How do you set boundaries in a relationship and create new ones?

[Anonymous]

And do you give your partner consequences when stepping outside the boundary; not respecting it even though they KNOW why it is placed in the first place, they KNOW how you feel about whatever the boundary is set on.. and they still do it anyway after having multiple conversations with your partner about it. Without breaking up/divorce how do you handle that? Is an ultimatum involved? How do you get your point across to really show them that whatever they are doing is either crossing the line and or making you upset because they don’t respect you.. but say and show that they care for you…

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

The easiest way of setting boundaries is controlling your reactions. Dont just follow blindly with the things they say or do that upset you. Give them the cold shoulder and give yourself sometime to cool off. Let them come to the realization the fked up. When or if they choose to salvage the situation, make your interpretation of their actions known and discuss how it made you feel.

You dont have to go from 0-60 immediately, perhaps start off with a cold shoulder and increase the distance by severity and occurrences. Only if you can absolutely not get them to comply and the situation is a deal breaker do you play your trump card; the ultimatum. Just throwing around, comply or I break up with you is very toxic, so keep in mind sometimes you may have to compromise your values to salvage the relationship.

[RoseySarah]

Well if your divorcing then it's a really big issue and was not changed or solved before so you knowingly married them with a huge often cheating issue.

But for relationships being mad for a time is a way to get your boyfriend to realize he missed up.

Sometimes it takes a week of play being mad or just a few days depends on how long till he realizes her did bad!

Now if it's touching don't let him bring you some where alone and get mad slapping his hand making a fuss and if your alone just scream no!

Few exes were to handsy and would not listen so I quickly broke up with them!

Hand under my shirt was not allowed!

[jahaims]

You verbally set them. If they don't respect you why even be in a relationship.

[Joker_]

I set boundaries right at the start