Is It Manly To Raise Somebody Else's Kid?

[fonduegirl]

say

in this scenario

your wife cheated on you and you forgave her but then you come to know about the pregnancy

what'd you do?

[madgoat]

It is said that no-one respects a step father and that there is a lot of responsibility without the respect and authority.
You are also committing your resources as a man to someone else's genetic material. A difficult value proposition.
If it's a mixed family (some kids are his, some not) there may be natural favourites which will lead to problems.
Can work. He will probably love it. May resent it.
But fraught with difficulties. You both need to go into that one with your eyes wide open and be honest from the start.

[RealMarek]

I knew a guy in that situation. His girlfriend got pregnant and wanted him to “do the right thing” and marry her. Turned out she was a druggie. As the baby grew a bit he became aware his wife had a boyfriend and the kid looked like him. He realized the baby would be in danger if left with his drug addicted wife and her drug addict boyfriend, so he told his wife that he would not sue her for fraudulent marriage if she surrendered full custody of the child to him. She didn’t care about the baby, so agreed. He gave the child a stable, healthy upbringing. People might call him a cuck, but I think what he did was mature and manly. He might have been fooled, but he restored order to a very disordered, chaotic circumstance.

[AviatorTom]

The important thing is what's best for the kid. If the man forgave his wife, that's a sign that he loves her, and the two of them could be good parents together. For everyone's sake, it would be good to treat it as if he was the biological father. I'm sure this situation has happened in the past.

[Avicenna]

That is not manly, that is being a pathetic cuck. Kick the cheater to the curb and let her suffer the consequences of her stupidity.

[SnowedIn]

You raise the child and you love them. I hesitate to say manly because I don't believe there's extra masculinity in that but there's an oil tanker worth of humanity in it.

[DarkLegacy]

No you do not, you should not raise the child or love it.

[the_sinner]

I’d say it’s manly to raise someone else’s child only when I’m in love with a woman who had a child from her previous marriage/relationship.
But In this scenario I’d never raise the kid. Although it’d hurt me to talk to my wife about abortion or about leaving her but I can never raise a child who’s born because of cheating and extramarital affair.

[realeyeofthetiger]

'Manly' is maybe the wrong term. 'Honorable' sounds a better fit. Is it honorable? If they do it for chasing honor then its for all the wrong reasons. It really depends on what the guy wants. He is completely in the clear to end the relationship and take no responsibility of the child. If there is a legitimate reason to forgive the wife (I think in such scenarios it seldom is), then sure it would be honorable for him to look past the grievances and take care of the kid.

[MementoMori777]

if raising someone elses kid is manly then ima just

[Billlewis]

I don't know if it's manly, but that's my ultimate goal, to marry a woman who is pregnant with another guy's baby, and raise her child as my own, while she keeps me strictly celibate at all times.

[Averageguy69420]

No I'd say it's the opposite in this scenario, like being a step dad is manly because you love the mother and child. But in a cheating scenario I say leave her and let the other guy pay child support.

[MysticDevice]

In that senario I wouldn't have anything to do with them. Unless the situation was dire.

Its the parents' duty to raise the kid. If I'm not the parent I'm taking to first train to New Orleans. (Arlo Guthrie song reference)

[AdithyaR]

That's a tough question.
On one sidex the kid is innocent and I don't want them to suffer.
But I sure as hell wouldn't stay with my partner or forgive her.
I'd divorce her but make arrangements for the kid.

[Andres77]

I’d like to know who the guy is.

do we already have kids together?

[BlackJeep]

It is definitely not manly in that scenario and that man needs to get a paternity test for any other kids. He needs to kick her to the curb

[dreamstar72]

Something like this would be to put it bluntly plain stupid for all involved.

[DarkLegacy]

No it isn't it is simp behaviour, i would never do it or forgive her and neither should any guy

[call_me_scar]

Not in that way no, if she was already a mother when they met then yes

[EstevanMadrid898]

Nope that's a bitch thing to do I'll leave her and leave her fast and hopefully I didn't have kids with her

[shortster]

Raising kids is manly; forgiving a cheater is unmanly. So in this scenario it is a wash.

[TallAnon]

Nope, fuck that.

[Rohaan2020]

No way