Is it unmanly for a guy to overthink things?

[Kain6th]

I tend to overthink things a lot of the time. It's typically the woman who does that. But is it unmanly or unattractive if a guy overthinks things too?

[Lurks-a-lot]

I would like to say Yes, but only at the surface of all interactions. It seems that the least you think about things then the more likely a girl is to peg you as "interesting" and or "fun" which typically ties into how attractive you are to the fairer sex.

I typically over think and over analyze things, so from personal experience, I would have to say that it is the long run where over thinking things becomes more or less exponentially attractive. I say Exponentially because the more consistent you are with your choices, the more stable you seem to not just whoever your trying to attract, but to everyone, and Stability also plays a factor in how attractive you are (although by nature, stability is a long term thing anyway :S )

Two comparison scenarios I could give you would be the following (true stories btw)

1) There was a group of people chatting in the lounge of my dorm that I didn't know, and I happened to over here them talking about some of the High Schools that belonged to my Home town.

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- On a whim, I went over and jumped into the conversation, and as things panned out, one of the girls had came from my hometown, and we ended up cracking "on the moment" jokes on one another about how our school was better than the others. A little while later, the subject changed, so I quietly exited the conversation area, and went back to my original area.

- A little while later, the girl (with no obvious motive) goes out of her way to come over to my area and chat a little bit more with me. I haven't talked to her since then :S

-----Quick Thinking, Short term attraction------

2) A different girl at my dorm meets me one day while a few others are outside playing frisbee. She's a pretty impressionable person (she seems to get attracted to people easily), but she seems turned off at first by my tendency to constantly think too much about things.

- About a month later; one day after a conversation goes humorously hay-wire due to my over-analysis of a simple situation, she comments between laughter: "You're so adorable"

--... OK yea, that symbolizes "Friend Zone only", but still, that serves the purpose of my argument

-----Analytical Thinking, Long term attraction---------

So in conclusion... assuming that "Manley/ Unmanly" = "Attractive/ Unattractive" I'll have to say that the answer is that over thinking things is both Manley and Unmanly depending on what time interval you are referring to.

All that said, keep in mind that different people like different things in a potential significant other, so at its core, It flat out depends on the person :S

Well... that's all I gots so... I hope that helped I guess

=^_^=

[SunSeeker]

Being an analytical person is not feminine in the slightest, a lot of guys are just dumb that's all. I equate analytical abilities with intelligence. When playing chess, it pays to be analyzing how your opponent with react to your move, then how you'll react to his reaction, and so forth. As you can see, this requires a tremendous amount of mental processing capabilities. Detectives, physicists, and countless other professions REQUIRE you to be analytical, even intellectual disciplines are based analyzing evidence or relationship, i.e. analytical geometry through a cartesian plane. The human mind was designed to think, how could that be womanly?

However, the downside is sometimes our analyzing can go too far, we tend to think there is more information than what meets the eye especially in terms of human interaction but in all honesty, somethings ARE meant to be taken at face value. Therefore as you can see, the key lies in what things you should actually analyze and what things are not meant to have further information extracted.

Text messages are one thing that really boggle my mind because sometimes you read something one way but it's meaning really just depends on the tone in which it was meant to be said which is of course non-existent. However, other things can have substantial information that can be withdrawn from them, things such as gestures or slips of the tongue.

Anyway, I don't think things ever happen out of sheer randomness, meaning there is a cause to them and theoretically can it be deduced, but don't lose your mind trying when you lack a substantial amount of evidence.

[SunSeeker]

Cool thanks for best answer

[Prescribed_By_Me]

I don't think its unmanly... I never really thought of overthinking things as being a typical girl thing either though...I just thought maybe I think things over a couple of times before I do them. I don't do it a lot ...but when I do I would describe it as playing it safe lol.

So its not unattractive and its not unmanly...it could mean your self-confidence is not as high but it could also mean you have a good functioning brain that thinks things rationally and logically through before acting. lol.

[NoOneListens21]

Not to me. To me that is a blessing. kind of. lol. It's nice to put thought into things but don't let it get too out of control because over thinking things can lead to trouble.

[goflipaburger]

It's human. If it works for you, it works for me :)

[zickzack]

No! That`s my way too.

btw: I learn and learned from women and I can recommend the other men, do it too.

Especially the social thinking of a lot women it`s value to copy. It`s also a fact, that women often are more practical than men.

What can women learn from men? This can only women answering.

[theydidntnameme]

it depends. if its something personal that you're doing with yourself then it doesn't matter. but if it is something that you discuss with others and you show them how much you overthink then they will see you as not being assertive..

[WoIIie]

Overthinking is not one of the main whammies that turn a girl off.

[Aksel]

Overthinking is nerdy!

Just act on the impulse and don't give a sh*t! Unless it's something REALLY stupid!

[Pwnfrnzy]

It's called being logical. Don't worry about it. I'm the same way, I think a lot about my decisions and think of what may happen after each decision.

[Anonymouseo]

I do that too. I think it's normal though. How do you over think things? For me, I tend to be too logical about things instead of emotional base.

[naturaldisaster]

Everybody overthinks things, not just you. Its a normal trait to have.

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

I don't really know what you mean by over think but I'm pretty sure I do it a lot.

[JAZmin3]

Sometimes... It is you just have to learn when you have to think it through and when just to let go.. :) hope it helps..

[Anonymous]

lol you're overthinking this...

[TurbulentDan12]

I overthink things all the time too!

[Anonymous]

No, not at all. You can do what you want.