Do people really not wanna hang out with autistic teens/adults?

[Anonymous]

So back in high school, I started hanging out with these group of teens. I didn’t have a clique so I hung out with different types of peers. I would mask a lot. Quite frankly I masked a lot because I didn’t want my peers to know that I’m special needs or in special education.

I hung out with these three girls at school. We hung out sometime but I wound find out the hang out without me and never invite me to hang outside of school. I tried to behave like the NTs (neurotypical people) but I’m an ND (neurodivergent).

I would find quotes and phrases to act cool in front of others but the girls and my other peers seemed very annoyed and just walk away from me.

One day after couple months, the girls started avoiding me and ignoring my calls and texts. They ignored me at school. They said what’s up to others but they ignored me. They blocked me and never spoke to me again. Then a couple months ago, I found them on Facebook and i messaged the. In a group text demanding why they stopped speaking to me for the rest of our high school years. It took weeks for them to respond.

Finally got a response and one said why did I form a group message without asking and she told me off for it. Also they said the truth was that they saw me at the store with my dad throwing a huge tantrum and it was pathetic. She said they saw me and in shamed, walked away and they didn’t wanna be seen with the school’s crybaby. Why would they want someone that acts like a three year old at hangouts. I also caused a friction because I lied about being I special needs and pretending to know not my peers in sped ed. They told me to never message me again and blocked me. That’s why they dumped me. I was shocked. I had no idea they saw me throw a temper tantrum. I was 16 almost 17.
I can’t believe it. I’m so embarrassed.

Updates

1 y

I haven’t seen them since junior year in 2015-2016 school year. We graduated in 2017.

[nolabels]

I make every effort in attempting to communicate with and socially include the couple of autistic people who are in my life.

It is an extremely difficult thing for me to do.
Efforts at communication that are extended by me are rarely even acknowledged by those autistic folks.

I continue to put forth the effort, though.

Their issues are not their fault, just as some of my own personal issues are not my fault.

I try to remember to just be kind.

[Anonymous]

Who wants to hangout with a bunch of socially retarded people who make you uncomfortable as FUCK? don’t care if it’s mean, they’re socially awkward and weird as hell, I’ve interacted with them before and it’s basically impossible to communicate and understand on a normal level, so no I’m not hanging out with a bunch of socially retarded defective copies out of pity sorry, maybe you can, have fun with that.

[jahaims]

It depends on how self aware/introspective you are. You either have to learn to read social cues or find a good group of friends that will without shame point out why something is wrong or weird then you can take note of it and adjust from there.

[Christoph4er]

Sounds like you got unlucky. I work as a janitor within schools and colleges and see special needs kids mixing with others and other special needs no problem. You just need someone who will value you and treat you well