Do you think pedophiles are hardwired to like children or they pretend to be?

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Rotting Meat I see you Hunting for your new toy A new play thing who is shy and quiet Filled with innocence A kid who can't differentiate between love and lies. You say and that kid believes You manipulate and that kid doesn't see what kind of rotting meat your brain is made from. Your old toys, like myself, know that stench It's sickly sweet and turns sour when we don't consent And it's so easy to convince a kid that you don't have rotting meat for brain because someone who has never smelled real brown sugar before will believe anything sweet is sugar. So you say to that kid that you're a protector That you are good influence And that kid believes because The kid never saw a real protector before. You blame it all on God Saying that God made you the way you are But shame on you God didn't give you a license to break kids. - Aria Davis Like do you think they have some mental disability or do they lie about that? Because genuinely, how can one be attracted to someone way younger than them?

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

no one is born with an attraction to children, it's something that develops later. for people attracted children (as in pre-puberty or early stages), the main reason is brain damage during childhood that results in stunting the growth of a or multiple parts of the brain forever (generally caused by trauma to the head, psychological trauma, brain tumors, neurological disorders, etc). depending on the regions affected and how many it can cause pedophilia. there's also that some people's affection neural pathways are too close to the sexual pleasure pathways, mixing up the feeling. so they mistake natural human affection for children, for sexual pleasure. there's also people who've developped an intense fetish for children, like they could for s&m, diapers, etc as an adult, this isn't very common for people attracted to 8yos. there's people who've learned to associate children with sex and see pedophilia as normal because of sexual abuse. also a lot of 'pedophiles' actually aren't attracted to children, they do things to them because they have holes and are available, and can be easily forced, tricked or silenced. some do it for pure sadism. some use them as substitutes for adults, this is common in some parts of the world like afghnistan, iraq & pakistan where little boys are widely used by adult men for sex because they can't get sex with women or even little girls as easily because of their very rigid gender segregation. pedophiles in the west, tend to have have a low iq, a tendency to blame things on others and never on themselves, lower impulse control.

for people attracted to younger teens (12 - 14/15), it can be the same reasons as above but often it's a bit different, because they are a bit more biologically attractive having completed some of puberty and look closer to adults than do younger children. at least in our modern world with our modern puberty age onset, that attraction generally results from developping strong s&m like preferences combined with developping a solid or unique preference for a very juvenile looking body in your early or mid teens, and not having your tastes evolve as your progress through your late teens and early adulthood. it's natural for like 14yos boys to be attracted to what girls their age look like and look at porn of women that look more like them, but if that doesn't evolve, it really solidifies into an enduring preference. those two factors can be enough but usually you will need one or multiple of these factors: a lower iq, a strong desire for control and authority over a girlfriend, a disdain for women, and lack of success with adult women. and generally a belief that they will get away with doing things with minors.

for 'children' about 16-17, it's a bit different. biologically late teens are attractive, and it's not medically pedophilia. they aren't done with puberty fully, but their reproductive systems are almost finalized. it's considered immoral for other reasons. generally adults who do things with that age range in our modern societies, either don't care about the morality of it or don't see anything wrong with it, or on the contrary they like the taboo. some do it because teens can be influenced or pressured to do things in a way a 22yo wouldn't, they are less scared of approaching them because being teens they're less scary, they are more likely to be inexperienced and very impressionable and some people like that. also s&m fetishes can often result in that. also low empathy & reductive views of women. people who prefer underage older teens specifically, are usually about the same profiles as the people who prefer middle schoolers, though it's much easier to end up with a chronophilic preference for older teens than young teens for obvious reasons.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That poem is very well written. Thanks for sharing. The man who preyed on 9-12 year old me was mentally disabled. But now he is in a relationship with a woman of his own age. I think for some it is easier to trick a kid than get a women of ones own age. Watching Chris Hansen, a lot of these guys are lowlives who can't get a girlfriend. Or maybe I'm just making excuses for the guy.

Either way, I do not think they are hardwired from birth, but shaped by life experiences. I don't think it is natural to be attracted to prepubescent children. Does not make any biological sense.

I also think a lot of these pedophiles have an inferiority complex.

Gobbyjobby52 · Accepted Answer

I'd say its trauma based (not endorsing the shit they do to kids) they try to relive weird inappropriate moments of their childhood where their own innocence was snatched from them by sexual predators so for them it becomes almost like an extreme fetish they sometimes choose to live out in a very evil way.

Some of them also could have been desperate as no one their own age showed attention because they already have tendencies that many would say are degenerate in this context like being childlike and immature, largely unpopular so they find people who are between ages 15-18 where the kid is clearly still a kid and not legal but look biologically old enough to desperate creeps. Again im not endorsing it but I'm giving you a view into what they might be thinking.

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

I don't yet have any way to prove this and, maybe I never will, maybe there's NO way to prove it but, my theory is that these people had a strong love for someone when they WERE kids and either were never allowed to follow through with it or got badly rejected for it or, MAYBE were always alone and never had anyone in those years when they REALLY needed someone so, that need never went away and they're still trying to get what they never had back then by filling the void with someone else of that age.
Maybe it's even that the kid their fiddling with now reminds them a lot of someone they were in love with back then and they're still trying to make that connection with this new kid.

madhatters4 · Answer

i don't think anyone could pretend to be sexually into children and actually act on it.  and even if they are only "pretending" they're still sexual abusers

Kaneki05 · Answer

It's all hardwired, they can be helped to not act upon it but having such thoughts does not suddenly come to a rational mind.
So they're hardwired with this mental issue somewhere. Some may lie about why they like children I suppose? Or have several mindsets to why? Differences but it all stems from clear mental problems that are hardwired.
If you were asking do you think any of them are actually sane while pretending to be insane, my answer would be no.
They themselves don't realize they're in fact insane in that case, and you could argue those are the worst kinds as they rationalize and find a reason to act. Where as one who recognizes it has more chance to not act upon it.

FreyaRed · Answer

It seems it's not only sexual attraction but pathological desire to kill and destroy something innocent. Epstein case shows that if such people have impunity it's only question of time they start to kill their victims.
I think it's pathology case of anti social personalities, it's not even about real sexual attraction, it's about power that will be projected on sexual desires and attraction.

Zack-Bann · Answer

This is one of those things I am perfectly happy not knowing or ever relating to.

But even if it was a birth defect, acting on it is still a deliberate choice

I’m sure there’s some pedo out there who contains these thoughts and avoids harming a child and no one knows it because it’s not something you can guess easily

NaultD · Answer

It's not a real sexual attraction for abusers of any kind but more power over people. Complete opposite of BDSM. First rule is consent. Second rule is consent. Third rule is consent.

All to common people who are abused will abuse another to claw back the power that was takes from them. It's not a way to forgive an abuser but there needs to be a path to break this cycle.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

I think it’s mostly a power thing. I think, in a majority of cases, if a man thought he could get away with having sex with someone underage, he would. A lot of men are also fully aware of the fact that they won’t be able to get away with it, so they never do it

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Some are hardwired. Some pretend. Others are just themselves (adults who like kids) and see nothing wrong with it. Like take that Rodney Alcala fellow for instance, he didn't discriminate on basis of age.

A lot of pedophiles like Epstein and the Germans on that island in Senegal are completely functioning adults, who just happened to like children

msc545 · Answer

I don't think it's hard wiring exactly, but I think it's early imprinting, and it's exceedingly hard to reverse in any effective or lasting way. People usually inadvertently and involuntarily imprint on erotic objects in late childhood or early adolescence, and reversing that imprinting usually never occurs. This is why treating pedophilia is usually unsuccessful.

Cubus · Answer

Their minds are build differently, which makes them have such tendencies. They feel a sexual craving towards a child just like most people feel about opposite gender.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

No clue but there's only one cure for them, bullets, good thing the cure is mass produced 😂

Agape93 · Answer

They're hardwired. They're defective and cannot change, only suppress their disgusting ideas. They all need to be eradicated.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I lean towards the former.

eagle1951 · Answer

Don't know, try not to think about them

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