Someone once cut me off on the road one time intentionally while I was driving my mom and I to Thanksgiving dinner. I flipped him off and he decided to pull in front of me and come to a dead stop in the middle of the high way. My mom hit her head against the dash because I had to break so hard.
I trailed this guy for 15 minutes flashing my high beams on him. He finally pulled off the free way and stopped at a red light. I sprinted to his car and cracked his windshield with my hand screaming at him. Two grown ass men in their 30s that almost killed me and my mother on Thanksgiving.
If it were just me I most likely would of just kept going my way and maybe called the police but as soon as my mom was in danger and when he hit her face on the dash I just turned into fight or flight mode.
Lost my temper forsure and if he would of gotten out of the car I would of beaten the dude till someone could finally get me off of him. Not the best way I should of handled it but I can't describe the feeling of being protective over the ones that I love.
so did they just drive off or try to get one last insult out and then drive off
@BertMacklinFBI They were scared shitless.. they ran the red light to get away from me. They couldn't see my size until I got out of the car.
safe to say they learned their lesson. how was your hand
@BertMacklinFBI ahah it ended up turning purple and red all kinds of colors. Swelled up too. it was a open palm.. the meaty part. glad I didn't go closed fist because I would of broke my knuckles. Didn't feel it till the next day though.
still sounds like it was worth it lol.
@BertMacklinFBI Nah man lol. My family already thinks I'm crazy and fcked up from the military. Mom was crying the whole time.. wasn't cool at all. I have a CCW too. I had my glock ready to go and it was out while I was driving. I never intended to use it but I didn't know if this asshole was going to do something stupid. Glock never came out of my holster. My mom thought I was legit going to kill this asshole though. Should have been calm and just dialed 911. I've learned it's just best to stay calm in situations like that and think with logic not emotion. I had to have a long talk with her after calming her down.
i prefer to let the local authorities handle situations, but it sounds like they would've gotten away in yours, and it may have been difficult to convict anything, the police may just let them off with a harsh warning after you tell them what happened, so yeah it may have been worth it for that outcome, but we never know what will happen. you took something from this experience and thats what matters most. Sometimes a guy just has to set the record straight himself. you're good in my book.
It's not just men, anyone would be defensive. You're "attacking" a loved family member and insulting them. Unless they don't have a good relationship, most people are going to be offended. Now you were joking around with him so you'd think he would know you weren't likely serious in which case this reaction is a bit over the top. Maybe there something about his mother you don't know that must have struck a nerve. Just apologize to him it a sincere calm voice and reiterate that you were joking and you won't do it again. He should calm down.
of course! what's wrong with you? I love my mama to bits even if she and I fight sometimes if anyone ever insulted my mama I'd break all hell loose on their ass, same with my papa, don't insult parents. boys are also usually closer to their mothers growing up, they show more love to the mom rather than the dad. it's a preference thing just like girls usually are more you know "daddy's girl". boys are usually "mama's boys".
I would of done the same if my boyfriend said this about my Mother. I would actually break up with him. Yes I hit a red flag big time. Even as a joke this is extremely disrespectful towards the woman who gave him life. I would of reacted the same if it was an insult towards my father or any other member of my family.
That's one topic not to joke about.
Yes it's psychological. Freud has a few good theories on the topic
I have to strongly disagree. He doesn't have good theories on the topic. That nut wouldn't be happy unless every man was openly in love with their mother.
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A tidbit of advice never insult a mans mother, it's a defensive topic for most men and it's a instinctive reaction, besides how do you accidentally insult a mans mother?
Did he overreact? yes he did but what you did was extremely disrespectful and rude.
Another tidbit of advice you can tell a lot about a guy by how he treats and talks about his mother. a good man treats his mother right and respectfully, and again remember don't insult a guys mother, it's not a good idea I know if someone insulted mine I'd take that quite seriously also remember that you'll be a mother one day to.
>calls boyfriend's mom hoe
>doesn't realize aforementioned hoe pushed out current boyfriend
>puzzled why boyfriend is mad
My mother was pregnant with me for 9 months, gave birth to me, protected and nourished me for many years, and always loved me. I am grown up and realize it is in good part because of my mother. If you want to be a bitch and call her a hoe, you are history.
And what kind of chicken-shit crap is that about you pretending it was an accident? That does not happen by accident.
you called his mother a whore? and you did it "acidentley" ?
I mean yeah i understnad that some people dont like their mothers but even then man its bit of a no fly zone subject with a lot of guys since they love the human being that both brought them into this world and also helped them to grow which enables such a strong type of bond in certian mothers and sons.
As for as hitting the red flag? Nope you didn't hit the red flag you 300 kicked it over and whizzed right by it acording to that reaction and have some really big making up for it.
I mean think about it if it was a role reversal about a family member you held really dear and they insulted them, you would hate it i would assume.
UHM.
You fucked up.
He didn't overreact.
He didn't hit you. You should thank your lucky stars. Its obvious he has a good relationship with his mom and if you were a good girlfriend you'd probably know this.
Its your fault.
Someday maybe you'll be a mom, and you'll have a little boy and he'll have an SO who thinks you're a bitch. Would you agree with her? I guess you should, because you're being one right now.
Right on!!! right on!!
so defensive because you called his mother a hoe?
get real. if a girlfriend called my mother a hoe she'd be my ex-girlfriend soon after. it's not that he's being so defensive but you rather you called teh woman who brought him into this world a sex worker
you owe him an apology and you need to grow up
If you ever have a son you'll understand as you will want to be the only and most important person in his life, you'll hate most of his GF's cause they remind you of your flaws, and try setting him up with nice girls that he hates, lol you'll see one day why he acted that way.
u Yes, you did. You never EVER insult a man's mother, even jokingly. She carried him and gave birth to him. She was the first one to love him and set the standard for the kind of women he should have in his life. There is a special and inseparable bond between mother and son.
Oh come on, because if I called my girlfriend's mother a hoe it would all be cool, happy and dandy?
You messed up. Simple as that. Most guys in my experience take more offense at insults towards their family (entire family, not just mothers) than insults towards their person.
How do you "accidentally" call someone's mom a hoe? If someone called my mom a hoe even jokingly, I'd take it personally. Not as personally/aggressively as he did, but still, I'd tell the person off.
The both of you were out of line.
Depends on how you said it. Did you say it jokingly or sternly? Personally I wouldn't like my girlfriend saying that. If she said without seriousness I'd take it easy and be like 'whatever' and let it go. Since you and him were "joking around," yeah he got too butt hurt.
Um who the hell calls their SO's mom a hoe?
Yes he over reacted but what you said was just incredibly stupid...
I second this^^^
You done goofed.
Never, never, never, EVER say anything bad about someone's mother. Once upon a time, that used to be grounds for an honor duel to the death.
WTF! i would be pissed too. That is no way to speak about your boyfriends mum. I mean come on peeps where is the respect in this generation!!!
@Applefan1 I know. It's terrible. I mean come on!! the word hoe/bitch/slut is thrown around like it has no significant weight these days -.- everyone thinks it's okay to say it. I hate it. I hate it even more that she called his mom that. Sheez.
what kindve trash doesn't love and protect its parents?
probably some white trash from back grass of nowhere.
id leave my wife if she didn't respect my parents.
white america has an issue and its not taking care of parents when they get old... double edge side of individualism and overly pushing independence...
my borhter is a couselor and tells me mental issues common with certain groups etc...
lol i like how both A and B imply that you are defensive about your mother as a guy. i am not. you can talk all the shit about her you want. i don´t care.
in my opinion this is mostly a problem for turkish/arabian guys. not european or American so much.
Your question should be does my boyfriend have anger problems. Almost came to blows? That's disturbing.
Quick question: Why'd you call his mom a hoe?
Most guys are sensitive with their moms though.
@fondue I'm not crying anger problems. You don't have to get so defensive. I'm sure other people on here told you he acted out off place.
There are different extremes of anger problems, but if he goes around kicking and breaking doors... well that's a problem. If it's only happened once, I'm sure it will happen again in the future.
Well defending my point would require me to get defensive lol. If you have a problem with my rhetoric, well then. Its just that you're the first one that tried to attribute his kicking the door off its hinges to an anger problem and I replied with my opinion, that I did plan to defend. Though honestly I've lost all interest in this.
Yeah, OP, you should definitely be worried - of you call his mom a ho again, he might kick your face in.
@fondue Yeah, OP, you should definitely be worried - of you call his mom a ho again, he might kick your face in.
Didn't understand a bit of that...
No problem with your "rhetoric"
If he's breaking things he can't control his anger. Point blank.
Also, shitty poll. It's biased and isn't clear.
Wait, are you the qa?
If not half of my responses were worded improperly.
Basically all I'm trying to say is anger problems don't have to mean you kill someone or pull weapons out at the littlest thing.
It's not being able to control your anger and acting on impulse, which he did.
The only thing wrong with that bit directed towards OP is it should be "if" instead of "of". Sometimes I don't catch the typo but usually people are able to substitute the correct word in without prompting so I assumed you would be able to as well.
No, I'm not the question asker. Which is why I refer comments to op. Original poster.
And as vigilant as it is to assume everyone that expresses their anger has anger problems and should be regarded treated like they might up and start beating things, it's also possible that people can express anger, in different ways, and it's not necessarily an anger problem.
As I said, a lot of first responses is to knock someone's teeth out. It could stem from overprotectiveness. Unless OP provides other examples where she thinks he flew of the handle then I really just don't care anymore.
@fondue
If and hoe
You assumed I'd be able to decipher bad grammar so you didn't change it?
"expresses their anger" Breaking things isn't a healthy way to "express your anger"
being over protective isn't a good thing if it leads to such behaviors.
You're making excuses for unhealthy behaviors
Well a hoe is a gardening tool and the use of hoe and ho really depends on the person. It's slang. I'm not really concerned about your ability to problem solve when you come across grammar slipups.
Breaking things can be therapeutic. That is why there are places where people go just to break stuff.
Lol, I'm honestly going to chalk this up to differing of experiences. Because it's quite obvious your experiences and opinions of anger problems are different than mine. Forged in different fires so to speak. You think getting mad and kicking things really hard is an anger problem. 👍 I'm saying that anger problems consists of more than just getting really mad and acting on an impulse - OP gave no indication that there were more incidences where she felt unsafe to be around him, just this once. After calling his mom a ho.
Uhm... I'm going to really need to disagree with you then. Because things don't always escalate. Things can be isolated incidences.
She called his mom a ho, he got mad, kicked something really hard, scared her, now he has anger problems. Alright. Until OP gives indication that he's flown off the handle before, I don't think he has anger issues. You may, and you're entitled to your opinion. I really don't care anymore. This is getting repetitive. I'm outtie.
@fondue If he can't control his anger in this one situation, what makes you think something else won't trigger it?
I guess I should have said "things often escalate"
I don't know what your idea of anger problems are, but kicking doors in definitely should be one. Point blank he couldn't control his anger impulse.
Bye :)
I guess the problem is not about why men are so sensitive about their mothers. The thing is you should not joke with anyone like saying their mother a hoe under any circumstances. Its about manner and respect.
The woman that has had a chance to brainwash him from birth is typically going to have a much stronger hold on him than any other woman. The exception is with guys that hate their mothers, which most women prefer to avoid.
Yeah, that's a bad idea. There is a difference in joking around and being serious and some people can take a joke or a tease and others can't but until you know for sure which one he is its best to err on the side of caution.
You hit a red flag. If a guy insulted his girlfriend's Dad, she'd be perfectly entitled to call him out on it.
That said, hitting the door so hard one of the hinges came off? Seems a OTT.
I wouldn't generalize lol... some people hate their mothers...
i'd save a stranger over my mother ANY day. people can call her a hoe any time lol... it just tickles me to actually picture that.
I thought of you when I saw this question lol
Mhm.
You'd be sipping vodka*
Overdue I'd say
I think he went over the top kicking the door off it's hinges, but you shouldn't insult his Mother and suggesting that men who defend their Mothers should "grow up" shows what an idiot you are.
I don't know that's a natural instinct I suppose. Guys are naturally defensive as far as that topic is concerned.
The only jokes that are appropriate are 'yo mamma'. If you called any of my family members hoes, I would have asked you to leave!
Because that is their mom. WTF?
Although I think he definitely overrated.
You're an idiot if you even have to ask this question. So disrespectful!
u Watch how a guy treats his mother because that's probably how he will treat you if you become LTR.
even though I don't really like my mother, its best you stay away from insulting her. I'd probably fight a stranger, and only punch a friend.
Sorry but if i was in his place i would have probably done worst.
what a rude thing to joke about. has nothing to do with men.
Nobody should insult anyone's mother. Moms are special people. He's right to be defensive and you are in the wrong.
We born from a woman. She hug us, give us milk, kisses us, help us sleeping...
They basically are in the top.
Then... depends of his personalitty. Some can handle jokes, other's really feel it.
You don't call somebody's mother anything unless they have said it first
I would be ticked too if you called my mother a hoe, not to sound like mommy's boy but she is a very respected and distinguished person in my life.
It's like calling the queen of England a hoe.
He overreacted, but talking shit about someones mom is something 12 year olds do
You were rude. He loves his mother and is protective of her. However, kicking the door like that was an over the top reaction from him.
Your boyfriend needs to stop being sensitive and grow up. He sounds like a mommy boy not someone that is independent.
I would get mad too. Ain't nobody gonna disrespect my parents like that. You should apologize 100x over.
Lol most men are, i would be very careful in the future. Also don't make fun of their parents. sibling are a grey area.
Well, how would you like it if someone called your mom a hoe?
I would like to think that not only men are protective of their own mothers, tbh... -.-
because there's no stronger bond than the one between mother and son
I wouldn't appreciate someone calling my mom that either. How do you "accidentally" call someone that, I don't get it.
How do you ACCIDENTALLY call someone a hoe?
is his mother an actually hoe or was it just a joke
Looks like you have a mummy's boy on your hands.
Maybe it's true or he been thinking the same.
Yes he went OTT but you still shouldn't say that.
You both come off seeming really childish here.
There are some lines you just don't cross...
What are you jealous of his mom?
Yes. Mother's are a sensitive topic to men.
I have no care since I only have two daughters.
was the joke at least funny?
U accidentally insulted his close blood?
My mother is a dumb cunt. =/
If I were in his place I'd never know you again
You were in the wrong 100%,.
Bros before hoes bro
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