Former people pleasers: how did it feel to finally set boundaries?

[MissSunshine2]

To go from being a door mat to being valued and respected by people? Was it liberating, or did it feel like you lost a part of your soul at first and you needed time to unlearn the fears of abandonment triggers?

[strateguy632]

they get criticised and attacked for it. not respected. called "stubborn and selfish." if a guy tells his wife. "you just gave me a 'to do list' so now here is yours." she wanted a no-fault divorce and monthly money. and court will grant it.

[FreyaRed]

Unfortunately we need a little bit a predator instinct to functionate among other predators. Predators have often stereoscopic field of sight to estimate distance to a pray or threat. Maybe estimating distance is what predators need to learn on first hand.

[beenherebefore]

I still struggle with that sometimes but it feels empowering.

[Paige2006]

I haven't done it

[Bklynbadboy12]

Are you a people pleaser