Do people become obsessed because of connection or because of intermittent validation?

[Anonymous]

[ohsheeT]

People become obsessed because they don't know who they truly are. They don't know what real love is.\nBecause the first love is how you love yourself. How deep you love yourself and the boundaries you put up on love

Then you have to understand who you truly are as a human being.

When you start dating somebody, you go out and start doing things, they treat you. Well , you're happy when you're around them , and you feel good when you're around them

When this happens , people think that they make you feel good that they make you feel happy

But you have to understand you're the only person on the inside of you , they can make you feel anything happy sad

When you're with people are your partner, they open up the doors inside of you, they bring out a piece, a part of you that you have never experienced. So you think it's them, but you are the only one that can make you feel anything what you understand that And\nYou understand love

Then you will understand that everything is all inside of us. Every answer , every emotion , every feeling , and when somebody opens us doors for us by doing new things with them , it's not them that we feel it's ourselves that we feel , and when you understand this everything changes

You are energy, your energy connects with the person you're obsessed with. That becomes chemistry, which is emotion, which is a bond which can turn into love. But you have to understand You're the\nOnly one that can feel the love that you give yourself. Sure.\nThey're being nice to you. You enjoy your time with them. But they're not giving you love. You can only give yourself love

[NathanDavis]

because their brains are wired differently...

[bobalife]

It can be a combination of both or our attachment styles with what we think is a healthy relationship depending on the individual and their circumstance.

[ABitShattered]

I would liken it in some way to one who has had water after a long period of thirst. Maybe they seek that water again even to the point if destruction.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

Could be either one. It really depends whether they actually see something in that person and build on that. Or whether they see something, or THINK they see something and then start projecting onto that person.

[msc545]

Intermittent reinforcement is the strongest learning method known.

[jahaims]

It's usually lust or limerence

[CuriousMufuxka]

Don't forget about substance!

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Limerence

[Dargil]

What?