that within his preferences... all because he refuses to give a certain race a chance.

[KostasKouvalis]

Maybe I don't want dark skinned or slanty-eyed babies. Is that so wrong? Though there are also other reasons. They may be based in stereotypes, but so what? I am under no obligation to be attracted to your race.

[Blackcupcake]

I do not think it’s racist if someone has a racial preference. what is racist is, someone going out of their way to hate on, and make offensive comments about the race/races they are not attracted to. everyone has preferences, more or less and everyone has the right to enjoy their preferences. but having a preference doesn’t give anyone a right to be an a***** to others. so you do you, but be kind.

[Guardian45]

Well said

[Blackcupcake]

@Guardian45 thank you

[Avicenna]

I have a hard time wrapping my arms around the idea that a person who has dated women of all races but prefers women of one or two races is some awful racist.

[stepyo99]

I love being white. I love white culture. I love white women. If that makes me racist, then so be it. The people who would criticize me for my preferences would still think I'm racist even if I denied it because of systemic oppression or other such nonsense. But I'm really not interested in playing by those stupid rules of self-hatred and self-destruction.

[LiamJHayden]

No. Being attracted to certain traits is normal. Some like lighter or darker skin, lighter or darker hair, lighter of darker eyes, shorter or taller, etc.

Racism is the pre-judging of someone based inherited racial/ethnic traits rather than upon individual character. It can be either negative or positive, in that someone can automatically assume the worst or the best about an individual based solely upon race/ethnicity.

[renodnol32]

Its not racist. You can have friends of multiple races. Get along with them. Its totally fine tonhave a racial preference during dating. There could be multiple reasons for it. You like what you like. Or if you prefer same race for dating it could be down to the simplicity and the ease of cultural values and understanding. Having a racial preference in dating doesn't mean you are racist.

[Usuahs]

So you would date a Chinese guy or a black man?
Some people just are t attracted to some races. I’m only into my own race, white girls. That’s all I find pretty, now I’m a racist? You sound stupid girl. You must be black or something. It’s okay for women to have preferences but oh no men aren’t allowed to. Fuck off

[Babygirl_S]

You're the same small dick loser. You created another account. You are crazy about me creep!

[sawno]

No not at all, that would be the same as if your claiming that gay people can be cured. Its just whatever you are attracted to on a more primal physical level, shouldn't be a matter of the mind or something your forcing to change.

[Ben487]

no, but I do find it annoying when people of one race are like no I only date people of this other race. Essentially rejecting their own race. If you reject your own race you're most likely a bit of a bitch in my opinion.

[Babygirl_S]

So it can be assumed that east Asians are bitches.

[Ben487]

are you saying east Asians don't like other east Asian males?

[Babygirl_S]

They are the ones who reject their own men quite often.

[Babygirl_S]

They're known to insult their own men who are very kind and loyal men.

[Ben487]

well, I think that's a mistake and those east Asian men who are getting screwed by their women might wanna calls those girls bitches.

[Babygirl_S]

Rejecting men who are known to demand dowry, throw acid etc. Is understandable. You are free to date Indian men if you are so fond of them.

[Babygirl_S]

You should also call them bitches because they are!

[Ben487]

I don't approve of acid or dowry's so in that case maybe they deserve it.

[KostasKouvalis]

Maybe they reject their own race, 'cuz their own race shit. Believe me I've met tons of White supremacists who weren't White. Why's it so difficult for people to accept the reality that different races have different traits, and certain races are more superior to others? Like Babygirl said, I don't see White men going around acid attacking women.
I think WHITE women who reject White men for other races are stupid. The rest, I can understand because those men are shit compared to White men, and that's a fact! It's no accident that the countries where Whites have political control have the highest standard of living.

[KostasKouvalis]

Excuse my lack of political correctness, but I've seen many people say, they believe breeding with a White man will improve their race, while breeding with a black man will downgrade their race.

You may not like that, but this notion exists and it's more common than you think.

[NathanDavis]

it is just a preference...

you can have a strong like for something without hating on the other because it is just a preference

[Mimi_758]

No not at all people like what they like that is it

[D_Bone_Steak]

Fuck who you're going to fuck... I fucke them all. Not my problem.

[Arik_jade]

I don't have any racial preferences, even I m not religion specific... it's all about love from bottom of your heart... you should not see silly factors like racism, money, religion etc.

[JamesWang]

Not necessarily. In fact, I've heard from someone that her grandfather married someone of a race he despises!

Usually we prefer people who are like us. That includes race.

[Babygirl_S]

Then why do I see so many white women preferring black and Indian guys? Many of them despise white men

[JamesWang]

I said "usually".

[zagor]

You should qualify that with "in dating". If you prefer a certain race in, say, your waiter, then you might be racist.

[Iron_Man]

I’m not allowed to say anything, because when I talk, my comments, get hidden in your race question

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No. I only likes and strongly prefer my latina sisters but I'm not a racist person.

[Babygirl_S]

Why do you call them sisters if you're attracted to them? 🤔

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Doesn't mean my actual sister but rather it's a saying to express love to women of my ethnicity.

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's not racist you just have a type you like what you like and there's nothing wrong with that but just not a curiosity. What race do you prefer

[TallAnon]

Nope, can't control your biology. Racism is about your actions.

[TracyF]

Yes very. Why should skin color matter to you?

[Sparkie460]

It's not racist. It's just your preference

[animesenpai]

No you like what you like