How to set boundaries with my dad who is living with me and my husband?

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Hi everyone!

I married a year ago, i only lived with my parents till 13 years old and i moved to the us. Me and hubby are trying to work on our relationship and see how we can improve. My dad just moved in with us from abroad and he didn't even tell my husband that he was going to stay with us he did not even tell him when he was coming to the us.

When we discuss it my husband told me not to say anything to my dad about the fact that my dad didn't make him aware that hed be living with us and my dad even tricked me to say that he would go to a different state to livr with his brother now that he is here he's telling me he's not going over there and he's staying in our apartment.

Its not cream and peaches, we have little fights but nothing too bad but my dad is always eavesdropping and interferring, yesterday my hubby spent the whole day out after bringing up a subject abd disrespecting me and left come home around 5 left at 6 pm and come back at 9:40 ish. I was bored abd needed my 30 minutes walk so i went walking to avoid taking my fustration out on him. 15 minutes later he calls me to come inside because its too late mind you im walking in the complex then my dad calls me and tell mr to come home and keeps calling mr over and over.

My husband got petty and we argued he pushed & ran to my dad and tell him i scratch him. I went to shower my dad enter my room unlock my bathroom door and starts shouting at me.. to make it worse he's threatening to leave our house because he's saying i dont respect him like i wanted him there anyway... he even got on my husband side and told me he didn't want to hear my side of the story abd that im the problem.

This morning i got up and made breakfast i got ready. my dad ask if i was still fighting with my husband and he aksed where im going.. i said library he said he will leave the house if i go and that he's not eating my breakfast and start calling me and my family abroad to complain that i dont respect him as my dad. What do i do

How to set boundaries with my dad who is living with me and my husband?
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