Do you consider rejecting people because of their race or gender identity racist and transphobic?

[Anonymous]

People have been accused of being racist for having preference on skin colour, religion or culture. What do you think

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It happened to me, i got called a racist for saying my preferences and then told i had no right to reject them or even deny being a racist

[NaultD]

You can reject anyone for zero reason. That's nomal.

You open your mouth shoving your prejudices to make fun of them for your entertainment is just showing people who you are as a bigot.

That's why we have the fifth ammendment. Say sorry it's not going to happen and not say more than needed judgment gets harder. lip off too much, people pick up clues and piece them together. Creating a more solid judgment.

[DextroShade]

Preferences don't make you a bigot. I would never date a trans, and no amount of whining, shaming, or accusations of bigotry could change my mind either. I also wouldn't date a black woman either.

[jennifer_bloom]

It’s okay to reject a group out of personal preferences as long as your rejection is not based on categorical hatred or prepackaged animosity towards others for unknown or unaccounted traits, and it’s based on preference and not ignorant disgust.

[Spongebobssocks]

No I think people can have whatever preference as they like. You can't force attraction. But friendship is different

[Spongebobssocks]

Update: ignore those clowns. And move on. :)

[Alli39]

I mean, gender is a maybe because I do have my own sexual preferences after all. Being rude about it? No. Having that be one of the reasons I'm not attracted to them? Possible.

Rejecting on the grounds of race is pretty lame in my opinion. Like assuming the implication that their race is the only thing you don't like about them (ex. you find them physically attractive, their personality is good, etc), then rejecting on the grounds of race is pretty fundamentally racist. On the grounds of ideological/religious/cultural differences, sure. Be polite, but those are valid reasons not to date someone. For example, I personally would struggle to date someone with strong religious values simply because I'm not religious or spiritual and don't relate well to those ideals.

[Asker]

Yeah it is not racist bu whatever

[Alli39]

I mean. If your rejection is purely on the grounds of race (not looks, cultural incompatibility, etc but the actual social classification of the person) then yes, yes it is. Like if you were to say "I don't want to date people of a certain skin tone, weight, etc" I'd say "well that's pretty superficial of you, but ok, your loss for the people you might be overlooking", but if you were to say "I don't want to date that person because they're [insert race here]", then that would be racist.

[Asker]

Not isn't and thats that, if so then it is lookist to reject because of looks and ableism to reject because of disability

[Alli39]

I mean by definition, make a negative judgement on someone purely on the basis of race is racist. I'm not sure what to tell you lol. That's how the word works.

And lookist is a new one for me. So I guess you could argue that, but then I think we get back into the territory of what is it ok to be attracted/unattracted to in the first place.

[msmissydc]

Preference is not acceptence. You are totally fine with having personal preference. Not accepting others is different though.

[slatyb]

Rejecting people as a romantic partner? That's just attraction. No one has an obligation to date anyone else.

[menina]

No, it's a matter of preference. Unless you mistreat people of different races and/or transgender people.

[Anonymous]

i go by the theory everyone has a personal preference and often that does mean excluding some people cause of race or other reasons

[JCT666]

In terms of dating? No, it's not racist nor 'transphobic.'

[LiamJHayden]

Romantically? Nope. People like what they like.

As individuals? Yes.

[Anonymous]

There’s no such thing as homophobia. There are just normal heterosexual people and the deviants who want to make them feel bad for not clapping when they twerk for your children.

[kylee2437]

Having a preference is not racist, however fixating on why you won’t date a certain race is racist.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Yes.