Its rather difficult to raise a family right without someone at home to help raise the kids all the time. It use to be for millions of year we had whole families including grandparents for this task. Women didn't start leaving their children on a large scale until after the 1960s.
What happened to each generation of children after first their grandparents in the 30s (thanks to Social Security) then their own mothers (due to women joining the out of home work force) abandoned them?
They became more and more unstable and less able to function leading to where they are today. Parenting is important.
Lets not forget its not like we all had a choice, each of theses changes were driven by changes in Federal policy enabling, encouraging, and driving theses changes like Social security and inflationary welfare spending.
Even the broken poor family was a direct result of distant goverment paying mothers more to be single than to be married to the father. Effectively breaking the poor family making them even poorer in the long run.
We were forced by federal politicians to pay an enormous amount of money for the destruction our civilization in the last century.
I don't care what people choose to do. They just need to find a compatible partner who shares the same preferences. There is no right or wrong.
I'm fully in favor of women having the opportunity to pursue their dreams, whether those be having careers or being stay-at-home moms.
I always liked independent women who supported themselves and weren't waiting for some guy to save them. My wife had been doing so since high school and had done very well for herself. She's a real go getter who also has fun at what she does.
As a wife, she's a good cook and home maker and I do my share. But her income is also really handy. Our combined incomes made it possible for us to build the life we have together. She also brings in quite a bit of untraceable cash, which is nice.
About five years ago or so, we found a young lady who does housework. She's also our mail carrier. She comes over every two or three weeks to work for 2.5 to 3 hours each time. The girl is a whirlwind. And it only costs us $50 or $60 a pop unless she does something extra like taking our trash to the dump on her way home. (We live in a rural area and didn't sign up for garbage service. It's expensive and taking our cans down our 1/2 mile long driveway to the pick up point is as much hassle as taking our trash to the dump every few months.) She's a god send. She appreciates being paid with cash.
My wife and I love not having to clean bathrooms, sweep, mop floors, vacuum, dust, or scrub. The girl will even shampoos our carpet and washes windows inside and out if we ask (like maybe once a year).
So my wife would rather work and spend an average of less than $750 per year on a housekeeper than to do all that tedious stuff herself. I sure don't want to do that stuff if I can avoid it. And our housekeeper benefits from the income.
I read in an article the average woman wants to be a housewife but works since she does not have the option of being a house wife. Her husband might divorce her and leave her with nothing or he might not make enough to support the family with his single pay cheque. I want to earn money at a job I love and not a job I hate. Like selling poetry or music or babysitting or dog walking or baking or getting a degree in therapy because I like to deal with even very difficult people.
I think women should live the life they want. If they want to work, work! If they want to be a housewife, be a housewife! Unfortunately I feel like it is more difficult for women to choose nowadays due to the high cost of living.
I personally want to work at the moment, but that doesn’t mean every woman wants to
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Women should do what they want to do.
I'd prefer she works at first and once we have our first kid she can stay home until all of our kids are school age. Then she can work part time or full time as long as she has a job that lets her be home on the weekends and she is home at night too. If she works, she needs to contribute financially. So the more she works, the more she pays for our household. If she works full time we would split the household chores, but if she works part time she can do most of it and if she doesn't work she can do everything at home since even then it is much less work than a full time job.
If she claims that doing the household chores is equal to or more work than a full time job, I would do everything for one month while taking note of how long each activity ACTUALLY takes to complete. Then when I prove how much less time it takes to do all of the household chores, including all of the outside chores, from then on she can do all of it or get out of my house. I won't stand for unfair lies about the amount of work someone does/contributes.
I think mothers should stay at home unless it creates undue economic stress.
I also think it’s important for people to recognize that the idea of women staying home, largely refers to middle class and upper class women. Working-class women largely couldn’t stay home because it was economically unrealistic.
This is like asking if women should win gold medals at the Olympics. Not all women are cut out/deserve to be elevated to the position of housewife or to even be a wife. Some of them should be worked like dogs.. pushing 60+ hours a week and barely able to pay rent because that's all they bothered to make their lives about.
If a woman wants anything traditional (benefits) from a guy then she should be traditional herself. Some guys get this... others do not.
The idea of a family has been completely destroyed going back further than the 50's.
The idea of a nuclear family is a pretty recent invention. Even that being the case, the idea of how a nuclear families operations has also been muted well before the 1920's. We're living in a completely mutated world, but when a fish was born in murky waters, it knows no better.
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I’m the last option it depends. The same as I don’t even judge someone who lives with their parents.
As long as there is a give and take a and both are happy. Then good! As long as people agree on it.
Standards for dating and marriage vairy. There isn’t something wrong with someone because they aren’t right. That’s why you date.
Personally. I don’t want just a housewife. But never say never. Who knows.
Families that even want to just can't. A single average income cannot sustain a household.
Families should be able to do what they want on This matter but they can't do either. We can't afford a single income family while simultaneously not being able to afford childcare going to work.
The economic reality is that, unless a family is very wealthy and secure in that wealth, both spouses need to work so the family can survive an economic disaster.
It's just that simple and you have no choice in the matter.
I could see this coming 40+ years ago which is a major reason why I chose no to have children.
If she's single then she can do whatever she wants. If she's with a partner, they have to communicate and find what is best for them. Scientifically and biologically speaking, couples are happiest and most efficient when they follow their natural gender roles. Men like to work and be the breadwinners, women like to be with the kids and take care of the house. If it works for them, great. If it doesn't, they need to find another strategy or break up.
i wanna work bit there's just something appealing and hot when i am being provided. i wanna be both because i wanna be hands-on eith the kids but i don't think i'll be fulfilled so i also wanna work but i wanna the husband to pay for my meals i also pay for his meals but i want him to be the ine who primarily do that. it's just hot
I'm a firm believer of true equality, man, woman, child, regardless of what you do in life, if you do something wrong, you got to face the consequences of your actions, with that said, I have no opinion on either, whether they work or whether they want to be a housewife, that's their decision, whatever makes them happy, I guess.
First of all women have always worked throughout history like men, so this idea women didn't work and were at home all day is a myth.
Second of all its literally a economic impossibly for most men to support a whole household in accordance to the 21th century living standards i. e. mortgage, light bill, water bill etc.
Thirdly, being a full time housewife is literally a waste of life and talent a woman can have being at home 24/7 like it's a prison.
I think it is a personal decision based on what the couple wants and can afford, I do think there might be less problems if it was more common, but I don't think anybody should force people to live how they do not want to live!
It was a simpler time when men went to work and women stayed home to take care of the house and kids, but I don't think we're ever going to return to that. If a couple wants that, fine with me; if they don't, that's also fine.
I don't really care/results.
Just be a good person and not a piece of sh*t with an OnlyFans account who thinks polyamory/adultery should be socially acceptable.
Yes of course it would be nice to be a traditional housewife, however very sadly this is the 21st century where things and traditions have greatly changed beyond recognition.
They should do whatever they want, it's just hypocritical when some want men to be traditional when it benefits them when they don't live up to traditional values themselves.
Whatever works for the relationship/family. If I could I would have no problems staying home to look after my baby, I really don't want to leave her with strangers.
It's their choice. Feminism is about letting people make their own decision. I just wish men and women would stop wasting each other's time based on what they think should be, instead of what they want in a good partner.
Women should have the choice to do what's best for them and their family. I personally feel that life is more harmonious when two people have defined roles.
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