How are men ok with watching someone else be their child's mother?

[ElizaPam]

As a trans woman people tell me I'm not infertile and make fun of me for grieving over my infertility. Because they say I could be a "father"

But I could never watch another woman be my child's mother. I would rather die. I would feel pathetic, inferior, envious and worthless.

If I'm not my child's mother then what am I? A child support payment? Someone my child's mother gets to talk shit about? No thanks. I'll adopt a baby and be a mother first

[Berethor]

Motherhood is superior trope? even if it is, I am not jealous of pregnancy and giving birth, I can have a biological child without going through those hardships, and unlike "transwomen" I fully accept that I was born a male, and there is no point to be jealous of females.

[misogynistic_pig]

You can use another woman's oocyte and fertilize it with your own sperm, then you can implant the product of conception in your body and get pregnant.

[ElizaPam]

That would be a dream come true 🥹

[MzAsh]

Many just don’t want to actually be parents.

[snackthatsmilesback]

I had a lot of similar feelings about that through my life n even now sometimes, tho I am currently a father. I hate that i wasn't the one to carry our baby, and that I often get treated like a "substitute" for mom, or just a babysitter instead of a real parent. What's made it even worse is that my spouse, who did carry her, fucking hated it! It was one of the last things that pushed him to start transitioning. Now he's seen as a failed mother bc he's filling the "father's" role. And I'm seen as a fake mother bc I'm filling that role as a man.

But yknow who don't give a fuck about any of those labels? The baby. She knows who is who. And while I don't think fathers or their role—not the stereotype, but actual good fathering—are any less important than mothering (in fact some studies show the reverse), I do think that your biology shouldn't determine that that's what u have to be, especially when there's someone else there parenting with u.

Ik I got lucky with that. I got a great husband and we knew even when we were "traditional" relationship that we weren't gonna take the traditional roles. And we both wanted that. Even tho the pregnancy was fucking horrible and won't be happening again, we got one kid. That's the only way either of us could get one. Yeah i still wish the other way, but rlly getting her was enough to me to make it worth it. And after she was here things could adjust to where everyone fit their job much better.

[Red_Arrow]

Someone else would have to be my child's mother, because I am smart enough to know that I am not female, and I am sane enough to not try to change things.

[Sixgunsound]

Thank you for talking about what fathers everywhere go through. Maybe coming from you it will finally matter.

[genericname85]

well they aren't. but that is being a man. if you're a man, you gotta suck it up buttercup, cause nobody cares what you want. it is what it is.

[genericname85]

so that's why i understand why these days people more and more try to opt out of being man like you do.

[Juxtapose]

Fathers are very important but I'm not trans so it doesn't bother me.

[EaterPeter]

They probably aren't and they have no other good choice.

[Anonymous]

I don't care. My role in the reproductive process ended once I came in her pussy.

[12Volt]

Are you sure you qualify to adopt?

[joeldalton]

Your sister could carry it for you.