In modern dating, are beautiful women or exceptional men really the prize?

Question

Imagine a 10/10 beautiful girl you will recieve endless interest from guys right.

Imagine a guy tall, lean/slim, educated, rich parents/lifestyle, ambitious, fairly good looking etc.. You have everything going for you, every gift. Maybe not the best looking out there.

But - you cannot compete with the interest. This guy who is objectively 10X+ rarer than her will receive 10X less interest than what she will receive from the opposite gender.

But look how rare and special the guy is. How does it make sense?

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately, it’s very attractive women.
Here’s why… beauty is a lottery. It’s genetics and nothing more.
What makes men valuable can be taught and learned; protect and provide. More men can learn to be protectors and providers than women can be born to exceptional beauty.
This is also why we need to get back to traditional values. The women who aren’t gifted with great beauty suffer more than anyone, unless they are willing to learn to be good mothers and good homemakers. They don’t offer the genetic blessings of the women they’re competing with, but culturally they’re still being told that they are God’s gift to men. Why would a man invest in a woman who literally offers him nothing AND looks down on him for what he is and what he does?
That’s why dudes are cutting and running. We have a world chock full of 2s, 5s and 7s thinking they can move through life like 10s.
That’s not how the world works. Never has and never will.

jshm2 · Accepted Answer

Neither is the prize.

If you have a "beautiful" sports car, but its engine is wrecked, Or you have an exceptional business, but its bankrupt. Do you really have anything the unexperienced can walk into?

So called beautiful women may have all they think they have, but they lack in so much more that they either hide, or don't think about. Hence most suitors walk away as they see the shortcomings and work they will need to make right. Those that stay are just ones to make things worse for them - or both. It's the same for men.

The issues neither realise is that productive relationships are something neither has worked on, or experienced, due to their complete dedication to all else. Hence them being so ineffective at it now.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

How can he have every gift if he’s not exceptional looking. Everything can be bought except good genes

DragonDan444 · Answer

Let me be completely honest with you. In a real relationship both people are the prize. Stop following the bullshit people don’t fall in love with someone based on a checklist, while yes it’s absolutely a good thing to have reasonable standards. Nobody falls in love genuinely with looks alone some people create an image of someone in their heads but that leads to issues later on.

Sometimes quality over quantity it can be both a blessing and a curse to be extremely beautiful or handsome. But you attract a lot of the wrong kind of people as well.

If you think a woman is going to fall for your looks alone or a man will fall for looks alone you’re wrong. If you think a woman’s going to fall in love with you based on a job title, how much money you make, or anything superficial is just that. It’s a superficial relationship that will probably fail…. Life circumstance change, if you one day had to find another job are you lesser of a person? No. Financial situations change especially when children come into the picture. Looks also change.

When two people genuinely fall in love with the other person that’s a totally different dynamic then falling in love with what someone can do for you. Even in healthy transactional relationships they often fail due to lack of a genuine connection and can become one sided as time goes on.

Also LAIDES AND GENTLEMEN, never pretend to be someone you’re not to make someone fall for you. Because while it works in the short term even if you find a genuine person it will lead to resentment later on when they really get to know the real you… and it’s nothing like who they fell for. And guess what? They have every right because you’re the one who lied to them and created this image that isn’t the real you. The same will happen to you if you fall for someone only to find out later they aren’t really that person.

Attractive people are a dime a dozen. They’re everywhere. Some are good people. Some are bad. Some are good but are looking for different things as well as have different personalities. It takes time to really develop genuine feelings for one another.

NathanDavis · Answer

if you see people as prizes... you're not worth

canamlusciouslad73 · Answer

Beautful women much more so than handsome men.

Anonymous · Answer

Dumb phrasing. Beautiful vs exceptional is slanted toward how you want it.

strateguy632 · Answer

pretty women are a prize for a few years.

In modern dating, are beautiful women or exceptional men really the prize?

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