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why is it that i feel like i will be a terrible person if i go after what i want to study and punish myself instead? why do i feel the need to constantly prove to others that i am not a bad person for going after my dreams? can you please help me out? thank you.
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I think I need more info
specifics?
Yea.
no i mena what do you need? lol
all i feel is that i can do great things with the oppurtunities in my hands but i tend to push myself down instead.
What's the dream because of others think you are a bad person for chasing such dreams I think I should know what this dream is before giving a response because it seems even you yourself believe it makes you a bad person.
studying anythgin with stem major and then working for scientific labs. i just opress myself because i tend to do that to myself psychologically.
Why do people think that makes you a bad person? I think it's a reachable goal, if you want to achieve it then I believe you can, you just have to believe it too and put the effort to accomplish it
yeah i know but i think i am blocking myself from simply being happy.
this is the main problem.
Okay then ask yourself what is it that you really want? Because it seems like this dream is only wanted by you to get a form of validation from others, it's possible you are just lying to yourself constantly when what you want is probably something completely different, think of happiness and tell me what you really want
What would make you happy
no no i like this dream, i just dislike the fact that i stopped myself from achieving or even asking parents for specific things because i thought i would block myself from developing as a person...
Well then chase the dream and next time you think of sabotaging yourself, cut yourself off from doing so
thanks (sorry if this looked lame)
i used to think god would punish me if i chased whatever i wanted or something.
like as if i was raised in a conservative household.
Just cause you believe in science doesn't mean you have to stop believing in God, if you actually think of it science doesn't necessarily debunk God and God doesn't debunk science it actually clicks together, the difference is that science tries to debunk God to try to add logic into it when our creator and how things work outside of our universe shouldn't be expected to make sense and even less by using logic and physics that are only within our universe, science is only things that exist after being created by our creator, it's not the creator of everything so it's perfectly fine to believe in science, it only becomes contradicting when people try to use science to find answers to things they just can't, for example no one today was around hundred and even thousands of years ago, somethings are just better not known or kept wondering, also don't forget God gave you free will and I don't think God thinks is wrong to have a fascination in the things he created and how it all comes to be as long as you don't let it cloud your faith and believes in him.
no it's not a science vs god debate, it's more like if i did what i wanted to do someone would punish me for chasing any kind of dream i had.
although i am lucky not to have pushy parents that tell me studying science is "wrong"
Why would anyone wanna do that? You gotta ask yourself that, and even if they do how would that really effect you? Words only hurt if you let them.