How Do You Set Boundaries With People?

[Anonymous]

[Hobobobo]

This is a very big topic. It's actually too big for the format of this website, but I can contribute a bit of helpful information that may help you think in the right direction.

First, it's important to accurately recognize what your boundaries are. What this means is knowing how you react to different types of behavior and situations.

Once recognized, you communicate that. Communicating a boundary isn't saying "I don't like this" or "don't do this." That is a common misunderstanding.

Successfully communicating a boundary is telling a person how something will affect you with as much detail as possible and also communicating how you are most likely to respond to that situation.

I hope that helps. If you are confused and/or need an analogy or example, feel free to ask any clarifying questions.

[Massageman]

I trust everyone 100% - up to a point.

I make myself less available, not giving "instant responses" to messages. Saying "no" and sticking with it. My family comes first- some people just can't realize that, a couple of people in particular.

As soon as (certain people we know) say, "One other thing - - - ", we know THAT is a big, red flag.

[StarWarGirl]

By stop saying "Yes" when it is a "No" for you. And start saying "No" when really you don't want to do something.

If you are not clearly conveying your boundaries to others, and letting others to drag you to do what they want to do then how the boundaries can be maintained?

First start standing for yourself. Without overthinking that people might get upset with you. If they does let them. But this is your boundary. You have to have that acknowledge that yourself first.

[DishLady]

Yavo! Of course. Not everyone is meant to be your bestie… and not everyone should have access to your time, thoughts, resources etc. Setting clear boundaries is a healthy way to prevent confusing and frustrating entanglements in work and in life.

[jennifer_bloom]

I don’t force my views on people unless it is a life or death issue, but I will suggest my disagreements and repeat the suggestion and attempt to reason with others if they refute my arguments.

[Sarah2007]

Whenever i make a friend, I make sure to explain to them in a clear way about my personality and asexuality. Eventually they get used on me and get more comfy / be more free with me.

In general I'm very open and free with my friends, hence I don't mind almost anything which happens by a friend because I understand that each friend has his own ways of having fun with me.

[IslaTheWitch]

openly... a lot of people get defensive or even offended :D

[jazzy34]

You should check out this book. Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Excellent read. It changed my life and my relationships with people are healthier now. 😌

[Sour-rose]

Make it clear that they can go fk themselves and leave me alone. Because if i don't, i'm burning alive inside because I'm uncomfortable.

[Nikki1989]

Express your needs and feelings without blaming others for any insecurities you may have.

[ProbablyClueless]

I do it by clearly and concisely stating the exact the exact boundary and why I need them to respect it.

[lorenzomichael]

It’s not that I set boundaries with anybody it’s just that I set boundaries on what I will do and what I will not do. I don’t do certain shit I don’t like its that simple.

[Pet68]

I just tell them to buzz off and stop bothering me.

[PrincessC16]

I don't know. I'm currently learning.

[alice55]

I usually don't and I'm in trouble after xD

[darlingRose]

Simply how u relate with them

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Saying no or just distance yourself.

[MemeSupreme]

point a gun at them