What’s the deal with this?

[Anonymous]

I’m not a very judgmental person in my thirties, however, I am perceptive and realistic both about myself and others. If I ever ask for advice about someone and mention their flaws, to explain the situation, immediately I hear from the self appointed etiquette police, who, instead of focusing on the point of the question, lecture me on how all the world cares about or values is inner beauty. When they’d not be seen dead married to or sleeping with someone they weren’t attracted to? Is it stupidity, guilt, political correctness, dishonesty or a combination of everything?

[FreyaRed]

Option 1, you ask wrong people for advice
Option 2, you ask in the way they feel encouraged to derail the question and to focus on your flaws.
If the person is your mother it's option 1 and it's just desire to hurt someone because the person thinks hurting you will give them relief in their imaginary pain.

[laly520]

all of the reasons u mentioned combined
lot r too sensitive for facts

[Billlewis]

That's era we're in -- groupthink, hivemind, social governance, cancel culture, censorship, deception by omission on the part of the lying, snake oil media and guilt tripping by the holier than thou crowd. Hopefully it will pass eventually.

[Anonymous]

If that’s the reaction you get, you probably cone across as arrogant.