In General, Are Men Who Are More In Touch With Their Feminine, Emotional Side, More Attractive To Women?

[Physics-Man]

Yes

No

[Anonymous]

Saw several women vote no on this. At least they are honest.

I am 100% hetero but I am unfortunately more sensitive/emotional than the average guy. This made my dating life an absolute living hell when I was younger.

But I always had my masculine side. I love combat sports and controlled violence. I have always been 100% self reliant financially and solve my problems on my own. I might ask for advice and moral support. But I know it’s on me to fight my own battles.

However most women don’t like feminine behavior in men. Most will not tolerate a man who is just as sensitive or more sensitive as them. A man can have sensitive moments but they need to be resolved quickly. A man can’t afford express his emotions with no ultimate resolution. He can’t express them for the sake of expressing them “to feel better” like many women do.

He has to show ultimate resolve to persevere from his issues. But the shitty thing is sometimes a man is dealing with horrible circumstances he has no control over. Sometimes he really is powerless to resolve certain issues. For example I was raised by a very controlling and abusive mother. I Can forgive her for what she did but I wish to God she would own up to it. She knows she did wrong but refuses to acknowledge nor apologize for what she did. That makes me hate her in the present moment. She thinks that admitting wrong means she is “admitting defeat”. Her ego won’t allow her to think otherwise.

However I have accept it but it’s very hard. It’s okay if women have daddy issues but it’s not okay for men to have mommy issues. However as a grown man I am not allowed to openly express my emotions about that. Women can and not lose face but men can’t.

Anyway I am fed up with women who say “they like that”. The cold and brutal reality is women see sensitive men as other women not real men. They don’t really like men who act that way. They just feel relieved because they are often frustrated and jealous that men seemingly have better emotional self control than they do. It’s a trap to take a woman’s opinion that it’s “good” for a man to be emotional. It’s definitely great for the friéndzone but not for attraction.

[OG956]

I feel the same as you (at least with the first part about being more sensitive than others) and it also effects my life always.

[Opinion Owner]

@OG956 you have to accept and find effective means of controlling it. Dump out your emotions privately and discreetly.

[coachTanthony]

Many women will say yes but we all know once those tears start to flow or you get too emotional it's a huge turn off for women and they will look elsewhere for their rock that won't break.

[dynamicyandere]

In general? No.



Women tend to want men who are strong in all aspects: mentally, emotionally, physically, etc.


BUT, women also want men to not be emotionally oblivious. To know themselves. To understand their own emotions and the emotions of others.


Every woman wants a man with high social intelligence and emotional intelligence.


But, that needs to be well-balanced with strength and the ability to have reign over their emotions.


For them to know their own heart and emotions, but carry themselves with strength, discipline, and the ability to stay in control of themselves.


Like, a soldier can love his brothers in arms, he can love his family back home, he can feel all those things, but if he is in the middle of a battle, he needs to also know how to keep all of those emotions in check, so he can remain calm and focus on what he needs to do.

[TooHot2Care]

Yeah dude, that’s not true….. what got me laid when this girl I was on a date with was dancing with other people wasn’t staying strong. It was telling her I’m leaving because I was pissed.

She went out chasing me in a tiny dress and no jacket in COLD winter weather.

I called her an idiot for walking out here wearing nothing and gave her my coat.

She then proceeded to jump me in the store we went to.

When we went to my place? I jumped her.

It was a good night.

Girls like our strengths, but they like our flaws too.

[dynamicyandere]

I wouldn’t say what you did was really a flaw.

You felt disrespected, and you had the confidence to let her know that you weren’t going to tolerate this, and that you were strong enough to walk away.

You didn’t NEED her and you weren’t desperate.

You put your foot down by not having it.

The weak thing to do would be to let her walk all over you or to get insecure and start acting weird because you think she’s going to leave you for someone else.

But nope. You were willing to reject what you did not want and you were willing to go after what you did want.

You spoke your mind, unafraid and unconcerned with how she may react. You were authentically you.

You passed her sh*t test, and she gained respect for you.

So in my eyes, you still were demonstrating strength.

To be strong doesn’t necessarily mean be on ‘good’ behavior, haha.

Strength is strength, whether you’re the hero, the villain, or something in between.

[Belgie]

No. Women used to claim this back in the 80s. Nearly a full generation of men took them at their word and the 90s saw the numan girly man come into vogue, much to womens initial joy.

Then to their silent shame and horror they discovered girly men made great shopping buddies and gossipy pals, but they just weren't sexually attractive. So shows like Queer Eye became famous and the ladies of Sex And The City lusted after 80s style masculine men and hated themselves for it, and confessed that attraction as if it was a sin that betrayed the sisterhood.

[Shamalien]

women are individuals. It is true that many women will say you should be comfortable expressing your emotions and being vulnerable around them, and they will almost push you to let those tears out. Then they lose respect for you. It makes me sick.

but some women you really can be vulnerable around and they will not leave you or cheat. I think the main thing is that when they are in an unstable state, you cannot cry. When they are in a strong place you can let that guard down a bit, generally speaking. Crying is healthy and you should be able to express yourself infront of your partner, but as a man we ought to play it safe and avoid that if we value the relationship

[Sensmind]

I would say it is a much closer call than people expect regardless of their vote. It comes down to many things even your interpretation which could range from "The guy is a wimp" to "The guy is in touch with his inner self".

On the surface , I would say "In General" a lot of girls/women might go for a more stereotypical male in initial encounters but for the longer term relationships most would add more value to the less stereotypical male attributes.

I think men are capable of both sets of attributes and it is a mixture of personality/experience/nurture/nature etc over a lifetime that leads to how much of each he shows. If he is lucky , he will find a partner who compliments this and brings the best out of him.

[smashleyy]

No clue about general I can only speak for myself. I think men and women both have feminine and masculine energy within us and it’s important to have a balance between the two. Too much of anything isn’t good. I wouldn’t want a man that’s too much in his feminine energy or too much in masculine energy

[sheenagwapa]

i think crying with distorted face is fine once in a while it gives the impression of the severity of the situation. when my ex cry with distorted face because i break up i feel like a criminal and i would think godh this person must have really love me because he is so affected


i saw Elon Musk seem to always cry during interviews and he looks hot. his face didn't distort.

[RingOfFire]

Don't fall into that trap. Women want a rock. They say they want a sensitive man... they may even think they do. But the minute you start whimpering like a little baby they are GONE! It's a test they use to see if they can trick you into being a wimp. They want the test to FAIL.

[Shamalien]

When in doubt I will refer to this advice. It’s just confusing cause I dated one girl who didn’t fit the stereotype but she was most likely the exception not the rule

[Sour-rose]

listen, not ALL women, i stg. If my man cries, well that means he's not a hard ass and that's okay. But if he cries to not having chocolate chips in his damn sundae, nah, this isn't a man. This is a funkin kid.

[TooHot2Care]

Girls like our strong side.

but they like our weak side too.

you can’t relate to someone who doesn’t feel like crying at a funeral.

Or who doesn’t show you that doughy vulnerable doughy eyed side in their weak moments.

remember? English Bulldogs look vicious and their snaggle teeth look scary.

but their eyes look doughy and are constantly telling you they want affection.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Being in touch with your feminine side doesn't necessarily mean crying like a bitch.
Being good with kids, compassionate, caring for animals, having good fashion and being an overall decent guy could be considered in touch with your feminine side. All of which women find very sexy.

(And I don't care what feminists and morons say, that shit is feminine)

[LazerBean]

This very much. Every guy like you just described that I know have been very popular with the ladies.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Indeed 👍

[nolabels]

I've been very emotional lately due to severe, chronic pain.

My wife gets pissed off at me about it.

I tell her she's welcome to climb into my body to experience the pain at any time.

She still gets pissed and yells at me to calm down.

Like that works.

[FreyaRed]

I would never trust a guy who cries regularly

[inhua]

no. they are not seen as attractive but seen as disgusting regardless of the validity of their emotions

[UniquelyBasic]

As long as you show you are emotionally stable majority of the time most women won't have an issue with a guy being vulnerable.

[Dargil]

Depends what they want. A man like that is easier to control and manipulate; to blackmail, emotionally.

[LiamJHayden]

I have only anecdotal experience from which to pull, but in that experience, no. The women I know tend to friendzone that type of guy, not date him.

[cth96190]

The weak soy boys are Democrats.
Not even Democrat women want to fuck Democrat men.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Yet here I am married to a left wing woman

[Wild_princess]

I really wanna date someone who know how to show emotions...

[TruthBringer]

I can guarantee 100% that the same women who voted "yes" are the same ones who wouldn't be dating these men themselves.

[Summeroflove]

I wouldn’t call it a feminine side…. Emotions are human. Also… a woman worth her salt is nurturing so.

[CaptainSmartass]

Nope. They're only attractive to certain guys, if you know what I mean...

Simples...

[JuniperGray]

Yes, as an emotional person, it’d be nice if my partner was emotional as well ☺️

[smahala1991]

It's called being human, showing emotion should be supported, and healthy mental health should be supported regardless of gender.

[KrakenAttackin]

The "feminine" side of men did not land men on the Moon. Women want masculine men.

[Exterminatore]

Yes, especially the ones who can menstruate and get pregnant as those are now social constructs. Yeah. That’s the world we live in now.

[Twalli]

Some women vehemently dislike men like this, but most don't. I remember one girl dumped her boyfriend because he cried in front of her when his mom died.

[Chthou95]

Fuck no. And any dude that believes this lie needs help

[Anonymous]

Love how the majority of votes are from men and not women...

[Opinion Owner]

Why are the men in this comment section speaking for Women?
I personally like a man who's in touch with his feelings as opposed to one who's not.
More sensitivity can mean he'd be more of an Empath and men are often times not that empathetic
I need empathy and understanding in a partner

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn't want to suppress his emotional side as no human deserves that

However "feminine" is not appealing to me. Don't want a man who yelps every time he chips his nails or insists on coming to the salon with me

[TheSpaceGnome]

Emotions aren't feminine, and typically emotional people like emotional people.

[Anonymous]

I don't think so, unfortunately, most girls like "bad boys".

[Anonymous]

Yes, i like such men.

[poetic_pisces]

I admire men who show their emotions

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. Just look at Ed Sheeran.

[marish01]

Crying has nothing to do with femininity.

[Anonymous]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Only good women.