What are your boundaries in relationships? If any?

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Wyldsparrow · Accepted Answer

Boundaries would include, but not limited to,

Finances - I don't share my wealth unless you are sharing yours too
Cheating - if you cheat on me, know we are done (no exceptions)
Communication - be open and honest
No baby mama drama - if you owe any kind of money i. e. child support it needs to be known up front. ( Anything like sharing property, etc)
Personal space - if I'm wanting my alone time leave me in peace
Parenting stuff - if I see you're being a bad parent or lacking in the dept of good parenting.. I'm going to call you out.. it will be done behind closed doors though because I will never talk to a parent in front of a child about important topics
Trust - it comes with honesty and being open

And finally respecting my decisions, beliefs, morals, or values.

There's lots to being in a relationship that needs to be discussed beforehand. Know what or who you're getting with before you get too deeply invested.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

There’s the common sense boundaries like don’t lie or cheat or mooch off of me. But a specific boundary I have is you need to comfort me when I have trauma responses - never make me feel guilty for having them, otherwise you’re headed out the door for good.

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

No stashing, no stringing, no behind-back whoopie-making.

No lying, fake-crying, nor public undermining.

No looting, no slooting, no substance misusing.

No bitchy demanding, nor any panhandling.

No knocking my level, no crap with the Devil.

Don't dismiss my merits, don't diss on my parents.

No spiting, ear-biting, and no senseless fighting.

Be most our times mild, or lest we get wild, don't ever consider you offing the child.

Be so dedicated, with loving intent;

Our home may be blessed, be it mansion or tent.

Any woman who considers these simple requests too extreme, is probably better off living with a million cats, rather than dragging me down to her alternative.

Bklynbadboy12 · Accepted Answer

No cheating and always be respectful of each other feeling and decisions

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Don't ask me for money, don't ask me to commit a crime, and don't ask me to choose between you and my mother.

PJH359 · Answer

I’m also cursed with the whole introvert thing that confuses the hell out of most girls. However there are some, usually the very intelligent ones, who totally get it and can easily live with it. I am a professional musician and songwriter by trade. So although I cannot put a number on it, I honestly need hours of “alone time” each week. Not only to maintain my sanity and recharge my batteries, but to spend alone writing song lyrics. And my only other boundary is please don’t insert anything into my butt. Not an object, not a finger, not a tongue…. exit only please.

DoctorSex · Answer

Working against acts of discipline.

Asking me to behave in indisciplined ways, which is the very nature of why you're attracted to me.

Which includes but not limited to, Asking me to stay up late.. just because.

Asking me to eat junk because it tastes good.

Asking why I'm going to the gym when I should spend time with you, when You're fully prepped and aware of my schedule.

I am not a robot, but everything in moderation. If I see excessive signs of poor discipline, you'll be hearing from me real soon.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

qwert1234 · Answer

A few:

Don't be a psycho.

Don't be a control freak.

Have a job.

Don't be a serial killer.

Don't be a manipulator.

Don't be a yes-girl.

We're together but we still need our individual selves.

I should not be your reason to be happy and vice versa, but know that we are happier together.

Your world should not revolve around me and mine should not revolve into yours.

If we are together for quite some time, we can have a joint bank account - any money outside that is for personal use.

Have common and separate hobbies.

jasco · Answer

If you go somewhere, please tell me where you are. Not because I want to tell you if you can go their or not but because I want to know so if anything happens I can have a general location. If you drink, have some common sense and not drink till you can't even control yourself anymore. Girls night is fine however idc what excuse you bring me, if I find out you cheated. We done. If we get into a argument, lets try to keep it to ourselves. Because why do everyone in your friend group need to know what we do in our relationship?

Andres77 · Answer

Realizing that relationships change over time. That expecting one person to meet all your needs for the rest of your life is unrealistic. That one will never do anything to insult or demean their partner. That even though a couple is together for life there's still a need for privacy and alone time.

If conventional boundaries are to be crossed then the other should be aware. You are both individuals but you choose to stay together every day. It's a cooperative effort. Exceptions can be allowed but love and understanding are required on both sides.

It's progressive work together.

Keepitreal007 · Answer

I’ll speak on a married standpoint since that’s where I am. I personally don’t really have any boundaries with wife. All fair game. But for her she a quite a few boundaries mainly sexually and clothes she wears. It does bug me because as husband wife I don’t think there should be any (I’m not talking extreme things making you do whatever but on a realistic level) but every person has their own comfort level and that’s okay. But because of her boundaries it’s caused a lot of heartache in our relationship but to her that’s okay. Every person and couple is different. Decide what’s right for you and go with it.

MrPickles13 · Answer

Need to build trust and be honest with each other, don't expect one partner to pay for everything. Be commited to each other. Keep things that should be private privatr. I don't think it's fair to go into detail about peoples sex lives. .
Don't be unwilling to communicate and be open minded to your partner's tbkugbts and that.

Respect boundaries srt and personal space on things like sex and such and don't pressure the other. Do t judge the. For how things beyond contorl.

I think that's all I can think off I know they aren't necessarily all nounrries and such but I think it's sort of withkn scope.

Also sorry for the poor typing.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Not much. The only thing really is don't touch my drink unless if I allow it. I'm a calm person but I will not be if someone does something with mine that's not be given permission. If my girlfriend asked me I will most likely say yes anyway but the point is not to just take.

HighValue · Answer

The restroom needs privacy. no going to the restroom while someone is showering, brushing their teeth, etc. No going to the restroom in front of each other at all.

No being friends with each other's friends or adding them on social media. We can all hang out together, but I don't hang out with her friends without her and she shouldn't hang out with my friends without me.

RavVid · Answer

What should be between us stays between and is not shared with 50 gfs. Don't share what I have shared with you, that is thoroughly breaching my intovertism and I will possibly never forgive or forget. I'm a guy and want to be perceived as in control of myself so no stories that imply otherwise.

Other than that conventional boundaries.

fonduegirl · Answer

Don't be possessive. Don't down talk my friends and family (that's my job), don't oppose my hobbies, don't be so dependent on me that I've to check you for DID or dependent personality disorder, don't IMPOSE, don't drink, don't smoke, no rape jokes etc. I've many since it's the foundation of polyamory.

bean2k21 · Answer

I absolutely do not tolerate being shot at with a stun gun or having the cops called on me just because I won't give you back your stuff when you move out.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

-Do not call my phone a million times a day
-I do not need to see you everyday unless we're married sharing the same household
-don't be insecure
-must be college educated and make a substantial amount of money a year
-no smoking yuck
-be healthy and in shape

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Great question! I will not share my man with anyone, group sex of limits. I wouldn't call it jealousy I would call it protective. I want to protect the relationship I have and keep it going strong. Involving others makes things complicated.

Guanfei · Answer

No cheating, of any sort. It starts with flirting, all the way to the big hole filling. I'm not forgiving that in any way.

Lying, I hate that. If you lie to me on one thing, how can I know you're not lying about something else?

Belittling. If you make me feel like I'm worthless, I'm out.

QuietVerbena · Answer

I need my personal space and my private time

JakeS00 · Answer

Money, if I like anyone else (obviously I wouldn't), being the slightest of shady, denying red flags that she puts up (meaning, if I were to confront her on the smallest red flags she's given me, and she denies them).

UdosUNDERDEVELOPMENT · Answer

I think every relationship be it romantic or neighbourly should be expressed with universesal love , universesal respect , universesal peace , and universesal goodness , without any harms and ills , and without any abuses and evils.

Blackcosmo · Answer

Don't pressure me to do something I'm not comfortable with, don't make me choose between you and someone else, and don't touch me sexually in public. That's all I can think of right now.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Complete honesty is a must. No cheating, no abuse. Regular engagement is extremely important. Treat me like an equal. There have to be more, but these are the dealbreakers.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I can't and won't be controlled by anyone. Don't give me rules to follow.

melanieeeB · Answer

Mostly it's definetly the obvious, like disrespecting someone (by lying, going against your will, cheating, etc)

NathanDavis · Answer

to keep it simple, committed and exclusive...  I do not do casual, or open sharing community stuff... lol

Js3522 · Answer

I don't seem to have any boundaries except a maybe, dislike them for sex,

exitseven · Answer

I try not to have boundaries. I am either all in or all out.

Staximus · Answer

I don't have much boundaries when it comes to getting to know a woman, showing a woman love, affection, etc. As far as the way she treats me, I expect the best treatment because that's what I will be trying to show her

HaveNoName · Answer

Boundaries about myself or boundaries about the spouse's behavior?

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I think my boundaries are not having relationships.

Walamagicc · Answer

For me cheating is a pretty big one oh and I had this one ex that would continue to have sex with me after I told him I couldn’t go any longer

Marshymallow · Answer

No cheating, no pressure, don’t be overly clingy, and don’t talk rudely to me.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

Pretty much don’t be abusive hold your self accountable everything else that is commonly a boundary is implied until a discussion establishes a boundary moving forward.

ManHater · Answer

I'm a screwed up liberal democrat and i think anything goes in todays world. you want to fuck a child go ahead want to rape a dog go ahead its a very progressive world and every one should be accepting towards LGBTQ Trans and pedophiles alike because they all share the same goals. LOVe and peace everyone.

no serious they should shoot all liberal democrats.

sheikalana · Answer

No cheating. Give me space. Don't blow up my phone with messages or phone calls. No lies.

MrCon10t · Answer

Not particularly. I’ve tried finding love and I’ve tried not trying. Didn’t find love either way.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't know; do I really have any boundaries? I'm a pretty easy-going person. I guess my boundary is "don't bore me."

Spiritofn · Answer

Mmmmmmmmmmm. I don't know the answer to this even though I’m in one….

Babygirl_S · Answer

I can't have premarital sex and that includes all kinds of sexual activities.

macjets007 · Answer

There are many boundaries, and every relationship must establish them eventually.

Jamesshinobi · Answer

dont touch my shit. dont look at my shit. keep your shit away from my shit.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Into building trust and honesty. So usually if you keep lying that’s a no-no

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

My respect above all. I just need my respect. I won't disrespectful her so I won't tolerate disrespectful behavior from her.

Guardian45 · Answer

My work requires me to be an extrovert, BUT I'm an introvert, so when I get home I need space and quiet alone time. More so at the week's end!

Zolly99999 · Answer

Don't cheat on me and I will be loyal to you...

Jltakk · Answer

Don't force me to do everything. Don't antagonize. Don't be condescending.

Teiwaz · Answer

No ambition, self-control, enthusiasm, dedication or lack of kindness is a deal breaker along with lying.

SpaceRainbows · Answer

No cheating Respect my family and friends THat's it

Thecubs22 · Answer

I've never thought about that. Good question?

ChiTown33 · Answer

I'm not sure how to answer this one. How do you mean?

Harleigh90 · Answer

Just don't break my heart thats all.

EaterPeter · Answer

Many, just don't touch me unexpectedly, or I will turn into yappy chihuahua

clampfan101 · Answer

I’m shy, bad at starting conversations, and bad at explaining things. Also my memory isn’t the best…

FreyaRed · Answer

My wallet belongs to me and only to me.

pastuser · Answer

i never been in a relationship i never felt the need but as i'm getting older i'm feeling the need for one

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

He isn't getting my passwords.

worldscolide · Answer

My boundaries revolve around loyalty and honesty.

bigpauly · Answer

No out powering me in front of our friends

Fuentes · Answer

If u cheat I'm out

Mgtow1990 · Answer

No bi women and no cheating

nawtee_me · Answer

if you have trust issues stay away...

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