When you receive criticism, do you become defensive or do you listen?

[DarKnight36]

If the criticisms are justified and the person I'm speaking to is flawless, I'll listen...

[LuciusTheOdd]

That depends on who you ask because perception matters a lot, I would not consider what I do as being defensive, I perceived as a process of discovering where the true fault line is, And if it is truly, any fault of my own.


For example, somebody might perceive something as a failure in my reasoning when it is in truth more so my failure in communication. Taking criticism in my opinion is not simply about nodding along with what they say and going “oh your right” It’s about Finding out where you went wrong and fixing it for next time.


For example, if you have absolutely flawless reasoning, but you suck at communication you might still come off as absolutely stupid, That doesn’t mean you changed what you think that means you change how you approach expressing it.


Even if criticism is valid, there’s always the chance that they miss diagnose the issue, But the criticism is still valuable for self reflection and identification.

[LuciusTheOdd]

When I have a conversation, I pay very close attention to what I say, and I pay very close attention to what the other person says. I’m very strict with my wording which sounds like it would be good for communication, but sometimes the opposite is true.

There is a distinct variable in communication of which I lack the capability to compensate for completely, and this singular variable has the ability to completely change someone’s perception of an argument, that perception is the emotional factor.

With somebody like me who has to rely strictly on logic, meaning everything has to be cause and effect, and a simple conversation to me is more like a math problem.

Because of how emotions affect people’s perception of what is being said, the fact that people seem to have a difficult time paying attention to a conversation properly and the fact I have to use way too many linguistic tools to simplify things for people to understand them sometimes it can take forever for somebody to even understand what I was saying in the first place, especially with people who are fond of jump, jumping to conclusions.

In summary? It is not that simple, a conversation isn’t just about being right or wrong or being smart or dumb. It is also about perception, you could be the smartest man in the world but if people failed to perceive your argument as intended you will look like an absolute idiot, regardless of what you do.

[new-person]

Me I hear what they got to say and think about it. But I have a growth mindset. Some people do not like constructive criticism, their back gos up and start attacking to defend themselves. This is because they other are hard headed or have a fixed mindset

Having a growth mindset is the best, you never stop learning and are open to truth and new facts about truth. I fixed mindset, you think what you think and that it, that's all, that's the way it stays.

[MontBlanc]

It depends on the intention.

If it’s constructive, I listen, growth requires humility.
If it’s meant to diminish, I don’t get defensive , I get selective.

Not every opinion deserves access to me.

[fonduegirl]

If the other person is from the same field, sure. Like, I've seen non artists comment on my drawings negatively and I'm like, huh?

[fonduegirl]

My non artist friends are nice about it when I reply sarcastically. Not my mom though. Woman has no artistic bones but has an opinion on everything. A natural bully.

In that case, I get defensive

[DarKnight36]

So, ultimately, you have to respect a mother, but only up to a point.

[fonduegirl]

I don't disrespect her. I just stop showing her my works. It's futile

[Zack-Bann]

I tend to look at the person’s credentials before seeing how I take the criticism


I don’t believe just anyone is qualified to criticize me.


If you yourself are someone who’s accomplished in the field of which you speak I will listen


But just some random person with an opinion, I’m not interested

[Massageman]

Depends on the "criticism". My dad once told me before I tell someone how to do something or change something, come up with at least TWO ways I thought it could be done better. At least it gives ME time to think before chastising someone else. Others should try that.

[Spencer10]

I try to listen and think about it. A lot of times its how the criticism is delivered. There is a positive way to do it...

[DarKnight36]

Yes , Agree...

[Spencer10]

Even if its delivered poorly I often think about it after I have calmed down.

[noohair]

Just yesterday, I was in a zoom meeting and was criticized for an opinion. The Critic was running the meeting and arguing would have been pointless even though I thought I was right. So it was not the hill I wanted to die on so I just stood mute. Knowing I was right is good enough for me.

[ohsheeT]

If you feel something you need to say and somebody gives you criticism , and if it hurts you , then it's probably true , but if it's not true , it's not going to hurt you

[Unycorn]

I listen. I need to overthink because I dont want to let only my emotions decide. I want to proof.

Truth and emotion telling words. What ia what?

I am thankful about honest criticism.

[VioletHaze]

I listen and ponder if there is truth to it. Taking criticism and honest feedback, is something I've been praised for.

[beenherebefore]

In general I appreciate people's feedback. I'm aware I'm not perfect and people are entitled to have opinions.

[queenofcardio]

My first instinct is to be defensive but I will try and listen

[MemeSupreme]

if it feels GENUINE and not like from a place of wanting hurt me or ignorance

i listen

[Dargil]

I gauge whether the criticism is justified or opportunistic. Lots of people like to play the blame game to feel better about themselves.

[Berethor]

I don't care about receive criticism, I know that I am not perfect, but I don't like insults.

[Shy-boy53]

Unfortunately I become defensive, I know I really shouldn’t but it’s something I’ve grown up doing I guess

[slatyb]

I listen. My friends are nice, do I consider any criticism carefully.

[genericname85]

if it's legit "constructive" criticism, i will listen but that rarely happens. most stuff is just dumb insult

[exitseven]

my eyes glaze over and I am thinking about what I am going to do on Saturday.

[Alex-Snow]

I listen and try to understand where they are coming from

[AgentG111]

Depends on how it's delivered and how the person delivers it.

[drkdonbilluminati]

I ask if its really about me, mostly. then I listen to the reason. But I never expect to be at fault. 🫤

[NathanDavis]

I could do both, or more... it depends

[DarKnight36]

Those who judge without knowing are truly disabled people.

[Dullie]

Sometimes bit of both but I try my best to listen one needs to let their ego be humbled

[Anonymous]

Some people can't tell the difference between criticism and abuse. This struggle is real!

[Anonymous]

I try to listen but all I often get is more nonsense.

[Simslover92]

The older I get, the more I listen.

[CuriousMufuxka]

It depends on the criticism itself.

[tfan1]

I do both

[Anonymous]

Oh both 🙃😋🙃😋🤭