When or how do you usually approach boundaries in a new relationship with someone?

[Paulalove98]

Is there a set time? Or is it usually when it feels right to have the conversation?

[caring__1]

If boundaries are important to you, it's important to address them early on in the relationship. Waiting till after the other person becomes invested will generally lead to a sense you've manipulated the situation for selfish reasons. It's a waste of time to proceed down a path that has no possibility of taking you where you want to go. It's not about judging the choices of others but determining long-term compatibility.

The way to do this is to show curiosity to understand what the other person has learned from past experiences (not specific details of what they did and who they did it with), what draws that person to relationships and what that person's ideal relationship would look like. Healthy potential partners will appreciate your interest and reciprocate by showing interest in how you view relationships. You don't want to start out by laying out your rules and regulations. Relationship guidelines are to be developed and agreed upon by both individuals. Unilateral directives generally backfire.

[Bricealan]

Never considered "boundaries' in any relationship. Not sure what you are asking with regard to establishing boundaries? Do you mean she doesn't like to be beaten during sex? She doesn't like to be forced to have anal sex. "Don't pull my hair and slap my face while I'm giving you a blow job"? WHAT?

[boggboss]

Should just come up in different conversations so it feels organic and not like you are setting out rules

[Paulalove98]

True I agree it should come naturally and not like giving someone an ultimatum

[boggboss]

Yeah thats what tends to put people on edge even with reasonable requests

[SnowedIn]

I don't think there is a set time. But if there are boundaries, soon. Before whatever that thing is.

[BJP21]

Talk about them in the dating phase. You simply just ask. "Is it ok if I do?"

[D_Bone_Steak]

usually whipping my penis out makes everything all better.

[FilmGuy93]

Boundaries are critically important in all relationships. It’s important to have those conversations freely, as the need arises.

[Jack0ff779]

when someone does something so drastic it hurts the other person

[Farmerboy2]

Never done that. Never felt I had too

[Paulalove98]

Me and my boyfriend are content and fine so far so maybe not everyone has to if they do?

[Farmerboy2]

Boundaries are meant to be pushed.

[NathanDavis]

we talk... communicate, lol

[Ms_Facesitter]

As soon as we begin dating.

[slatyb]

It's never been a problem requiring discussion.

[eagle1951]

they'll let you know if you jump to fast

[moonpie89]

I approach them early on

[Agape93]

Very early on

[CubaPirate]

When you're comfortable with the idea