If so many men care mostly about women’s beauty when considering a relationship, then why are so many attractive women single?

Question

I see mostly average to slightly above average women in relationships, especially with hot men. Meanwhile a lot of very attractive women have trouble getting men to commit to them and can’t find a partner. This is merely just based off what I see, and I’m curious.

Phoenix-gb · Accepted Answer

Because as a wide sweeping generalisation it's not true.

Chances are, the type of guys with the confidence to hit on attractive women, will not be the type of guys who are looking for a long term relationship, likewise most guys who are, are not usually the most attractive and will pre-reject themselves because why would she want to go out with them, especially if they are used to being rejected by what you term "average to above average".

As attractive women will see themselves as high value, they will also usually have unrealistic standards for what their partner should have or bring to the table, which is another factor to the pre-rejection those with less confidence would have leading them to not approach in the first place.

All of this is also assuming the attractive woman doesn't have the personality of a dumpster fire and is someone worth dating aside from appearance in the first place.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

"Why are so many attractive women single?"

1. They refuse to "date down" (Hypergamy)

2. They come off aggressive, mean, or entitled.

3. They give no signals to invite men to flirt with them or ever make the first move, feeling entitled for men to do 100% of all the courtship.

4. Because of the first three reasons, most men don't even bother trying to ask them out. Why bother with something with a high likelihood of failure and ridicule?

I'm not even sure this is an accurate statement anyway. I've almost never seen any physically attractive women single. They're almost always with equally attractive tall men, or wealthy successful men.

hhadeshatesme · Accepted Answer

A lot of people settle for what they can realistically pull. Both genders. And just cause someone’s attractive doesn’t mean they have to or want to be in a relationship. They can simply be single out of preference

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Same reason many attractive men are single too. They’re in high-demand. They’re not good at being in relationships. They can’t settle. They having too much fun to settle.

Anonymous · Answer

Beautiful are high maintenance, shallow pillow princesses who want men to do for them so they can show their friends how well they're doing. Their relationships are attached to their self esteem. Love to her is about things and perceptions

Go for Ms. Average. She's generally decent, grounded, educated, doesn't cheat, is moral, respectful, and honest, and she's more likely to appreciate the efforts you make, say thank you, and return your effort in kind. She doesn't care what others think. She's happy and loves her man.

Lionman95 · Answer

Because most of us guys are insecure at heart. We do all those sports and stuff for a female attention.
If there is a really beautiful woman around many of us guys thinks: "She´s either taken or she´ll reject me." So we´re going for other women because we feel more secure that they won´t reject us.

GlassTop · Answer

If attractive women can’t find men to commit, then they probably have issues themselves. They are sluts, bi polar, drug/alcohol abusers, lazy, no ambition, or a million other mental/personality disorders that make them low value for long term relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

Because a lot of men are tired of the rigged game of men having to chase and do all the work in dating, while women sit around waiting to be picked. A lot of men have just settled for casual hookups and since women nowadays bring almost nothing that they used to to a relationship, many think it's not worth it to invest. Many women refuse to be womanly while having high expectations of men.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

When I see a lot of make-up (which none of these attractive women seem to can do without!), I almost automatically assume "high-maintenance personality". Add some silly expensive designer handbag into it and I am already jumping away...

Кураж · Answer

I'd assume it's because they have unrealistic expectations and there simply isn't enough men out there who would meet them.

If the upper 50% of women all want the upper 20% of men, then math dictates that most of them won't get any.

Anonymous · Answer

Because personality matters more than many women think, and simply being physically attractive is not enough outweigh a bad personality. Many attractive women are very entitled and/or don't know how to treat a man. Average looking women tend to be less entitled and willing to put in more effort in a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

"Meanwhile a lot of very attractive women have trouble getting men to commit to them and can’t find a partner."

More like a lot of very attractive women have so high standards, that barely any man will be good for them. And a lot of time very good looking and desirable men won't commit so easily either.

Nik_92 · Answer

Because of for any relationship they have many beliefs , own way of thinking and many more things that is right from their perspective but actually it may not work

CalKing715 · Answer

Because good looking women are shallow and go for good looking men, and good long men are just as shallow.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

What is prettiest often costs the most to get and to maintain, comes with the greatest number of complications and complexities, and depreciates the fastest.

zagor · Answer

I think very attractive women tend to be more cautious, for one because they can be, and also because their looks attract a lot of guys just looking for a hot one to fuck.

driven159 · Answer

because dating a woman and having a serious relationship is two different things, they say they want a beautiful woman for a wife but who do they marry

ragooo8 · Answer

It's more a case of average women being unwilling to settle for average men.

Anonymous · Answer

1. Because the women have obnoxious attitudes. 2. These women choose that lifestyle. They behave in unattractive ways and shit on men then wonder why they're single.

Anonymous · Answer

Your opinion says average, some men say hot. To women money is more important than attractive men. So if they are attractive they find out it's more worth prostituting themselves for free drinks and gifts instead of relationships

fred_durst · Answer

many men admire women beauty at porn websites , on real life , they are too lazy to make efforts to approach

Juxtapose · Answer

We actually just want someone that is not going to be more painful to us than our solitude.

Anonymous · Answer

Pretty women are single because they are entitled, high maintenance, shallow, and full of themselves.  They are good for a short time, but never a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Because the key word "mostly". Those women have no problem attracting a guy. But their repellant personality doesn't keep him for very long.

cummer6972 · Answer

The really beautiful ones usually don't have the beautiful personality

anylolone · Answer

It's because women care a lot about men's beauty and a lot of other things as well.

Anonymous · Answer

They might seem high maintenance or "out of my league". Guys want someone down to earth, not a fashion queen. If you are naturally pretty but down to earth, I can't see that as a problem.

Joshua0213 · Answer

Because if your looks are all you have to offer all you are is hookup material lol

Anonymous · Answer

The reality is real i see many good guys go for thsm but they turn them down

Recurrence · Answer

Because they’re assholes or something 🤷‍♂️

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Shitty personalities.

Jay3344 · Answer

Because women have free will

SecretGardenBlood65 · Answer

boys have fun with simple girls because

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