Why do girls have a hard time understanding boundaries in a relationship?

[Finchie40]

I hate to be judge mental but from my experiences with Girls’ Most girls’ are just plain out selfish and only really think of themselves, Like they want their partner to eliminate things that he enjoys in life to appease her , but she has a hard time eliminating those things for him , Almost every girl I got into a relationship with , wanted me to stop hanging out with certain friends cuz she didn’t like them , wanting me to stop going places with friends because it was guys only and she was excluded , wanting me to stop having a few beers while talking to my brother on he phone at home she didn’t feel comfortable with me being away from her, like I was going to cheat on her So I am the type of guy that puts myself in her shoes and tries to see where she is coming from , so out of respect for her I would eliminate those things for her cuz I loved and cared about her , we will talk and set these boundaries together , then she will eventually turn around and do those same things to me, acting like it’s ok for her to do , And when I confront her on it , all of a sudden I am insecure I don’t trust her , I am trying to control her, like I am this asshole controlling guy all of a sudden , so I just laugh and say fine , go do what you want to do but don’t get mad at me for going out with my friends then. Why do girls do this shit? Like what don’t you understand about boundaries? They claim they love you but don’t want to follow the same boundaries they set with you? So am I an asshole for allowing a girl to take me For granted? So that’s why I say Girls are selfish , they only really consider themselves and do not know how to remove selfishness in a relationship, so then I get pissed off because it’s double standards to me, am I wrong? Isn’t relationships based off of respect for each other? It’s shit like this that makes me feel like she is cheating on me

[NostalgiaSenpi]

It sounds as though you've chosen a selfish person. I'd say, have a talk with her, tell her you're going to do all the things you gave up for her because she's not doing the same thing for you and if she argues about it, then assess if this relationship is really worth having as it doesn't seem fair for both parties.

[BarryLiverstone]

If you build a trusting and loving relationship, then girls will understand you more and be happy when you want to do some of these things because you will also be doing things with her

[Finchie40]

I have done that man I never excluded my partner when it comes to things but girls will easily start excluding you when she meets her new toxic girlfriends that feed her head that all men are assholes , or he doesn’t trust you , she will tell her shit like you got to do what’s best for you , Come out to the bars and clubs with me and flirt with other men , fuck him he is controlling you , Girls fall for this shit all the time , but when she has a man that eliminates that stuff for her she won’t do the same for him , girl re straight out selfish people that only really care about themselves , they know that they can get any man they want by spreading her legs for him so she doesn’t respect the one she has at home , I will not commit to mother girl until she proves to me she knows how to remove selfishness period

[BarryLiverstone]

Don’t eliminate that stuff for her

[Finchie40]

I do that as well but she will still find flaws in you , it’s a no win situation period

[BarryLiverstone]

You will find flaws in her. No one is perfect. There will be times you hold her accountable as well

[Finchie40]

Yes and it’s an ongoing thing that never ends , a vicious cycle

[Agape93]

Same could be easily said of men and our boundaries. Welcome to life.

[NathanDavis]

not in my experience...

I make myself clear and people have understanding

[Juxtapose]

Why would you date such an unpleasant woman?

[Finchie40]

They are all sweet in the beginning , making you her priority, lookin up to you and treating you like you are the best thing that ever happened to her , intimacy and affection isn’t even an issue but as time goes on her true colors start to shine her selfishness glows , she overlooks what she has right in front of her when she starts making new friends or comes close with an attractive co worker or her toxic friends feed her head that she deserves better etc etc , All a sudden you are not her priority anymore , she starts taking You for granted , your feelings don’t mean anything to her anymore , she is always right and you are wrong, she doesn’t wear your shoes like she expects you to wear hers , you become her punching bag , when you try to explain to her why you are upset with her and why you have questions of concern or why she is being distant from you all of a sudden she points the finger back at you saying you are insecure you are the one that has issues , etc but she never points the finger back at herself for her actions , she starts refusing intimacy and affection with yo with every excuse in the book , she only gives intimacy and affection to you when it’s Convenient for her , but when you try to initiate it , you are constantly denied , Most girls will never see the wrong in themselves they think all men just want their dicks wet and that’s it , and think we don’t have feelings and emotions as well , Little does she realize is us men want to be loved and wanted as well , it’s not always about the sex it’s about feeling secure in our relationship with her , if we just wanted sex we would go out and pay for a prostitute , Girls always assume the worst case scenario with her partner playing a victim when really the guy is the victim of neglect and abuse from a selfish girl , The second a guy gives his heart completely to her she pushes it away because she feels no man ever truly loved her , and they are all liars , little does she realize she is the one

[Finchie40]

That is pushing him away , making him feel unloved , unwanted, not good enough , she will then go spread her legs to another guy because now she feels her partner is weak , a guy becomes weak to a girl when he loves her with all his heart , The second he walks away and throws in the towel is when she realizes what she had is gone because she choose selfishness over love , If a girl can’t make you her priority and can’t remove selfishness for you , don’t waste your time with her , she deserves to be on the streets where she belongs

[Juxtapose]

Well I have personally learned that once things start getting less enjoyable with her than my time alone, it's time to split.

I do hate how people seem so perfect for months and then they turn on you. It's gotten to the point where I expect it.

[Finchie40]

Yes we can only give so much without receiving , I am only going to walk away from a girl that doesn’t value me that doesn’t prioritize me that doesn’t remove selfishness for me the same way she expects me to do for her , bottom line , I didn’t get committed to a girl to be single I got committed because I love and care about her and want to protect her , I am not perfect by any means but I don’t give my heart to a girl just for the hell of it , I am giving my heart to her because I want to be treating the same way I am treating her , I want a girl that makes me smile that chooses me over anyone else cuz I will so do the same for her , but what i realized in most girls they don’t want that , a girl wants her cake and wants to eat it to , she doesn’t know how to wear her man’s shoes like he wears hers , Any mistake he makes or if he forgot to do something for her there is a price to pay , she will treat him like a pile of shit and neglect him and criticize and compare him, she will withhold intimacy and affection like it’s her weapon to get him to do what she wants him to do , she never points the finger back at herself , it’s always his fault , when a girl finds a guy that proves he is in love with her she takes him for granted , she can’t accept someone actually truly loving her without putting him through games and constantly testing him , when she realizes he passes every test she will still find flaws in him cuz now she looks at him as being weak , she doesn’t realize she did that to him , it’s his fault not hers , So she latches on to another guy that she feels has more confidence more
Masculine energy , she easily spreads her legs to this new guy because she is drawn to that masculine energy thinking this guy is better than the one she already has , feeling like this new guy isn’t insecure he will let me do whatever I want until she realizes this new guy is just using her for sex , then she gets a wake up call and tries going back to her partner and blaming

[Finchie40]

Her partner for the reasons she cheated like it was a mistake , the only mistake that was made was the partner actually loved his girl , and his mistake will be to accept her back into his life , kick her ass to the curb where she belongs

[Jamie05rhs]

"once things start getting less enjoyable with her than my time alone, it's time to split." 💯 Wise words for every man! 👍

[Juxtapose]

@Jamie05rhs thank you! I appreciate the praise and definitely agree.