In your own mind which stage in a person life did you find to be the most overrated?

[FinalFantasyBro]

While I personally enjoyed all of my life and it's made me the man I have become I personally find being a teenager my least favorite stage. I couldn't do most things, I wasn't a young child anymore to the point I wasn't as carefree but I wasn't a full grown adult as well so I wasn't allowed any freedom or independence away from my annoying parents and just straight up laws. I really love how I am now not a teen anymore that stage personally was way too unstable plus I just deal with the sadness of bullying so basically my adolescence was extremely forgettable but that what I consider as the most overrated. But how about you guys and girls out of all the life stages which one do people usually overhyped or make you truthfully hate the most?

Childhood- No responsibilities but no freedom or money.

Adolescent- Half and Half, you get treated as a child and a adult just non of the good parts of either.

Adulthood- Freedom and money, but a tons of responsibilities!

Childhood

Adolescents

Adulthood

[MCheetah]

I think a question like this is going to be different for every single person.

For my own life, while all of it has sucked in one way or another, I think the worst time for me was my 20s. The recession, having severe depression and being suicidal, dealing with my abusive mother, working dangerous security jobs, wrongfully being expelled from my university and engaging in a three year lawsuit with them, trying to find love on dating sites literally every day, eventually MEETING someone who loved me, only for her to die at 23, and so on...

My twenties were a complete sh*tshow and everyone always implies a person's 20s is supposed to be the best years of their life. My twenties only physically aged me more than anything else. They were that stressful. My thirties have been a cake walk so far compared to how chaotic my twenties were.

[NathanDavis]

hmmm, not sure how to go about this question... I didn't hate any stage of my life so far...

and I do see them and take them as that, stages... all different with their good things, great things and not so good things as well

and to me it is all connected, it was an evolution, so... gradual change and I can't really see the good in me or the good in my life without the bad experiences or situations I had going on

but maybe I can tell you this... the sunlight and heat annoys me way way more now as an adult, that it ever did during my childhood or when I was a teen, lol...

[FinalFantasyBro]

I think it's great that you can appreciate each stage for both their good and bad parts.

And I wonder why does the heat more irritating to you as an adult or is it because the sun now get in your eyes or something.

[NathanDavis]

well, I guess that as a kid I would be more hyper and "carefree" a lot more distraction, playing around and stuff, sports with friends so it didn't matter much, you were "in the game"

and then, as a teen, and hitting 20's I was usually around the friends the girlfriends... so my attention was on that

now as an adult, work, responsibilities and all things implied, you do have a lot less time to be "carefree" and having fun with everyone... then I just find myself walking down the parking lots, and the asphalt making me breath vapor instead of air, lmao

[FinalFantasyBro]

Childhood: While children can't do most things they usually aren't broken or depressed because they can see the beautiful in life plus I generally think they have way more fun activities unlike adults and teens.

Adolescents: While being a teenager is mostly more in the middle of the family, I sometimes think being a teenager isn't all terrible your parents is starting to lose their extreme control of you of course you still live under their rules but you are getting a little freedom just without all of baggage that comes with adulthood like paying bills and health issues.

Adulthood: Adults are officially responsible for the way they live and they definitely need to get a job in order to have all the stuff they want and need but now their parents can't bullshit adults anymore so adults aren't their parents mindless slaves anymore.

So basically I just think each stage is a positive and a negative.

[NathanDavis]

well yeah, goes a bit different for everyone, for example...

when I was a child... I had to deal with depression, anxiety, extreme shyness, OCD tendencies, germophobia, higher intelligence and stuff, lol... but yes, I was still somehow able to find solitude and joy in many things, mostly my dog and my best friends

and then during my teen years, my best friend and my dog passed away... and now THAT turned a bit darker, and it was quite a struggle but again, I was able to manage a "duality" we can say, so I could get by and go on with my life

in my later teens, youth and now adulthood.. . it is all been a gradual extensive process of evolution and always aiming towards balance in myself and also life

[FinalFantasyBro]

I am deeply sorry that you didn't really enjoyed childhood yes I sometimes understand not everyone will enjoy childhood I definitely didn't enjoyed my completely but my teen years was far more dreadful.

But enough about myself I am really happy you are now trying to get happiness!

[NathanDavis]

no... it was not as drastic as that

like I said, I was able to find a duality in my life... there was black and white, as much as it was a challenge, I was still a happy kid and I had a blast through all my life...

the problem was that it could be either black, or white, extremes... which is why I have aimed for balance, my whole life

[FinalFantasyBro]

Glad you manage to overcome those problems to appreciate childhood also what is exactly a duality?

[NathanDavis]

in my case, duality... dual, when you are at two different states of mind at the same, or it feels like you are living two lives

maybe it happens to other people with depression as well, but in my case I had many good and great things going in my life, I had people around as well, and the problems, although they were very much problems, they were "not so bad" compared to other things, so yes, I was happy and had reasons to be happy

and then, at moments, sometimes I would just "disconnect" and find myself NOT able to feel anything fulfilling or joyful, more of a careless state... many people describe their struggles as sadness, despair, distress, anger... and other stronger, negative emotions, I did not have much of that, to me it was just "gone" emotionally so this affected me mentally, because in my mind I was like "well, WTF is that about"

so, for the many years in my childhood and youth I sort of managed and learned two live with those two things, which sometimes would happen at the same time

[FinalFantasyBro]

Glad you manage to have some happiness in your life and did your parents found out about your depression growing up or something

[NathanDavis]

hmmm, maybe they suspected it? perhaps, yes...

but growing up, we didn't have that closeness to just approach and talk about these things in our family, besides that... there was always this feeling of them, like "that's just Nathan and he'll be alright"

and since it started as young as six years old and I also learned to "mask it" many would assume it was just part of my overall personality, and growing up... till age 16, I told almost anybody, except for a couple of close, good friends... age 16 was a turning point in my life, because that is when it actually started to get much better for me, because that's when (I assume) these sort of lack of balance in the chemicals of my brain started to settle, and the numbing fog sort of started to fade, that's how I best could describe it... since things got better from that age, then we all kind of "forgot" that it ever happened... lol

I think they knew or suspected of it... we just have never addressed it

[WhitneySnow]

I don’t hate childhood, but I feel like a lot of adults romanticize it. Also, I feel like I have more friends as a teen than I did as a kid. I’ve never been an adult yet, so I don't know about adulthood.

[FinalFantasyBro]

It is a bit more difficult to make friends as an adult because usually a lot of people tend to be busy with work or having families, but it isn't impossible to make close adult friends just gotta make sure to take time for each other schedules plus you usually get more freedom and independence from your parents as an adult.

[WhitneySnow]

Freedom and independence sounds good. Do you keep most of your friends from high school?

[FinalFantasyBro]

I didn't made any friends just bullies, my teen years wasn't the greatest.

[FinalFantasyBro]

But you may not know you could probably keep your friends from high school you guys just will develop differently from y'all teen selves so be prepared if your friends can't be around for much longer.

[WhitneySnow]

Thanks. I appreciate the advice.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Anytime and I know this might be cliche but still enjoy the rest of your childhood because once you get a full blown adult it definitely be harder to find excitement and fun. Most adults themselves tend to be super boring.

[WhitneySnow]

Thank you 😊. And yeah I’ve noticed lol.

[just_a_potato]

Childhood and adolescence bled together for me, in my household I was treated like a fragile child to be safe guarded from most experiences other kids my age enjoyed. It was soo boring.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Same, I felt like I had an unfair childhood considering some others parents allowed their children to do much more don't understand why my parents didn't allowed that.

[andreasderjuengere]

Toddler. I wasted and slept away a lot of precious life time.
At least, I didn't notice the neighbour hens going silly about me.
But THEY certainly over-rated my existence.
I took revenge later :D

[FinalFantasyBro]

I am surprised you didn't enjoyed the toddler years but yes other than naps you couldn't do much as a toddler.

[t-8900]

Adulthood. Remember when you didn't haved to pay taxes or be held to the full accounting of the law when you wanted to do some dumb shit? This guy sure does! lol

[FinalFantasyBro]

Yes I can imagine how fucking scary it must be being convicted for a crime

[t-8900]

Exactly!

[DizzyDesii]

Adulthood is overrated. Everyone wants to growup bt shit i miss being babied lol

[FinalFantasyBro]

I have baby nephew and yes sometimes being a baby was the life so you might know technically remember it but it felt great having others cook for you, and pay for all the boring stuff like a house insurance. I might someday want to have my own place but I ain't looking forward to paying a shit ton of mortgage or others type of bills.

[FinalFantasyBro]

The only thing I am glad is over are the abused, manipulation and having others control everything about you that shit royally sucked.

[DizzyDesii]

I still have others cook for me lmao.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Yes I still live at home so others still cook for me but I sometimes do cook in the kitchen like right now my dad is making the whole family bbq.

[DizzyDesii]

Even when i dont, others will still cook for me. My food sucks lol

[FinalFantasyBro]

You aren't a good cook or you just really lazy and don't really like to cook

[DizzyDesii]

Both

[exitseven]

I say adolescence. I was angry and sullen. I was confused about the future. .

[FinalFantasyBro]

I actually wasn't that moody in my teenage years surprisedly but yes teenagers are definitely nothing more but emotions added with being dumb, I logically don't see the fun in that.

[msc545]

adulthood is not all that fun, but better than being a teenager.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I am definitely sorry you aren't enjoying adulthood or didn't enjoyed being a teenager at all but at least you don't have to live with your parents as much anymore.

[FinalFantasyBro]

But yes usually children tend to get much more fun especially with their epic imagination that older kids or adults tend to lose.

[XXblack88]

Adolescents years are the most overrated and drining.

[OddBeMe]

Seems like people can’t get over high school. Not sure why.

[Flower7]

Adulthood has really sucked.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Yes unfortunately it's us difficult trying to find pay work, I been constantly applying to companies and I still have only gotten just three interviews it's sucks

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Childhood for sure...

[FinalFantasyBro]

Didn't have a childhood bro, sorry about that yes childhood wasn't all that exciting for me whenever I get older I gotten more happy because getting older equal more freedom and rights handed to you from society.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@FinalFantasyBro My childhood wasn't too good but I miss my grandparents having Sunday dinners at my maternal grandparent's house but lost both of them one in 1996 and one in 1998 so there was happy times and sad times my teen years was rough with extreme bullying in school really rough

[FinalFantasyBro]

Oh I am really sorry brotha, yes I understand how losing family members is I also lost my grandparents when I were a child too, it's sucks horribly. Oh just to be clarified I meant my father's parents not my mother's parents her parents are still alive.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@FinalFantasyBro Yeah sorry about your loss my brother, I know how it feels it can be something

[FinalFantasyBro]

But hey that is unfortunately a part of life you gotta be able to cope with the good and bad. That's what makes people more stronger!

[TacosRAwesome]

Early 20s or what's supposed to be the hot years.

[FinalFantasyBro]

Isn't that just adulthood

[TacosRAwesome]

Yes but specific part of it

[jahaims]

None so far

[FinalFantasyBro]

I am happy to hear that