What do you think about teachers who come out as trans or gay to their students?

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WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

What teacher “comes out” to their students? I think that’s usually reserved for a family member or a close friend.

For students to simply be aware that a teacher is gay or trans or whatever, that shouldn’t be treated any differently than if they happened to reveal that they were in a heterosexual relationship of some sort.

Being heterosexual is not superior or more correct than being homosexual, not being trans isn’t superior or more correct than being trans, so I’m not exactly sure why we’d treat any of this differently and ostracize people into having to hide who they are, or make it acceptable for one group to share or disclose anything about their personal life, as long as it’s not sexual details that no one should be hearing about anyone.

But bottom line: if you’re a teacher and you happen to be gay, you shouldn’t have to keep that a guarded secret. I had female teachers growing up who would reference their husbands and their family lives outside of school, and that was just fine. To suggest that you can’t do the same if your spouse or partner is the same sex as you are is simply ignorant, hateful, and a “you”-problem if you find that to be inappropriate.

BeMuse · Accepted Answer

The only time sexual conversations should occur in a classroom is during sex education which typically occurs in middle and high school in science classes for a couple weeks. Teachers responsible for education students on the subject should stay professional and stick to the content, not make it about themselves. If students ask about your sex life, saying something like I'm married and have three child and am pro-life, me and my girlfriend use birth control a mix of condoms and the pill to ensure we don't have a baby until we are ready to settle down, I'm gay so me and my partner don't worry about birth control but use condoms or whatever to promote safe sex that seems fine. Beyond general conversation that helps the kids relate to the content that you are trying to teach, there is no room to discuss your sex life in a classroom. Gay people that come out to their class and put fag flags all over their room are unprofessional and are actively recruiting, which makes them groomers/sexual predators.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think that most of the time, we don’t consider it “coming out” at all. We’re just answering questions.

I have no problem with teachers to choose to bring it up, by the way, in an age appropriate way. But most of the time that’s not what happens.

I’m bi, and I’m a teacher. My students don’t know, because I haven’t told them. But when they ask me if I’m married, and I tell them no, their next question is if I have a boyfriend. Now I’m currently dating a dude, but if I were dating a girl, I think that I should be able say so.

Also, to those who say that that would confuse them, I have several students with two moms, or two dads. And they are just like everyone else. And when they tell their friends about their families, their friends aren’t confused either. Because they’re kids. They don’t care.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Is the child's age taken into consideration when they expect a five year old what a trans person is? I am curious what words th teacher uses when telling little children about their sexual weirdness. When I was a young girl, I wouldn't have wanted to know about nasty shit like that. Don't the children have a choice to know or choose to not know? I couldn't wrap my head around something so gross when I was a child.
LEAVE OUR KIDS OUT OF YOUR SICK SEX LIVES! I hope you end up in hell for opening your big mouths to God's children!!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

They should immediately be fired and become ineligible to ever again teach minors.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

I don't care. Teachers talk about their partners all the time. They talk about their families. Why should it be any different for same sex couples?

I don't think a teacher needs to come out as trans unless they are in the process of transitioning in that moment then they should obviously explain to their students what's going on and what to expect. If they have already transitioned its up to them to decide if they want to tell the students or not.

But either way kids talk and rumours will swirl

Crafteroon · Answer

It's their right to be who they are. And it's better for the teacher to explain (and as teachers they know the correct level of details to tell to children of that age) that there are people who have partners of the same sex and there is nothing wrong with that between consenting adults.

You don't want them to learn misinformation from those that lack the knowledge, or have prejudices, or were forced to hide their own homosexuality and now repress it by getting angry about it. Spreading ignorance is how you get Republicans, you don't want that to happen.

Sixgunsound · Answer

Teachers talking about sexuality with minors, especially minors who are placed with them in a position of public trust, is not only immoral, but codified illegal. There are very specific circumstances under which adults in a school setting are allowed to discuss sex or size or sex related issues with minors, mostly in healthcare settings, specified sex ed classes, and public safety investigations. While there may be a public safety investigation after a teacher initiates a sexual discussion with a student or students, said initiation does not meet any of the above named requirements for legitimacy. As such, there is no reason a teacher should be discussing their sexuality with their students. If you would hypocritically condemn a straight teacher bragging to their class about their tinder hookups or smashing that cute new teacher down the hall during lunch break, then you understand why discussing gay relationships with students is also unacceptable.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Why on earth would a teacher tell a kid that they sleep with men and find men sexy. Nvm if that kid is a guy himself I bet that would lead to some sexual harassment for sure.
Whether straight or not you don't discuss your sex life or sexual interests with your students so there would be no reason to bring up who you like to sleep with.

As for trans well students do need to know if it's Ms or Mr when it comes to teachers. Otherwise how else do you say Mr/Ms needle asked for me to grab this letter etc. Though everyone could just say Needle asked.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Not sure how annoucing your sexuality is going to help kids learn their homework better but... okay. I mean, I personally would not care to know what sex any teacher is attracted to or not. Kids really have no business knowing your bedroom choices, as kids grow up they eventually will understand what straight and gay is without someone feed it to them. None of my teachers did this when i was in school growing up, so i just find this to be odd and unnecessary.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

I think it's great.

Kids need role models and gay people exist. Knowing about homosexuality especially during formative years will help kids know it's okay.

My gay teachers were some of my favorites and were pillars of our school.

It's better for kids to know the wide variety of people in the world than to grow up sheltered and end up confused when they meet an openly gay person at 20. Things don't typically turn out well for kids that ill-prepared.

Anonymous · Answer

On the matter of being gay: I think it's incredibly unprofessional depending on the ages of the students. If it's young children between grade K and 6, that's weird. I don't think that anyone should be discussing a sexual orientation with a young child because it, in my eyes, is grooming like behavior. Why would you want a small 5yo boy to know that you like guys? Why would you discuss anything about your sexual preference to a child to begin with? Stick to the curriculum, not your bedroom preference. It absolutely creeps me out that a teacher would tell a small child anything about their sex life/sexual preference.

If you're trans and want to tell the kids, that's a bit different. That's gender identity, not sexual preferences.

Snsl153 · Answer

If I were a student in one of those classes where the teacher "came out", I'd tell him or her to tell someone who actually gives a damn about it. I don't care who you sleep with; what I care about is whether or not you can actually do the job you're paid to do, whether you're qualified enough, and whether or not what you teach actually has worth and isn't just ideological nonsense.

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

It should be kept out of the classroom. After all teachers shouldn’t be teaching our kids tolerance, or self acceptance. That sort of thing should be kept to being learned at home. Can you imagine schools teaching our kids diversity. What the fuck is wrong with schools these days?

MCheetah · Answer

I think they should leave their BS to themselves and stop trying to brainwash their f*cking goddamn students! I'm a teacher myself and I can't stand this indoctrination BS! These people should be fired for pushing sexuality onto children. You are there to teach from a book, not push your f*cked up beliefs onto people simply because you can't have kids.

Guanfei · Answer

That they should shut the fuck up.

At which point do you consider that an adult, a teacher on top of that, has to talk about his sexuality to his student? When is it relevant in their education?

A teacher is here to teach. Anything beside is unnecessary, and some things, like this one, is unwelcomed. It's his private life and it should stay private.

What's next, he's going to film himself get rammed and show it to the kids?

LGBT are really starting to think they're allowed to do anything, and when it comes to kids, it's getting really creepy.

JustADudePlayinADude · Answer

I don't care if they come out, so long as they don't try to force their ideology on my kid. If my kid comes out as gay or trans on their own, it is fine. But I don't like these teachers that are basically indoctrinating my kid on how to live their life. That is my job as a parent. Your job is to teach them math, science, history, and literature.

sheikalana · Answer

I think teachers should keep things professional and avoid mentioning details of their private life. When I was a teen my teachers never used to speak about their private lives I did not even know if they were married or had kids. Why would a teacher mention their sexual orientation what difference does it make? I don' get it. I believe that people should be free to choose who they love but mixing your private life with your job is just unprofessional.

Staximus · Answer

A teachers sex life has no place in the classroom and it's none of the student's business. Any teacher that makes their sex life the student's business should be fired immediately, unless they are teaching a college human sexuality class and using themselves as an example or something like that

Avicenna · Answer

That is not something that has any place in the classroom, because it has nothing to do with what's being taught. Teachers shouldn't discuss their personal stuff with students.

Julie4 · Answer

I think it would be a professional mistake if a teacher talked about this, his private life should remain private.

The problem is not the fact that he is gay, bi, transgender etc.

But a teacher has to teach what is stated in the curriculum in that sense his private life is none of our business.

I would feel exactly the same way if the teacher in question were to talk about his life as a heterosexual.

Oliviaarkansas · Answer

normally i think we know way b4 they tell us lol.. we had one guy teacher that got up and told us all and he was all crying and everthing and we were like "ok. so ur saying we were not supposed to have figured that out already" lol.

oly way its not cool i think is if they push it hard. one female teacher woudl say stuff aobut how beign with girls was so much better etc and have we thought of girls.

Bluemax · Answer

If it comes out in the course of normal conversation, I have no problem with it. My wife showed up to my work on occasion and vice versa. She told her class that she was marrying me and they knew me. If we could talk about our heterosexual marriage, then why can't homosexuals?

That being said, the fine details of our married life remained private. So too should it be with homosexuals.

ProVox · Answer

The same as I would if a straight person came out and told students their sexual preference. I'd be at the school the next day to address it. No place in the school for that, and no one gaf about who you sleep with regardless of the two genders you choose.

JDavid25 · Answer

Teachers are not there to be the friends of students, but to assist the parents in place they can't guide their parents towards the future.. It speaks to a level of narcissism that the teachers need a bunch of kids that are not theirs and that they most likely won't hang out with outside of the classroom to know their sexual orientation or gender identity.. Like focus on teaching students instead of letting them know things most of them won't care about once they leave your classroom..

bayoubob · Answer

Absolutely no one cares. If they are butch dyke or flamboyant? No one cares? We just know. To say they need to come out is retarded. I grew up in small town bum fuck nowwhere. If someone feels they need to "tell" everybody? They might be a regular Rock Hudson. Once again. No one cares. People might talk, they might say shit, it's the way of the world. Everyone do their thing in their time, there is no problem.

dustybiker · Answer

As long as they do their job, do their job well and keep the focus on their job. I don’t care who, what or how they live their personal lives.

AsaKyo · Answer

I don't see the point in telling this to students

Nikki1989 · Answer

I think personal lives should be kept out of the classroom.

Anonymous · Answer

Unless maybe the school or district has some weird policy that they're trying to make a stand for, or maybe comes up during a historic discussion about treatment of lgbt people, what exactly would be the point? I find it a little weird when teachers announce anything personal to a class though. Like, cool, you got married... what was your first name again? Lmao

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Growing up I never had outwardly gay or trans teachers, but a lot of them gave us anecdotes about their home life, so a gay or trans teacher can do their same. Nothing wrong with a man saying my boyfriend or my husband and nothing wrong with a woman saying my wife or girlfriend.

HannahDance · Answer

I think they are literally so brave! My favorite teacher came out as gay and even told us about his boyfriend. He is so much more confident and happy now! And most of us were very happy and proud of him. He is still my favorite teacher and I am so glad that I have him as a teacher!

bolverk · Answer

One of the stupidest things they could ever do, their students irrespective of age do not need to know the 'orientation' of their teachers/lecturers, I've had over 60 teachers/lecturers in my life so far, some fairly recent and I've never wanted nor need to know their 'orientation' they were there to teach me a subject not be my best bud.

RagnarRedbeard · Answer

Their job is to teach children about maths, English, science, history etc. Kids don’t need to know what their teachers do in the bedroom.

DizzyDesii · Answer

When my teacher told us that in 9th grade, we just let her know it was a bit unnecessary and that it had nothing to do with the subject she was teaching. After that she kept shit to herself and went on whining about her dead dog

Luopio27 · Answer

When it comes to lgtbq+ society, I support human rights. Those who harass me, loose my respect.

When it comes down to teaching, the job is to teach, and check their homework.

All I wish was there to be a protocol that all would accept. The professional distance, as in the silence of personal life matters at work seems to be the society model in favor.

Anonymous · Answer

It's none of their students business. Fire them all.. Not kidding, if i heard about this from my kid, I would see to it the teacher was fired. I don't care about the teachers sexuality, not does my kid, he is there to learn, not to hear about the teachers sexuality.

Anonymous · Answer

It should be irrelevant to their purpose and their interface to my children.

I am required by law to ensure my children have an education, an education that need not include their political views.

I am not required to make use of state schools. I have the option of home school them and this option is on the rise which worries the state.

Anonymous · Answer

They are diabolical and SHOULD be locked up. Underage Children should NOT be put in a situation where these monstruos people come out to them.

hahahmm · Answer

It's something attention whores, pedos, and people disrespectful of parents do.

anylolone · Answer

Retarded, keep your private life out of your job.

If a gay teacher is hit on by a thothy brat, he shouldn't say "I'm gay and I have a husband in 20year marriage with 4 kids" he should say "know your fucking place, brat, next time you harass a teacher you get detention and this goes in your file."

TenderFantasy · Answer

Who cares. Just do a good/great job with your profession/job. I don't care what goes on in your personal life.

dolemite89 · Answer

i don’t see how school is the proper venue to discuss matters of a teacher’s personal life. If they casually mention they’re gay or trans outside of class that’s one thing i guess but announcing they’re gay in class is just unnecessary. makes me think of this 🤣

Koneko911 · Answer

Gay naw. I don't need to know the gender my teacher fucks outside of school. Trans only of they plan to transition while they're my teacher. If they already did so then no I don't need to know

Anonymous · Answer

1) Children do not care nor do they need to know about your sexuality.
2) Children do not even care that much (if at all) about heterosexuality.
3) This is fine if your students are young adults... and they ASK.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

It's saying something when the predators feel arrogant enough to outright admit they are wolves in wolves' clothing, and still expect you to do nothing about it!

Being_a_good_Indian · Answer

It won't bother me about person's sexuality. Knowledge and teaching skills matters. If they are skilled enough in their topics of study I would be glad.

Blackcosmo · Answer

Personal life shouldn't be brought into school so it really shouldn't matter.

AviatorTom · Answer

Teachers are teachers. Their sexual orientation is unimportant in their precious role as a teacher of children. Any teacher who thinks otherwise is not fit to teach.

Autember · Answer

I mean, I dont think it's relevant to their ability to teach. I think it's unnecessary to announce it to your students.

GlassTop · Answer

It’s extremely unprofessional to discuss who you are sexually attracted to and has no place in an institution of learning. Regardless of your stance on the politics, keep the kids away from it.

Agent_Elflord · Answer

Nothin’ wrong with teaching that “other people like these exist”, it’s not like they’re trying to turn the kids gay or anything. My only problem would be if they took the students to a Pride parade, where a lot of folks are more explicitly sexual.

Anonymous · Answer

That seems unnecessary for the most part. Maybe quickly mentioning it if a student asks, or quickly saying your new title is "Ms. Jones" makes sense. Full on announcing, explaining, and saying you hope they accept you or something, seems kind of attention seeking.

XXblack88 · Answer

I think teachers who come out as part of the LGBT are just attention seekers looking for the approval of their students.

Anonymous · Answer

i honestly don't think it's necessary. no hate, but anyone's sexual orientation, marital status, etc, isn't necessary to say out loud. it doesn't really affect anything.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Not sure whys it's necessary for teachers, of any orientation, to bring personal life into classroom.

JosyJosy · Answer

Bit random. He's there to teach, not to share what his sexuality is. But who knows, maybe he's really close with the class. Maybe they're his favorite students, or he's their favorite teacher.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

I think they should be allowed to say “my girlfriend and I are about to get married” as much as a straight person is.

Adam1978 · Answer

I don't need to know about my teachers private life. They should just do their job and leave that stuff at home. It's not relevant.

Light909090 · Answer

If they wanna get bullied They yeah They can tell the class and all the students can spread it around and all the Haters will find out and some may make that teacher there punching bag.

Wraith_Cemetery · Answer

If a teacher needs o validate their sex life to a child then that's a serious problem and they have mental issues.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Unless its directly related to the ciriculum, its unprofessional and only serves to create division among the student body

RavVid · Answer

Well should a hetro teacher come in Monday morning and regale the kiddies with stories of the sex he got over the weekend in detail?

DermalPunch · Answer

Well, the students can tell but I would take exception if a teacher felt the need to formalize that with them.

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