How can I set boundaries in relationships to be respectful if I am a very open person and have little boundaries, not caring much about these things?

[field]

I think, if you're super open and not big on boundaries in relationships, setting them might feel weird at first. It's like putting up a little fence where you've always had an open field. Start by figuring out what makes you comfortable and what doesn't. Remember, it's totally fine to say 'no' sometimes. It's not about shutting people out, but more about keeping things cool and respectful for everyone.

[candycane]

If you're super open and not big on boundaries, setting some in relationships can feel a bit weird -if you answer yes, listen to me-. But it's totally worth it reallyy. Here's a chill way to start come on:

What's Your Jam?: First off, think about what really matters to you. Maybe it's your Sunday morning alone time or not wanting to text 24/7. We've all got our thing. I think thats ridicilious?

Just Chat About It: When you've got a handle on your non-negotiables, bring it up with your partner. No need for a big sit-down; just slip it into a convo. Like, "Hey, I love our chats, but I need some me-time to recharge. Cool?" Of course nope

Listen to Their Side: They've probably got their own boundaries too. Listen up and respect their limits. It's a two-way street.

Flexibility is Key: Being open-minded is your superpower, so use it. Adapt and adjust as you go. It's not about setting up walls; it's more like drawing a comfy circle around your must-haves.

Check-In Regularly: Boundaries can shift. What works now might not work in six months. Keep the lines of communication open.

Remember, setting boundaries isn't about shutting people out. It's about making sure everyone's on the same happy, healthy page.

[Anonymous]

We're no strangers to sharing
You know I love to talk and so do you (do you)
But sometimes I need to be careful
You might not like everything that I do

I just wanna respect your feelings
Gotta learn to say no

Never gonna cross the line
Never gonna make you mad
Never gonna spill your secrets or hurt you
Never gonna be too loud
Never gonna be too rude
Never gonna ignore your wishes or views ﾠ

We've been friends for a long time
You know I trust you more than anyone (anyone)
But sometimes you need to be gentle
You might not mean to offend or stun

And if you wonder why I'm silent
Don't think that I'm having no fun

Never gonna cross the line
Never gonna make you mad
Never gonna spill your secrets or hurt you
Never gonna be too loud
Never gonna be too rude
Never gonna ignore your wishes or views

We've been through some good times
You know I value your company more than ever (than ever)
But sometimes we need to be mindful
You might not agree with everything that I say

I just wanna keep our friendship
Gotta find a balance today

Never gonna cross the line
Never gonna make you mad
Never gonna spill your secrets or hurt you
Never gonna be too loud
Never gonna be too rude
Never gonna ignore your wishes or views

[MrOracle]

You need to care more about certain boundaries and expectations, because if you don't, you will get used and dumped, and will get a reputation for being a pushover, which means women won't take you seriously except for what you can give them. You'll either be Friend Zoned and used for money and/or free labor, or you'll be ignored.

Think about the man that most women really WANT - the ones they can't stop thinking about. THOSE men have rules and boundaries and expectations, and they enforce them. Yet, they're the men that women want. By contrast, women don't WANT the men that let them do whatever - at most, they use those men for their resources until they can get a higher status guy, leaving the first guy broke and alone.

You can do what you want, but you can't change how the world works.

[anon1903]

You can communicate. Easier said than done, so I'd say you need to gentle and firm about things you don't like. For instance, Sara and Matt are having sex. Sara hopes Matt tries her butt plug. Matt is straight but he doesn't mind a little compliance to his girlfriend. So he tries. It feels weird. It hurts. He tries it again, sometime later, alone. Still the same feelings. So he is upfront with her when she reintroduces the plug, the next time they're at it, "I'm sorry, darling. I know how you feel about this. I tried to arose myself with it but it's just not working. I might try it someday, or I may not. Either ways, I want us to have a good time. No plugs okay?"

[Carina0]

Yeah I believe every kind of relationship should have boundaries. Family, friends, romantic relationships etc. This is the only way to make the relationship healthy for both sides.

[SotiCoto]

Safe Words aren't just for S&M, y'know.
Honestly I believe every couple should have some means of communicating "Stop what you're doing" in a single, inviolable word.

[DreamLife7]

Why are you asking us? At 43 years old isn't it a bit late

[WhitneySnow]

I agree with your advice

[Tim2nice]

I’m like that. No boundaries for me.