Why are women judged for liking older men, but men aren’t for older women?

[Badtobad]

I feel like if a 20 year old woman likes a 40 year old she's weird and has issues, but if it's a 20 year old man and he likes 40 year old women, he's cool.

[Finchie40]

Whoever is judging them is a judgmental person that thinks they know it all , when they clearly don’t know shit. And they are probably jealous as well that they like someone older instead of liking them. Like how dare you not like me but you like an older person instead? It’s jealousy for the most part. People get jealous over the stupidest things all the time , for years younger girls’s’ were attracted to older men , it’s just the way it is. Younger girls’ like a guy that she feels has his shit together and acts mature for his age that she feels safe and secure with n, and she admires his wisdom , most of the younger girls’s that showed interest in me has said this
To me as to why they were into me they said guys’ her age treat her like a piece of meat , most younger guys’ don’t want to settle down with a girl right away , he might think he does but he doesn’t , his dick is more important to him than anything else and Younger guys’ enjoy variety , when most girls’ like having a guy that listens to them and understands them , stays loyal to them and loves them , it makes her feel like she is a human being and not just some blow up doll. Most girls’ love the emotional connection she receives from an older guy that has experience, that probably learned from his own mistakes when he was younger. When I was younger I know I thought with my dick over anything else for the most part , until I realized what I was doing was stupid of me of Me to do and started treating girls’ with respect instead of just a piece of ass. Most younger guys’ aren’t looking to settle down , most of them want to get laid as much as possible thinking variety is the best thing , he is in his immature stage of life pretty much , when he gets older and he realizes his immaturity is what made all his ex girlfriends’ dump him , that’s when he realizes he has to change his ways so he can finally experience true love with a girl . That’s only if he realizes what he was doing was wrong. Nowadays it seems like girls’ are the immature ones by monkey branching men like they are just a convenience, I met so many younger girls’ that spread their legs to every attractive guy she meets , it’s funny how tables have turned. I can’t speak for everyone , but this seems to be what is happening , a lot of younger girls’s’ are immature and selfish as well , until she realizes she was being a whore and sleeping around as much as she did and realizing
Most guys’ do not want to settle down with a whore. Because he doesn’t trust her , especially if she has a reputation of getting around. If she is a good girl that just wants to experience love , she is more than likely going to go for an older guy than her because she is attracted to his maturity and feels she will be safer with him , over some guy that bounces through girls’ like nothing that uses them instead of loving them. Younger girls’ have been attracted to to older men for a long ass time , back then it just wasn’t talked about that much because we didn’t carry around cell phones with social media access. Times were different back in the day , it was pretty much accepted by everyone for a young girl to be with an older guy, for example look at Loretta Lynn country singer , she was under legal age of consent but she fell in love with an older guy that knocked her
Multiple times and raised a family together , I’m dilute people talked but it was accepted compare to how people look at it today. Look at all
These older famous celebrities dating under aged girls’ and it’s acceptable because they are rich and famous? Blows my mind on how stupid this society is

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

it is not more ok for young women to marry celebrities. Young women are just attracted to status and wealth. If you don't have that status or wealth, it would become very difficult to attract young women.

[ohsheeT]

Yes its a double standard type thing i have never understood it but maybe to a point in some cases

I've been the young guy with the older women some if the best times ever and no one could judge because I didn't tell any of my friends it took them over a year to find out

And with a younger women my friends new because it was her friend that introduce us and wanted it to happen because we both actually liked each other we weren't into it for whatever the scenarios are people think happened or do happen with older guys younger women it wasn't like that at all

But the sad part is is it when people make it their business and it's not their business they don't even know what's going on they just see something and they assume they know what's going on

So that's when I say I don't care what people think I don't just give myself to anybody it takes a special person so when people just judge I just smile because they don't have a clue what's happening they just see something and assume and think it's their right their business to get involved

[Badtobad]

Agreed, people assume shit

[ohsheeT]

Well that's the sad part is they put themselves in other people's business because of whatever they feel but the only part that matters is what the two people feel that are seeing each other

[Badtobad]

@nastyb you are ignorant, there are old pervert women like there are men going after young boys you are just biased towards the old men so you don't see it. There is lot of stigma towards boys that girls don't face, these old women get child support from these boys, use them for sex.

You are a disgusting woman and no boys need to be protected equally

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

what do you mean old women are young for young boys?

look at the marriage statistics, since how often do old women marry young men? almost NEVER

Look at the marriage data.

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

what do you mean old women are "going" for young boys?

look at the marriage statistics, since how often do old women marry young men? almost NEVER

Look at the marriage data.

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

even in the middle east, old women aren't marrying young men.

[Badtobad]

@nastyb they want to sleep with them

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

first of all, you have no proof of that.
secondly, it's not as dangerous for an old woman to sleep with a young man. young men don't get pregnant... young women get pregnant and get left as single moms.

it's safe for a young man to sleep around. not a young woman.

[Badtobad]

@nastyb it's common sense, you have cougars and milf who are the same as older men who want young women...

It's not just about pregnancy, pregnancy has nothing to do with age gaps, that's just your way to hate on older men because you are biased.

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

young men and women are not equal. The world is a much more dangerous place for a young woman than it is for a young man.

I don't care if you hate this fact... but it is true.

[Badtobad]

@nastyb oh just go away you are so annoying and toxic

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

and plus... keep your old man fetish to yourself. Realize most of us young women are NOT ATTRACTED to old men. Just because you like weak aging men erectile dysfunction, weight gain, wrinkles, saggy balls... it does not mean we like it too.

Just because you would look for dates at your local nursing home, it does not mean the rest of us want to either.

and it's fucking disgusting how you assume the average 20 yr old woman would want the average 40 yr old man.

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

i dont want old, weak aging men losing hair, with dicks that don't work...

maybe you want to date an old man who needs a cane.

MOST of us do not.

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

it is not my fault the TRUTH is so toxic to you.

the truth is the truth... and it needs to be said.

[Badtobad]

@nastyb go away, seriously you need therapy, you are sick and a misandrist, hope you never have a son or he will have a horrible life with you. You female sex predator defender, you are a creep

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

have you sex trafficked any girls to creepy perverted old men yet?

[Badtobad]

@nastyb I think you were

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

I think you are. because you are the one who loves encouraging 60 yr old men to go for their grand daughters.

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

plus, i would never be interested in an old ass man who only wants to date me just because I'm still 20. Only a fool like you would want to take that kinda man seriously.

[Badtobad]

@nastyb you are so biased, all you use is pregnancy to justify hating on old men, but it's not about pregnancy, it had nothing to do with age gaps and even if it did, there are lot of factors you are ignoring you use on older men like that apply to old women like how they use their experience and maturity to manipulate the kid. You also forgot how women make boys pay child support.

Now go away with your bullshit or ill block you you cancer

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

ok so old men don't use their wisdom and experience to manipulate young women?

so why are you still encouraging large age gaps?

[Badtobad]

@nastyb yes they do but you are the one sided always on men, you are very toxic

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

I'm not being one sided.

you're just accusing me of being one sided because you hate the truth.

[Badtobad]

@nastyb OK now please go away

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

Let's face the reality... it is much more dangerous for a woman to sleep around than a man.

i don't care if it hurts your feelings, i will continue to say it.

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

Young men are not fetishized or predatorized like young women are in society.

young women are raped, sexually trafficked, played by perverts for sex, chased by all sorts of old men who don't have good intentions.

plus, women get pregnant. men do not.

when was the last time you saw a guy get used for sex? when was the last time you saw a man get left as a single dad from an older woman that impregnated him? when was the last time a handsome young man was sold as a bride to a 65 yr old woman?

the world is a much more dangerous place for a young woman than a young man.

this is why young women need to be more protected.

[Finchie40]

@ badtobad just ignore her , she is a jealous judgmental nasty bitch, that lacks common sense

[Kassandra1994]

Wow really I had men my own age have the nerve to tell me that I am old some ecen assume jump to the conclusión that I am not a virgin they think just because a woman is 20 years old she's a virgin. I was told by men my age they want a 20 year old how I am super old. Mind you now a days in American woman are having babies at age 30 and over because of the economy , Yet according to stupid millenail men they think I will have fartelity issues inly because of my age 33, How ignorant oh they feel like I am a treat to them once I mention that I am self emploeyed they had the nerve to called me selfish. While yet this guys still live with mommas they are all mommas Boys.

[Veronika_p]

Personally, I think both situations deserve the same basic question: are the two adults happy, comfortable, and being treated well? A 20 year old woman liking a 40 year old man doesn't automatically mean she has issues, just like a 20 year old man liking a 40 year old woman doesn't automatically make him cool. The age gap can create different life experiences and power dynamics, but that applies both ways 🧚

[Badtobad]

Yes but people only judge the older man and young woman. I agree it's the same though

[Chazmatazz269]

Mostly because leftists control the majority of media. Older men pairing with younger women is more traditional, and therefore perceived as intrinsically predatory.
Older women selecting younger men is viewed as an expression of modern feminist empowerment. So much so that grown women are literally allowed to not just r*pe little boys, but then take their child victims to court for child support when they get pregnant. No joke. No hyperbole. It’s happened multiple times and NOBODY seems to give a crap.

[stevenkelly]

I think it mostly comes from double standards around age and gender. People are often more accepting of men dating younger women, while women who prefer older men can get judged or assumed to have ulterior motives. But honestly, if both people are consenting adults and the relationship is healthy, the age gap alone shouldn’t be what people focus on.

[Badtobad]

It's completely the opposite, older men are hated, older women are supported

[Badtobad]

Please message me

[MisterWack]

People find attractive what they personally define within themselves as attractive.

Some older women are hotter than some younger women, I’m sure there are exceptions to everyone’s scale.
Shouldn’t be judged, be accepted. Plus there’s a lot of kinks, sexual activities, and fantasies that are way more intense than simply liking a 18+ yr old to 30 yr old or 30 yr old to 50+ yr old. You do you.

[Badtobad]

But that's not what I am asking, I am asking why the sexist judgement?

[MisterWack]

@Badtobad If I were to guess, probably young men feeling jealous that a young woman rather have sex or get married with a older gentleman were like “it can’t be because of me, she must have… father issues.”
A lot of media consumed back in the day and word spread via bar nights, late shifts in the factory, office building comprised of men, etc. spread that stereotype like wildfire.
Now that women are in workforce, bars, and media consumed is women involved it deters those stereotypes today.

[nastyb]

there are no 20 yr old women who like 40 yr old men except for a few ones with daddy issues. I can't see how both would be able to relate at all. Plus, a 40 yr old man willing to "Date" someone as young as that... isn't with her for love. I can promise you that. He's a sexual predator. And it's disgusting how people try to normalize sexual predatory behavior.

[Badtobad]

@Finchie40 That crazy bitch is here

@nastyb my question asked for both genders, what about 20 year old men and 40 yo women? Why are you being so one sided? You sound like a misandrist.

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

because it's true. Just because you don't like the truth... it does not mean it's false.

continue protecting finchie... he wouldn't even date you at 37. you're too old for him. that's how shallow he is.

[Badtobad]

I am 29 and get out of my question

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

well you're not too far from aging out of his system.

Give it another 8 years... he will move onto a younger woman who will look better than you..

this is what you get for dating a sexual predator. When a prioritizes looks over connection.. this will be what will happen to you.

trust me, a 40 yr old would have nothing in common with a 20 yr old. he is not with you cuz he loves you, he is with you cuz you are still 20

[Badtobad]

@nasty you are a sexual predator

[nastyb]

@Badtobad

you don't have a woman's best interests at heart. And I question if you are actually a man hiding underneath a woman's account. You're definitely the type who would sell teen girls as brides to 60 yr old men in the middle east.

[Micheal6918]

Older men are often stereotyped as more established, financially secure, and experienced, so a younger woman choosing an older man can be seen as “understandable.” An older woman with a younger man challenges the traditional expectation that men should be older.

[Badtobad]

I am talking about sex here...

If what you say is true,

[Badtobad]

*if what you say is true, then the older woman and young man would be judged, but it's the opposite

[FreyaRed]

I think the fetish for young girls among old men is much more common than fetish for old women among younger men. Probably biological and societal reasons.

[Badtobad]

It's not, you see guys obsessed with old women everywhere

[FreyaRed]

Old farts who look for young girls are much more common

[Badtobad]

Prove it? Old hags who want young boys are just as common

[strateguy632]

huh? the opposite. men have 'jennifer fever'. she wants stability and old fashioned class. nothing weird. but yes that film American pie with stifler mom is hard to believe and understand.

[Badtobad]

It's not the opposite and she wants experienced man in bed too. But she still gets hate for it that young man doesn't get

[SamIam96]

There's some truth to what you're saying.

Men can like any woman. No judgement. Women liking older have daddy issues. Women liking younger are not in control of their urges.

[Badtobad]

And why is this sexist judgement?

[SamIam96]

In the west, we've had centuries of religious conditioning.

[shish_kebab]

The judging you're referring to must be coming from other women, because I can't see a guy thinking that's a bad thing.

[Badtobad]

It comes from both, usually young guys

[NewtoCalifornia]

When I was 20, if I had a 20 year old buddy pursuing women who were 40 I would think he was weird, not cool.

[Jackblue]

Believe me men are perceived as having mommy issues if they date older women. It might be emphasized with women a bit more, because of their perceived vulnerability.

[Badtobad]

I hardly see men being judged for liking old women. It's so unfair

[_Jenny_]

@Badtobad There is nothing wrong with a 20 year old guy who is with a woman who is older

[Badtobad]

And 20 year old woman with an older guy?

[Badtobad]

@_jenny_ I like it more when the 20 year old woman is with an older man

[Badtobad]

@_Jenny_

[MrChinaski]

Women's sexual choices are judged more often and more harshly than men's, across the board.

[Badtobad]

It makes no sense here

[MrChinaski]

WTF?

[Badtobad]

Why should a woman be judged for sleeping with an older man

[msc545]

Because it is assumed that the only reason a woman does that is for money

[Badtobad]

So wrong

[msc545]

Oh, I see. Women like old men for their sexual ability and for their good looks, right?

[Badtobad]

Many do, and many are golddigers

[LazerBean]

Men definitely are judged lol

[Badtobad]

The young ones are not

[LazerBean]

If you think that, is just because you don't indirect with young men.

[jahaims]

Society babies females but not males.

[Badtobad]

That doesn't make sense because if they are babied, then why do people insult the female?

[dougeats]

Its a double standard darlin'!

[Badtobad]

Stupid one

[blackeagle007]

We are judged regardless the situation