Why do I hate everyone and hate being around them and when they come near me?

[redskulldangerzone64]

I hate everyone but tolerate people I need things from but never hang out with anyone as I hate people and hate socializing too much and hate being around them and when they come near me. Why have I always been like this?

[dynamicyandere]

It sounds like socializing is very unpleasant for you and perhaps troublesome or tiring or draining. Or perhaps all of the above.


You’ve very likely an introvert that is extremely picky about who you enjoy spending your time with.


And in this case, you don’t enjoy spending your time with anyone. At least not yet.


As an introvert, I’m quite picky with who I want to spend my time with as well.


To get though life, and do well in life, I’ve become quite good at socializing.


But, when I want to relax and not feel drained, I do prefer only spending time with a much smaller pool of people.


You used the word ‘hate’ though, which is a pretty strong word.


I suppose it’s because you’ve experienced interacting with people that have mistreated you or mistreated others, and you haven’t experienced enough of the opposite.


Kindness, goodwill, and altruism is hard to come by.


The world is full of people who are selfish and self-serving. And many people hurt other people and take advantage of people. So many of the world’s problems could be solved if only more people just cared about each other and practiced empathy.


It’s easy to become cynical.


I won’t lie, I’ve become more cynical too as I’ve begun to see how cutthroat the world can be — how it can really feel like a dog-eat-dog world sometimes — witnessing the evil people are capable of.


But, to balance that out, I’ve also experienced the good in people as well. Genuine sincerity. Real selflessness. True empathy. And love.


I believe that perhaps you’re in this state of hating people because you haven’t experienced enough of the good in people.


Your bad experiences probably outweigh your good experiences, so much so that you’ve come to resent people in general.


If you want to change things though, I’d say the main things to change are who you surround yourself with and how you perceive things.


You can look for communities or people or friends that you actually enjoy being around, who are good for you.


And I’m terms of perspective, you will often always find what you focus on. So, if you always focus on the bad and expect the bad, you’ll find it. But, if you focus on finding the good in situations and the good in people, you can find that too.


So if you want things to change, then I’d say change your circle and change your focus.

[Anonymous]

Honestly same.