Why do I cry and start shaking when I witness people getting into physical fights?

[Alwayreckles93]

Am I the only one here on this earth who hate it when people get into physical fights? Is it because I'm am getting old or I am just so used to being around other Christians like myself that I am no longer used to that kind of environment. Two of my employees of course all college girls got tehmswlfs into a physical fight over some dude I brust in tears I had compulsive shaking. I call the police of course the one that ended up in the hospital was me instead of my two employees even dough they did get a few scraches. I had high blood pressure I hate fights I can't stand fights. I feel I was even in an awkward weird situation. Am I the only one who hates fights? Why did I reacted that way?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a trauma response, honestly. Sounds like sometime in your past (maybe when you were very young) you witnessed fighting like that. Maybe strangers, maybe friends, maybe your own parents. And you're having a sort of PTSD response when you see similar fighting now.

I had a similar reaction to something different, but it was actually a pretty mild and recent event, so I was able to process and move past it with just a few weeks of counseling.

[Alwayreckles93]

I love peace and peaceful environments. To give you an idea I dont even vote Im not into politics because it creates conflict aurguemnts. I don't like that. I believe we should all have peace in our lifes. Maybe I'm justcweird odd one here. I never understood why do people have to fight? I always perfer silence because it doesn't involve fights or arguments. I guess Im just weird like that. I dont get why people love watching boxing etheir its a fight.

[Alwayreckles93]

I am iverly sensative.

[Alwayreckles93]

*Super sensitive.

[Opinion Owner]

Being sensitive isn't bad. But having that kind of uncontrollable shaking and crying happen, that's not just "sensitivity." That's something deep inside you making you react that way.

[Alwayreckles93]

Well not sure so to say unless I a professional therapist tells me so.

[Opinion Owner]

I would recommend checking on that, yes. Even if it turns out to not be PTSD, it's still something that there are steps you can take to help manage and minimize it.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Is that only in person? How about MMA, boxing, or completely fictional films where the fight is staged?

I seem kind of opposite in that fights are kind of thrilling for me, but maybe unhealthily so. I probably should be a bit more shocked and upset. I might be desensitized from it having watched so many action films and the like and being a fan of martial arts and boxing.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I also remembered now that you had a very rough childhood. Perhaps it reminds you of your parents fighting?

[Alwayreckles93]

They did aurgue a lot my mom usedto hit my dad but they're divorce now that took place decades ago. Which I find it very weird.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I often think a very strong emotional reaction like this might somehow be related to a childhood trauma of sorts. There might be something in your past that evokes it.

[Alwayreckles93]

For some reason I have a hard time remembering some time period in my childhood or teenage years. I just weird like that I am not sure. I enjoy outdoor nature amd walks and small towns I am not a city person ethier.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I have some blanks as well. For example, after my parents divorced, my father moved to Yokohama and I stayed with him for a year while my mother moved to the US. Yet I barely remember that period in Yokohama. It's like pages torn out of a book. I remember some years prior and years after so much clearly, but that one year is like a blank.

[Alwayreckles93]

Yeah I ca relate some what to your situation.

[Alwayreckles93]

Do you happen to have some flashbacks at times?

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Little fleeting moments here and there that play back like short video clips although I'm never sure if they happened in Yokohama or I mixed them up with something else. My memories tend to be unreliable in terms of location and chronologically.

For example, I could swear I watched the Evil Dead remake together with my wife in Tokyo before we married and were just dating and told a story about it on GaG. Then I looked up the time of release and it's 2013. I was already married then. So we must have watched it on a date in Kyushu but I was so shocked since I was so sure it was in Tokyo and much earlier.

[supercutebutt]

January 6th, 2021 must have been rough for you. I was really upset that day. Goons bashing cops on their heads with baseball bats, hockey sticks and flagpoles. All because of lies told by an orange fatso. :(

[Alwayreckles93]

That was horrible dreadful day. See this why In my world the silent treatment is the best choice but now a days people are overly obsessed with fights. Im not sure why.

[Pinkandgirly]

You must get over yourself!

What are you going to blow me off here as well?

When are you going to stop with the whole silent treatment.

You must forgive.

[OlderAndWiser]

Some violent trauma in your childhood?

[Sameone]

It's just you have nice heart
And nice person 😊

[Alwayreckles93]

You are very kind. Yeah I do attend to be very sensative.

[Sameone]

Aim also like you i don't like when i see people fighting or even by talk
I don't like Violence
But i don't cry 😅

[Alwayreckles93]

Your lucky lol I have a hard time holding my tears back I just brust our crying. Lol

[spoole]

You are unaccustomed to violence. Your nervous system is not trained to manage it properly. You are untrained, so you go into freeze Mode and pee yourself maybe.

[Bklynbadboy12]

You just have zero tolerance for bullshit. I use to be like that but life changes you I've become a product of my environment and its hardened me to a point where I've become desensitized to it it's sad but true

[DJB72]

Adrenaline. It's your own "fight Vs flight" reaction to the situation.

[NewgodOmega]

Sounds like a reaction to early trauma past in your life

[Jennz6]

I’m not sure because I cry too

[Alwayreckles93]

Girly you get me.

[Exterminatore]

I don't know. I don’t like violence outside of for sport, like boxing.

[laly520]

seems like PTSD case