Should men have to take care of "oops kids"?

[Anonymous]

Now that abortion is unfortunately outlawed in most places, it only makes it illegal, not impossible, you just, won't have fun doing it, if you try it.

by the way, outlawing abortion, is literally an antisemitic trope. Jews believe life begins at birth, not conception. So, Christians, you're now showing your true colors, and I'll never forgive you for that.

They're going to go after birth control next, I can almost 99.9% guarantee that b. c. will be outlawed in trumps current term, as well. Not that I want it to be, but I can almost guarantee it, it will.

I posted something the other day on instagram, talking about how i, as a man, don't want kids. I never have, I never will. I'm a white, young, jewish, male, for those who care. I was talking about how, if the condom breaks, or is TAMPERED WITH, as lots of people are known to do, and I wind up getting a girl pregnant because of some sort of failed b. c. whether it be my b. c. (condoms), or hers (i. u. d. pill, etc..), that, I should then still have to take care of that kid because it's "responsibility".

The last time I checked, it's not my responsibility to take care of something, i never wanted in the first place, so, why did she say it was? If i was being paid to take care of it, sure, but, people aren't paid, to have kids

I know, surrogacy, stfu

Anyway, my point is, you can't make people do something they don't want to do, unless you're being paid to do it, and even that...

[OneViewpoint]

Sorry but you had to have sex. Something went wrong. And she got pregnant. Your fault. Her fault. No one's fault. A child is created. Both parents need to take responsibility. It's certainly not my responsibility as a taxpayer who did not fuck her. Adoption is an an option if you two can agree on it.

The one instance I'd cut you some slack is if she did something to entrap you into a pregnancy without your knowledge. But that creates the paradox of a child paying the price because his mother was a sneaky underhanded asshole. That doesn't seem fair. And good luck proving entrapment in a court.

Maybe you should stick with handjobs and blowjobs.

Most people don't want to be injured in a car accident. But when it happens, the person responsible is held accountable and made to deal with it.

[Spencer10]

Man up and do the right thing. Look after your kids. It may seem unfair she can still choose to get an abortion with out consulting you but hey lots of things in life are unfair. If you do not want the risk of having kids maybe dont have sex. At the very least make it perfectly clear to the woman before.

[Asker]

I shouldn't have to ingore having sex, to not have kids

I want to win the lottery, so i shouldn't play it. That's what you sound like right now

IDIOTIC

[Spencer10]

Well at least I am an honorable idiot rather than a smart asshole.

[Asker]

That made no sense

[blackeagle007]

Takes one to know one

[alice55]

if he's having sex then he's ready to take care of kids no excuse if you don't want kids get a vasectomy or don't have sex that' easy

[Anonymous]

Where is abortion outlawed? Much less in "most places?" That's not true at all.

[Anonymous]

It takes two to tango. Don't want to worry about the possibility of having kids? Don't have sex.

No form of birth control is 100% effective, so even if you take all the precautions, you're still accepting the possibility that something may go wrong.

If you don't want kids, and neither does she, hence the precautions, then why should the woman be saddled with all the responsibility? You're just as complicit as she is, so you should share an equal amount of the risk.

[Asker]

She's the one literally having the kid. I could just walk away from it. She has to carry it for nine months, etc..

[Opinion Owner]

So, basically you're just saying that you're a selfish, misogynistic jackass, then?

You're right, you can walk away, but by the same token, she can drag your sorry ass in front of a judge, and make you pay for it.

[Asker]

That's the point, why should we have to have kids, UNLESS I'm being paid for it

The system has failed

[Opinion Owner]

You're so pathetic, it literally disgusts me.

Grow the fuck up.

[Asker]

Just sayin'

[Crimsyjo]

If she "has" to have the kid because abortion is illegal and she's not getting paid for it then you HAVE to also help raise the kid. Of course, you can't MAKE a person look after something. Chances are you will do a rotten job of it cos you don't want to do it. Therefore - as she also didn't want to unless paid to do so - you my friend are the one who literally has to pay her to do it. Hence legal system takes your money not forces you to be a active parent.

[blackeagle007]

You sound like a virgin 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

@blackeagle007 I'm not

[Dargil]

A man should have the option of paying maternity expenses and either raising a child or paying 18 years of child support, depending upon what the mother chooses. I may not like that, but I think that is the right thing.

[Asker]

In most states, you are basically required to.

That's not ok

[Dargil]

Opinions are like... Noses. Everyone has one.

[Asker]

Yep!

[Twalli]

Clarence Thomas wants that, after the SCOTUS railing on abortion he says that the need to go after birth control next.
If you don't want kids, get a vascetomy. I did.

[Asker]

Or she can get her tubes tied. 'tf

[Twalli]

A vasectomy is less invasive, less expensive, and (in most cases) can be reversed with success in 5 years,

[DrPepper12]

Yes. Bag it if you don't want the consequences. After you finish, it's ALL her decision. 🛑

[Asker]

Yep!

[LEGENDARY4200]

They should want to because it's their blood. As far as making them I don't know about but they should feel an obligation

[Asker]

Again, I could care less

[LEGENDARY4200]

That's your choice

[Asker]

Exactly. So why did we take the choice away from women

Because Christians

[LEGENDARY4200]

Who did?

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Takes two to make it so yea

[Asker]

I never wanted it though. That's the point. Why should I have to take care of something, i never wanted

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Because you chose to have sex knowing it could happen

[Asker]

It doesn't ALWAYS happen though.

Like playing the lottery. Should I just not play the lottery, and expect to still win?

[Crimsyjo]

If the lotto includes a chance to win and a chance that you might die would you still take the risk? You can choose not to play and have neither the good nor the bad.
You can choose not to take the risk and no sex. If you choose the risk? You expect the small chance it's not gonna be the jackpot. It's gonna be the dreaded thing.

[Asker]

@Crimsyjo The good outweighs the bad, yeah, Id still do it

[Crimsyjo]

Haha yeah true. But then man up if your unlucky enough to get the bad outcome!

[Asker]

@Crimsyjo or i can just say "fuck off"

[exitseven]

Yes, it's pay to play.